Li Shuangjiang has been in the music world step by step, achieving extraordinary achievements but ignoring his family
Li Shuangjiang, an ordinary person born in a poor mountain village, embarked on the road of pursuing his dream because of his love for singing. As a teenager, he showed an extraordinary singing voice and was praised by his neighbors in the village as a "talented child".
In order to realize his dream of being a singer, Li Shuangjiang ignored his family's opposition and applied for the Central Conservatory of Music independently. His training at the Conservatory honed his singing skills and allowed him to grow from a singing enthusiast to a professional singer.
After graduating, Li Shuangjiang was assigned to work in the Xinjiang Art Troupe, where he met his future wife, Ding Ying. Love gave life more motivation, and also prompted Li Shuangjiang to work harder, and finally was transferred to the Beijing General Political Song and Dance Troupe through hard work.
On the vast stage of the capital, Li Shuangjiang's singing skills shined, his fame increased day by day, and he gradually became a well-known star singer. Especially in the 90s of the 20th century, his career reached its peak and his reputation was soaring.
However, behind the success lies the failure. For the sake of his career, Li Shuangjiang seriously neglected his family. He is busy with various performances and business activities, and has little time to spend with his wife and children.
The first son, Li He, spent his childhood in a lack of father's love, and Li Shuangjiang not only rarely returned home, but also asked his son to face the hardships of life independently. It can be said that he exchanged the achievements of his career for the loss of his family.
Li He has lacked father's love since he was a child, but he is sensible and filial
Li He often did not see his father when he was very young. Li Shuangjiang is busy working hard in the music world, and he has little time to go home. Even if he rarely went home once, he just hurried into the house and handled official business in the study, and did not have any communication with his son at all.
Whenever his mother hugged Li He to play with his father, Li Shuangjiang would refuse on the grounds that he was busy with work, and then let them leave.
The child's desire for father's love is so strong, but Li He's request is just a simple companionship and care, and he can't get a positive response from Li Shuangjiang. On weekdays, seeing other children playing intimately with their father, Li He will also feel sad in his heart.
However, through his mother's explanation, Li He did not have a grudge against his father. His mother told him that his father worked hard and needed his son's understanding and support.
Gradually, Li He learned to hide the sadness in his heart, and he began to care about his father's physical condition.
Even if Li Shuangjiang remarried and did not invite him to be there, Li He still took the initiative to call to congratulate him. The younger brother Li Tianyi made a mistake and went to prison, but Li He, as the elder brother, still gave support and relief at the first time.
Despite the lack of fatherly love since childhood, Li He did not complain, but has always been filial and obedient, which shows his excellent qualities. He understands that his father has difficulties, so he needs to be considerate and supportive.
This kind of generosity is precisely because of the careful teaching of his mother. Li He's upbringing also reflects the importance of parenting and self-regulation.
Li Shuangjiang re-examined his eldest son Li He
Li Tianyi's crime dealt a heavy blow to Li Shuangjiang's family. Seeing his son being sentenced to a heavy sentence, Li Shuangjiang, as a father, felt heartache in his heart. He traveled to various connections to reduce his son's punishment, but he was physically and mentally exhausted, and finally became seriously ill as a result.
At this difficult moment, Li He, the eldest son who had been neglected by Li Shuangjiang, stepped forward and took on the responsibility of taking care of his father. Over the years, Li Shuangjiang has devoted all his time and energy to his singing career and his youngest son Li Tianyi, and has rarely cared about the growth of this eldest son.
He suddenly realized that he had missed time with this son.
In 2020, Li Shuangjiang was seriously ill and hospitalized, and the first person to visit was Li He. Li He took care of his sick father carefully and helped him solve his worries.
Not only that, but he also took the initiative to take care of his stepmother Dream Pigeon, so that Li Shuangjiang and his wife felt the warmth they had not seen for a long time.
After experiencing these things, Li Shuangjiang finally realized that his eldest son Li He, who had been neglected by him, was the son he was most proud of. He was diligent and empathetic, and was his father's best "backer" in his later years.
If it weren't for Li He's care and companionship, how bleak and lonely his old age would have been. Recalling the mistakes of these years, Li Shuangjiang couldn't help but redden, and felt deeply sorry for his eldest son.
Parents should reflect on parenting methods as early as possible
Li Shuangjiang's life can be described as a dramatic life from the trough to the peak to the abyss. He reached the pinnacle of his life because of his love for singing, but his family also broke up because of his upbringing.
In his later years, he received the support of his eldest son Li He, which made him reflect on his actions and inactions over the years.
Facts have proved that there are obvious differences in Li Shuangjiang's parenting methods for his two sons, which also leads to the different personalities and lives of the two sons. He doted on his young son Li Tianyi excessively and lacked discipline and restraint, which caused Li Tianyi's various negative problems.
As for the eldest son Li He, he didn't talk or ask, and asked for independence, and as a result, he cultivated a good son who was sensible and obedient.
As parents, we should all learn from Li Shuangjiang's experience. You can't be like him, pampering one child too much and snubbing another child too much.
Parents should observe the personality characteristics of each child at a very young age and adopt a targeted parenting style. We should not let go-faire when dealing with wayward children, and discipline should be strengthened; For well-behaved children, they can let go appropriately and cultivate their independence.
In addition, parents need to constantly reflect on and adjust their parenting methods. Children will have different problems as they get older, and parenting methods need to keep up with the times.
Comprehensive use of appropriate care, strict requirements and civilized constraints to make children grow up healthy and happy. When it is found that the method may be wrong, parents should adjust it in time and not be stubborn.
Li Shuangjiang's story teaches us a profound lesson. As parents, we should all care for our families and take responsibility for parenting. Through Li Shuangjiang's reflection, let us see the importance of family education.
Only by paying equal attention to care and strictness, so that children grow up healthily, can parents avoid regrets in their old age.