There is a post on the Internet: "Can you accept the new model of free and equal marriage and love?"
There are eight fine rules on it.
1. The man does not pay the bride price, and the woman does not pay the dowry.
This seems trendy, and it also relieves many people who are disgusted with high bride price.
If you think about it carefully, isn't this just a naked marriage, the young couple has no economic foundation, and they live together together, so it seems that it reduces the burden on both parents, but it is also quite a test for the life of the young couple.
2. Only the certificate is obtained, and the marriage ceremony is not held.
This is in line with the thinking of the post-00s, who are an independent and assertive generation.
They are disgusted with traditional etiquette, do not like to entertain people, and are very unhappy with the movement of relatives.
The thought of having to keep a smile on stage for a long time and being asked about your love history makes me feel a lot of pressure, and from this point of view, I don't have a marriage ceremony, but I can understand it.
3. Half of the money for buying a house and a car is paid by both men and women.
This can be ideal, but it is not quite realistic, because the conditions of each family are different, and the needs for a house and car are also different.
For example, if the family conditions are good, look at the school district housing in the listing area at a glance, and the other half of the family conditions are not good, what will he use to buy a house, is it because the conditions are different, do you have to give up the relationship?
4. Give birth to two children, one with the father's surname and the other with the mother's surname.
With the growth of an only child, the child follows the woman's surname, which has also become a demand for many people.
This idea is understandable, but if there is a third article as a premise, this one seems ridiculous.
5. AA system for various living expenses.
When it comes to the AA system, some post-00s may feel very rational.
Suffice it to say that this kind of thinking is naïve and difficult to make a relationship last.
Let me give you an example.
There is a trendy idea for young people, and the AA system of living expenses is agreed upon after marriage.
Both have stable jobs, one is a designer and the other is a game blogger, and both have more free time and can work from home.
It seems that they have a lot of ideas, but life is still a mess.
Because of the AA system of living expenses, both parties will inevitably have a calculation when buying things.
The girl likes to be a vegetarian, she goes to the supermarket to buy only the vegetables she needs, and the man likes to eat meat dishes, so he orders takeout by himself.
When the two were eating, the girl sat here eating vegetable salad, and her husband was behind her, eating his own chicken legs, each looking at his own mobile phone, and there was no communication during the whole process.
In addition to food, their rent and utility bills are also AA system.
In order to earn money, the girl didn't want children, so the two thought of a compromise, that is, to raise a puppy, even so, she could feel the indifference between the husband and wife, and went back to their own rooms at night, completely unaware of the meaning of marriage.
Therefore, if you calculate the money, you will lose your feelings.
6. Each supports its own parents.
This seems to be fine, but in the marriage law, it is also the obligation of children to support their parents.
The question is, there are always times when you can't get busy, and if you divide too clearly, will the other party help you when you need it?
7. Do not live with either parent.
It's very Western, and it looks very independent.
But there is one thing to note, since you have chosen to be free, then don't trouble the elderly on both sides to take care of the children, after all, the elderly do not owe their children.
8. Go back to your own home during the New Year's holidays and see your parents.
I have only one question about this, who does the child go home with?
Will children who grow up in such an environment still have a sense of family reunion?
After reading this post, netizens made a lot of noise in the comment area.
"Do you have one child? Why can't I think so much about having two children?"
"Who will take care of the children who are born, who will do the housework, and the one who looks at the children, if there is no financial resource, how can the AA system be paid?"
"What is the child's surname? Where is it fair, it is even more unfair than it used to be. ”
To be honest, such an idea can only be in love, not suitable for marriage.
When you are in love, both parties pay AA, and they go back to their respective homes during the holidays, which is no problem at all.
What is Marriage?
Marriage is a family run by two people together, and since it is a family, there is no way to distinguish it so clearly.
Men and women are inherently complementary, you can't just think about what is good for you and ignore what is not good for you, then it is not a family, but a transaction.
I think this post is very unreasonable, if your child is a post-00s, you also want to communicate well, don't let your child have such thoughts.
A good relationship must be considerate of each other, and if husband and wife can't be tolerant and understanding, then there is no need to be together.
If the man tells you that the cost is AA, even if the other party's conditions are good, the girl must leave quickly.
As for supporting parents, many young people will be only children in the future, and both parents should have the consideration of providing for the elderly, and they will definitely not become a burden on their children.
During the Chinese New Year, it is recommended to bring the old people of both sides together for a big reunion, isn't it better than going back to their respective homes?