After Cheng Qian overturned, no one was allowed to laugh at Chen Luyu

Being able to clean up narcissism and pretend to be stupid so that people don't realize it is also a manifestation of skill, Xiao Cheng is obviously still tender~

As we all know, I am a lover of entertainment gossip, and I like to make a big fuss about all kinds of things in the spotlight.

But isn't this the end of the year and the beginning of the year, every circle is busy holding the annual meeting, the stage is set up, the lights are dozen, and all kinds of characters appear on the stage, and then they vividly respond to the sentence - "Where there is a stage, there are jokes".

On January 5, at the roundtable forum of the "2023 Wind Horse Cattle Year-end Show", the host Cheng Qian single-handedly made small conversations in the industry out of the circle.

The reasons are roughly as follows:

Xiao Cheng in 93 came up and read a manuscript of "sensibility first, rationality secondary", and then was "reprimanded" by Zhou Hongyi, the founder of 360, one of the guests, in person, first said Xiao Cheng, I was about to fall asleep when you just read the manuscript, and said that the manuscript is too lyrical, but we are an entrepreneurial summit, it is useless to engage in entrepreneurship and play lyricism, it is better to focus on reality.

Then, after Cheng Qian brought out Jobs's manuscript deeds to refute it, the "old fox" Zhou Hongyi immediately took Jobs over as living material for educating young people - "Jobs said that for a real genius, you don't have to take care of his feelings." The implication is clear: I said children, come out to mix, don't be so glassy, right?

But if you really have a glass heart, how can you be said in an instant with a hard word? The more you knock on him, the more it breaks, and the more it breaks, the more it stabs.

It can be seen with the naked eye that Cheng Qian's follow-up speech has become more and more confrontational, and even escalated to a personal attack on Zhou Hongyi, his name is not called, calling him "wearing red clothes", and saying that he hopes to wear conservative color clothes (he himself wears black) to prolong his life and be healthy.

A young man who can't hide "me".

After reading that paragraph, many people said that they were so embarrassed that they cut out a three-bedroom living room. Yes, but I also have another feeling: the host is really not something that anyone can do.

On the surface, Cheng Qian's problems are stupid, glassy, arrogant and inferior. But at the end of the day, he put "me" too big.

This point has been slightly reflected in Lao Zhou Ting'er before him: when he sat down after reading the manuscript, he sat down first before the three seniors sat down, and the first question at the beginning of the conversation was completely unwilling to let "me" be invisible, and he came up and asked-"What do you want to say after listening to the young people's thoughts?"

He just read the draft, and the "young people's thoughts" here obviously refer to his thoughts before Cheng, and the idea that he can represent young people is a kind of arrogance in itself, and letting three industry bigwigs come to observe and comment on their ideas is equivalent to depicting the slightly rudimentary arrogance in bold capital.

So it was logical to be stung by Zhou Hongyi's face-to-face accusations and keep jumping up.

Maybe in the eyes of others, according to Lao Zhou's previous tone, he is already very polite on the scene, but for Xiao Cheng, who is ready to put on a big show, this old guy is very bad, and he is simply an old monster who came to smash the field.

Presumably, the image of this person in his eyes is nothing but a villain, so that later, when he was smiling on the surface and angry in his heart, he did not hesitate to ignore it, slander, curse and other almost vicious ways to fight against this old villain who threw dust on "me" head and threw rotten vegetable leaves.

But the more this is the case, the more he seems to be very tender, but he makes the old Zhou, who is immobile and chatting and laughing, very tall.

Zhou Hongyi is an old fox in the end, and he caught Xiao Cheng's lifeblood by the way while chatting with a gun and stick: I understand, the problem is "Feng Ma Niu", you shouldn't invite Xiao Cheng to be the host, he has an extremely strong desire to express himself, and he should be a speaker.

It seems to be a bit of a praise, but in fact, it hits the nail on the head - young man, you have mistaken your role positioning.

In any venue, whether it is a wedding master of ceremonies or a large-scale party as a curtain announcer, the host is not the absolute protagonist, but is precisely in the auxiliary position, carrying the sedan chair for the functional position.

Whether it is an old woman or a dignitary standing next to him, the core function of the host has always been only one - to let the guests speak and ensure the smooth process.

The reason why guests are guests is that either the authority of their identity can boost the atmosphere of the venue, or the people in the audience want to see them show their faces more and listen to them talk more, these two points determine that the limelight should be released, not your host.

is also the host, and the reason why He Jiong Xie Na's reputation is very different is here

Xiao Cheng has tens of millions of fans through self-media and has a small influence in the entrepreneurial circle, but compared with the actual performance of Feng Lun, Wang Shi, and Zhou Hongyi, this is really nothing.

They sit there not because of the number of fans and how excellent their expression skills are, but because they have been crawling in the commercial jungle for decades, not only did they not die, but they also kept their own position unharmed, which is a symbol of the status of the rivers and lakes, and it is precisely because of that status that they can speak with so confidence and weight.

So don't say that the position of the host doesn't allow you to play with them, it's really a bar, don't you have to be easily crushed?

As for being a man, self-confidence is necessary, but awe is indispensable, and you must not only pretend to be "me" in your eyes, otherwise, it will be a matter of time before you are taught a lesson. Sun Tzu said in the Art of War that if you want to win a battle, you have to "know yourself and know your opponent", but you can't just think about how good you are every day!

When vanity fascinates the eyes

Of course, Cheng Qian's "self-grasping" did not come out of thin air.

First of all, it is easy for people in the media industry to overestimate themselves and lose focus on their self-positioning, especially for a fledgling and young practitioner.

The essence of the media is to compete for attention, so the title party is inevitable, it is normal to have a certain degree of fraud in TV programs (most of the marriage programs are actors), and the gap between gorgeous and messy in front of and behind the screen is inevitable (the so-called gorgeous is mostly the result of packaging and amplification).

Therefore, "bluffing" is basically a common means of operation and industry atmosphere, and the boundaries between truth and falsehood, fiction and reality are often blurred.

As a result, practitioners who are immersed in it and have a certain right to speak can easily regard everything around them that is embellished and the volume of public opinion as their own aura.

often in the company of big names, and then feel that they are also amazing; standing in front of the camera all day long, they naturally feel that they deserve more attention; the number of broadcasts and likes is often 100,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,......000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000

It's not too normal to have the same mentality, but the problem is that most of those "I think" are delusions.

The focus of the Internet is fleeting, and there are countless examples of standing on the top of the tide today and slumping another day, and it is too early to be complacent.

Moreover, getting more attention for the show and itself can only represent the ability of a certain aspect, and it does not mean that this person can do everything, and should be worshiped in all directions, and there is no room for questioning and criticism.

Therefore, for Cheng Qian, it is better to get the pain comprehension in time than to sleep in an illusory daydream, the longer you sleep, the deeper you sleep, and the louder the roar of the overturned car will only be.

It's time to step out of the shackles of "good".

However, so many influential bloggers in various fields, why did Cheng Qian bring embarrassing performances?

Next, let's shift our perspective from generalized external causes to individualized internal causes.

There is a saying that when you see a person crazy, he has actually been crazy for a long time.

When we were students, we often said, "If I pay more attention and be more careful, I can at least take a few more points";

When I work, I will say, "If I am bold enough to fight for it, the person who will be promoted and raised will be me";

When ending a relationship, he will say, "If I were more tolerant and lose my temper a little less, everyone wouldn't be so stiff because of small things"......

But in fact, is it really possible to be careful, to strive for, and to be tolerant?

It seems to be a problem of a little more and less in a certain aspect, but it is actually a problem that is difficult to shake the foundation, and the result that seems to be irreversible is actually a qualitative change caused by the accumulation of quantitative changes, and it is a terminal display that a whole set of programs run down.

Just like Li Jiaqi, who overturned in September last year, his irritability and impatience are not just an accident, but the inevitable outbreak of some negative emotions that have been accumulated for a long time. If it is not detected early and treated at the source, it will only have to wait for the torrent to break the dam.

It's the same before Cheng. No matter what the environment, there must be someone who is easier to be honorable and disgraced, but Cheng Qian is not, the reason why he explodes when he touches it shows that there must be an old wound hidden in his personality.

Cheng Qian is a small town that climbs to a high place step by step to be a problem-solver, not that all small-town problem-solvers are like, but people who have to grab a rope and climb hard towards the "day of emergence" at a relatively young age are indeed prone to have some similar "symptoms".

Symptom 1 pulls every judgment to the severity of life and death.

Accustomed to being excellent or not as the only criterion for judging the value of one's own existence, they will think that excellence is the norm, and it is best to be excellent all the time and in all aspects to make people feel safe.

According to the separation of topics, what the old man on the other side thinks of you is his business, and it cannot form any substantive judgment against you. But it is difficult for Cheng Qian to do this, he will automatically see it as the externalization of the harsh inner parents, infinitely magnify any dissatisfaction, be highly vigilant against any accusation, and then launch a fierce attack on the other party before the greater accusation and dissatisfaction come, in order to complete self-defense.

On the one hand, he may have become accustomed to being demanded and critical, and the judgment and scrutiny of others can easily trigger this familiar feeling of being attacked;

On the other hand, he has developed a self-protection mechanism, and I think his other method, in addition to the thorns we see, is probably "secretly swear that I will work crazy to impress you as soon as possible".

All this may be an unconsciousness restoring his relationship with his parents in his early years.

If he is not at the top of his excellence for a moment, he feels uncomfortable. Sadly, it is not up to him to decide where the position of this "peak" is, which determines the vacillating nature of his personality.

Symptom 2 is as if there is a sense of confrontation with the whole world.

It is difficult to believe from the bottom of my heart that "everyone is equal", and I can't help but divide the people I meet into two kinds - "imaginary enemies" and "judges", and then often think about two things - "can I fight" and "am I qualified enough".

The answer is "yes", everyone is happy, always ready to open their arms to accept the applause of flowers, the answer is "no", fall to the bottom, but before falling, you must be unwilling to slash the "imaginary enemy" and the "judge" to prove that "I am innocent" and not impossible.

It wasn't until later that he wore red clothes to Zhou Hongyi's field for crisis public relations, and when he got up to speak, he still said "If you can't fight, join in", and still confronted, as if the other party or someone else was coercing him with lewd threats, and he never came up with a soft gesture of appreciation or cooperation.

Because I haven't learned it, I haven't developed this habit!

Look at Zhou Hongyi and Luo Yonghao again, no matter how much you scold me, no matter what moth I make, I will still be upright and calm, that kind of stability that has been refined into steel, that kind of impeccable skin and thick flesh, how can Xiao Cheng not be pressed to the ground and rubbed by them?

Calm always comes from safety, and self-chaos always comes from the feeling of being helpless, just like a person who is about to fall from a window will cling to the railing of a balcony and shout: "I'm here!

It's not that he doesn't want to enjoy the scenery outside the window, it's that his spiritual situation doesn't have that kind of conditions. I can't let go of "me" because "I" hasn't been placed yet.

Summary

Cheng Qian's self-media personality is linked to young role models, and it may be difficult for him to give up the binding of his words and deeds and the so-called positive energy slogans, refuse to lower his head, refuse to put away his edges and corners, and feel that admitting defeat will lose everything.

But from the perspective of me, who is also a problem writer in a small town, I don't care what he does for crisis public relations, but I really hope that he can admit defeat from the bottom of his heart and take "embarrassment in public" as an opportunity for self-integration, rather than a trap of being bullied by old guys.

Don't fight against Zhou Hongyi anymore, but learn to accept your own limitations, and strive to one day be as rough and thick as him, and carry the right solution.

The real strength is not the curtain wall and fear of weakness, but the courage to show weakness in public. With such flexibility, people can use themselves as a tool, switch between different occasions and different scenes, instead of not being able to let go of the obsession of self-proof superiority all the time.

Just like Dou Wentao and Lu Yu, they are not stupid, when they can pretend to be stupid for the sake of the overall situation and the functionality of their careers, they are really powerful, and they really enter the door of hosting, and they can be regarded as the talk show big V.