Parents with children often look through their children's homework and exam papers to ask about their social and Xi performance. Some will even peek at diaries and check online chats. I used to think about doing that, after all, they are my children, so what's the harm?
When my child starts elementary school, I occasionally want to know how he is doing at school, which is a common concern for parents. Even so, in front of him, I pretended not to care about his Xi, but my heart was always full of contradictions. I wanted to restrain myself, but I couldn't get rid of the constant restlessness.
Like any other child, my child was afraid that we would ask the teacher about his Xi. He will only share good news and remain silent about bad results. I thought about checking his bag while he was asleep, but was afraid of how he would react if he found out. Such acts of "caring" have led to tragic consequences in some families.
There is no doubt that whether they are concerned about their children's academic Xi or social situation, parents' intentions are born of love, hoping that their children can excel academically and socially. However, casually reading their diaries or monitoring their friendships and grades neglects their self-esteem and privacy. Many parents view their children as their property and expect them to have no secrets in front of their parents, ignoring the long-term effects this can have on their understanding and respect for privacy.
In reflecting on this, I realized that children are individual individuals with their own rights and privacy. As Rousseau said, childhood has its place in life, and we must respect that. I set up a QQ account for my child, and I respected his privacy and agreed not to inquire into his personal affairs. At first, he didn't trust me very much and would hide bad grades from assignments and exam papers until the end of the semester.
Trust between parents and children is not something that can be built in a day or two; When it comes to my children's personal affairs, I always remind myself not to be an overly interfering "gibbon". Gradually, he saw that I was trustworthy, became more open-minded, and took the initiative to discuss Xi situation. After all, family relationships are one of the most important parts of life. Respecting a child's privacy is not only about nurturing their upbringing, but also key to maintaining family harmony.
It is true that children have their own thoughts, feelings, and secrets and have the right to their own privacy. This respect not only maintains a healthy parent-child relationship, but also helps foster their independence and autonomy. But respecting their privacy doesn't mean parents lack care about their children's supervision. Rather, it is a way to develop children's independence and self-management skills.
At the same time, children also need to have their own independent space, such as a separate study and bedroom, where they can do what they want freely. However, as children grow, parents also have to deal with some issues that can cause concern. For example, children may be wasting too much time in the room playing games, procrastinating on homework, or may be exposed to books that are not appropriate for their age, etc. In this case, families can set rules together, and parents can provide guidance on time management and healthy recreation choices. For some behaviors that may have health risks, parents can use monitoring software in moderation, but avoid violating their children's privacy.
Of course, even if the child does not have independent space, such as doing homework, playing, and thinking in the living room, parents should respect the child's activities and support their development. This respect is not only respect for the child's personal space, but also support for their overall growth.