Text丨 Weisheng Xiaoyun
Material丨Zhang Weimin
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【叙】
My name is Zhang Weimin, and I used to work in the Emotional Dispute Mediation Department, so I have heard many embarrassing stories.
I remember one brother whose parents were old, and as a result, neither of them wanted to take care of their parents, and they quarreled over alimony.
At that time, I was still thinking that my parents worked hard to bring you up, why don't you want to care about them now?
It wasn't until I listened to what the parents' youngest son said that I knew that my parents were not wronged when they were sent to a nursing home.
【1】
Here's what I had to say from my youngest son's perspective:
We are a family of four, and in addition to my parents, I have an older brother above me.
Anyone with two children in the family knows that no matter how much food is divided, there will always be one who feels wronged, and I am the one who is treated favoritly by my parents.
When I was a child, my family was poor, and I usually couldn't eat any meat, and the only thing I remembered was the eggs laid by the old hens at home.
Once I saw the old hen laying eggs in the corner, thinking that there would be eggs to eat when the meal was ready, but when I saw the food, I was dumbfounded, or those green vegetables, and I thought to myself, where did the eggs go?
At that time, I only thought that my mother had taken the eggs and sold them, although I was disappointed that I couldn't eat the eggs, but I was not an ignorant person, the family situation was not good, my brother and I were crammed into a small room to sleep and study.
In addition, we also need money to go to school, and my parents are already under a lot of pressure, so I can't just eat those eggs because I am hungry.
Usually the eldest brother always eats very quickly, sometimes my mother makes delicious dishes, just one by one to the eldest brother to pick up the vegetables, I haven't eaten a few bites, the dish is empty, I feel aggrieved, can only eat pickles, and then heard my mother boast to the neighbors.
My youngest son is sensible and easy to feed, he can eat a bowl of rice with pickles, and the eldest son is disobedient and picky eater, you say that this is all born by me, why is there such a big difference?
I was a little happy when I heard this, and my mother praised me so much that one day my pen rolled under the bed, and I realized that there were a lot of eggshells underneath.
【2】
I couldn't figure out where the eggshells came from, but I thought it was dirty to have garbage under the bed, so I swept it away, because my eldest brother never did these jobs.
Usually at home, I feed the chickens and sweep the floor, and the eldest brother always goes crazy with the neighbor's classmates, so my mother always says that I am sensible, but sensible people always seem to be wronged people.
The next day after school, I saw the eggs again in the chicken coop, but I was so happy that I quietly reached out and touched them, thinking that I could eat them again in the evening, but suddenly I thought to myself, what if my mother sold them for money again?
In the evening, there were no eggs on the table, and I ate a little salty pickles, which also felt tasteless.
After dinner, my brother went out with his classmates again, and when I was doing my homework in my room, I remembered eggs again when I wrote.
For some reason, I suddenly wanted to see if there would be eggshells under the bed, and when I opened it, I was dumbfounded, and there were really some eggshells under the bed!
I suddenly remembered that every time the hen laid eggs, the eldest brother would eat a little less for dinner, and before dinner, the eldest brother would always hide in the room alone, and the things that he had not figured out before seemed to suddenly understand.
I said why? The eldest brother ate the egg and cushioned his stomach!
I was very angry and wanted to cry, and I even wanted to go to my mother and say that my eldest brother had stolen eggs, but it was getting late, and my mother and father were already asleep.
In addition, the eggs have already been eaten, even if it is said that the eldest brother eats it, what if he does not admit it? So I am going to wait for the hen to lay eggs next time, and then come to catch the eldest brother a positive shape.
However, the hen may be old and has not laid eggs for a long time, and that day I stared at the hen in the nest and suddenly wanted to cry, why don't you lay eggs?
Maybe it's a prayer that works, and there is one in the chicken coop when I go home at night, and I look at it more excited than the gold, and sure enough, the eldest brother is hiding in the room again before eating, and I push the door directly in, but there is not only the eldest brother in the room, but also the mother.
When my mother saw me coming in, she seemed to be a little flustered, and the eldest brother wiped his mouth, walked out calmly, and said, I went out to play, and called me after dinner.
My mother didn't look at me, she just went out, saying that she was going to cook, and that she would be upset when my father came.
When they left, I immediately climbed under the bed to see, there were more eggshells underneath, I pulled them out, there was still a little temperature, and I went back to the room with white rice and pickles for dinner, and ate it with tears.
In fact, what I care about is not the egg, it is the dish that my mother gave to my eldest brother in the bowl, it is the New Year that quietly calls my eldest brother to the kitchen to eat stewed meat, and it is the pocket money that only my eldest brother has in his pocket.
I don't understand why I'm also my mother's child, but she only likes big brother.
Later, the family conditions were not very good, and the eldest brother's grades were relatively poor, so he himself said that he wanted to go out to work with his friends, and his mother was very reluctant.
After my eldest brother left, I was still sensible, but every time the school had to pay money, I was very scared, because as soon as I asked for money, my mother kept talking about why I had to pay money, but when my eldest brother used to study, my mother gave me a lot of money.
【3】
In fact, I know that the eldest brother liked to play game consoles at that time, and my mother also bumped into him playing with the neighbor's children in front of the store, but the eldest brother asked for money to play, and she still gave it.
And I even showed my mother the notice sent by the teacher, and my mother wondered if I was asking for more money, and then repeatedly said that the family was really in trouble, and it was difficult to get the money.
When the tuition fee was to be paid for the next semester, my mother began to say that the family was poor and had no money or anything, and after the eldest brother went out to work, he didn't send money to the family.
On the contrary, sometimes his mother took the initiative to ask him if he had enough money, and he should not treat himself badly outside, and send money to his eldest brother.
So I was angry and stopped going to school, saying that I was going to go out to work, and the teacher didn't want to let me go after he found out, saying that my grades were so good, and I would have a better way out of being admitted to university in the future, and I told the teacher that my family really had no money and couldn't afford to study.
The teacher wanted to come to my house to discuss with my parents again, but I refused, knowing that my mother did not want to pay my tuition more and more after seeing my eldest brother go out to work.
After going to work in other places, I cut back on food and clothing, thinking that the conditions at home were not good, and I wanted to send some money back, and my eldest brother was going to marry a wife, and when I went back, my mother kept telling me that my eldest brother would need a lot of money to get married.
Although the boss was very good to me, the factory also needed funds at that time, so I only got two months, and I gave the money to my mother, so that my mother could scrape together it again for my eldest brother's marriage.
But it wasn't until I got married and had children that I learned that when my eldest brother got married, the family took out almost 100,000 yuan, and even the eldest brother's family bought a house in other places, and my parents also paid part of the money.
Because when I got married, my mother told me that the family had no money at all, and I didn't think much about it at the time, and I borrowed all the money around me to get married.
After marrying a wife, my wife is very smart and capable, and she actually reminded me that your parents have been working outside the home, and it is impossible for them to have no money at all.
At that time, I thought that my mother would not, although she was partial, but it was also a major event like her son's marriage, how could she be so harsh on me?
At that time, the family must have really had no money, so I went around borrowing money to get married, and after working for a long time after marriage, I paid off the borrowed money, and it was really difficult during that time.
It's still a holiday, my wife chatted with my sister-in-law, and I was playing cards with my eldest brother and other relatives, and my sister-in-law said that she had leaked her mouth.
said that the family gave a lot of money at that time, and I realized that my parents had given my eldest brother nearly 200,000 yuan before and after, and they didn't pull out a dime for me.
He also complained to me every day that there was no money at home, so I kept sending money home, and I didn't sleep that night, staring at the ceiling and thinking about what I had done since I was a child.
My wife felt sorry for me, and said that she wouldn't tell me if she knew about it, and said that in the future, we would live a good life and live our own small family.
At that time, I thought to myself, I must work hard to make money, and live my own life in the future, my parents kept telling me that I had no money and no money, and finally used the money to subsidize my eldest brother, and I was obviously the most sensible, but I ended up like this.
After that, I pretended to be hard-hearted, and when my parents asked me for money, I said that my wife was now pregnant with a child, and the family was waiting for the money, and I didn't have much money, so I really couldn't help it.
Later, my eldest brother's wife gave birth to a second child, and my mother still called me from time to time to ask for money, and I knew in my heart that she was asking for money just for my eldest brother.
So I have been resigning that the current working environment is not good, there is no money, and the wife and children at home are also waiting for money, but occasionally I still feel sorry for my parents, give them some money, let them buy more food for themselves, the eldest brother and sister-in-law have jobs, so they will not be so short of money.
【4】
I felt that I had already done what I could, but my father was old and had limited mobility now, so I discussed with my wife to move closer to home.
The eldest brother couldn't bring his two children before, so he also moved to a city closer to home, so that if he was busy, he could send his sister-in-law and children to his mother to help take care of them.
I also often buy food to go home, and my wife used to go home with me, but every time I came with my wife, my parents would only cook some vegetarian dishes and home-cooked dishes, and at most make more soup.
When the eldest brother came together, the mother cooked a large table of good dishes, slaughtered the chickens raised at home and ate them, and sent the vegetables and eggs grown at home to the eldest brother and sister-in-law before leaving.
Compared with my wife and me, my mother just instructed two sentences, not to mention the dishes, not even an egg, and said that my sister-in-law had to make up for her body when she gave birth to a child, and when my wife was pregnant, she didn't even come to see it, just thinking about helping the eldest brother take care of the child.
My wife sometimes thinks that her mother is too partial, they are all her own sons, why is she sensible when she comes to me, and even asks me for money, saying that the family does not have enough money?
The two old people don't usually buy anything, and they still have pensions, so how can this money not be enough? Isn't it just for the eldest brother's family? So they refuse to come back with me to see my parents.
Later, the eldest brother made some money by doing business with friends, so his parents rarely asked us for money to subsidize the eldest brother, but he was very busy with his business and wanted to bring his wife and children with him, so they moved to the city where he worked, far away from home.
My mother always thought about my eldest brother's family, and the only photo frame in the room was a photo of my eldest brother's family.
Until my mother was hospitalized for a fall, my eldest brother and I left work and came back, but it became a problem for my mother and father to take care of them, after all, we all have our own families, and it is impossible to stay here every day.
My eldest brother then secretly found me and said that I should send my parents to a nursing home.
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