Preamble:
Children are like flowers, and everyone has their own rhythm of blooming.
As parents, how do we perceive and treat our children's differences in their Xi and talents when we discover that they are different?
Some children are born unsatisfactory, how can parents inspire them?
Lele will eventually shine
Watching his daughter Lele struggle to complete a math problem, Yang Wei's heart was full of helplessness.
This is the third time she has done the same problem today, and her twin sister Huanhuan has already completed all her homework and is happily showing Yang Wei her new sketch work.
"Why can't I learn?" Lele had red eyes and asked aggrievedly, "Am I really stupid?"
Yang Wei hugged his daughter distressedly and comforted her softly: "Baby, you are not stupid at all, but these topics are indeed a little difficult to grasp now."
But it doesn't matter, Dad is sure that you will learn little by little.
There's no need to rush, you don't have to force yourself to understand everything right away, take your time, okay?"
Looking at his daughter's teary eyes, Yang Wei couldn't help but wonder, in the same family environment, why the children's talents can be so different? Is it because of genes? Or is there a problem with the education method? He couldn't help but blame himself, should he pay more attention to Lele's professional Xi from an early age, instead of always defaulting to her natural progress.
"Daddy, look at my new drawing!" Huanhuan ran over with a sketchbook, and the oil portrait she drew was lifelike, not at all like that of a 6-year-old child.
"It's amazing! We will definitely become great painters in the future!" Yang Wei happily picked up his daughter and spun around, sincerely admiring her amazing talent.
He knew that Huanhuan was destined to become a great thing, because she had shown a very high talent for painting since she was a child, and she could practice Xi sketching on her own without the guidance of others, and she made rapid progress.
Moreover, in the Xi of ordinary courses such as Chinese and mathematics, they are all very good and rank among the best.
I think I will be a liberal arts student in the future.
In stark contrast to Huanhuan's amazing talent, Lele always struggles with his Xi.
Yang Wei looked at his two daughters with emotion.
He decided to change his education method and give Lele more encouragement, so that she could make progress slowly and steadily, and no longer demand her with the standards of other children.
Huanhuan's prodigy-like talent
"Dad, I'm done drawing!" Huanhuan, who was only 6 years old, ran over with a sketchbook, and on it was a lifelike portrait of an oil painting.
Yang Wei was pleasantly surprised to come to her daughter's easel and take a closer look at her new work.
I saw that the girl in the painting was full of energy, her facial features were delicate and expressive, and even the wrinkles of her clothes and every strand of her hair were depicted extremely exquisitely, which was not at all like the level of pre-primary school children.
"It's really my good baby!" Yang Wei happily picked up his daughter and turned around, sincerely admiring her amazing talent, "If this painting is sold, it will definitely sell for tens of thousands!"
Huan Huan smiled shyly and said, "I'm only 6 years old, painting is just for fun, and I can only sell paintings to make money when I grow up." ”
"Okay, then we will definitely become great painters when we grow up!" Yang Wei said proudly.
Huanhuan has shown a very high talent for painting since he was a child, and he can practice Xi sketching independently without the guidance of others, and he has made rapid progress.
Moreover, in the Xi of ordinary courses such as Chinese and mathematics, they are all very good and rank among the best.
Her peers are still graffiti, and she is already able to create decent realistic portraits.
Thinking that she will definitely become a liberal arts student in the future, whether she can enter the top art academy in China in the future, Yang Wei has already begun to look forward to it.
To have such a versatile daughter, he felt extremely proud and relieved as a father.
All this stems from Huanhuan's own diligence and hard work.
Yang Wei happily thought that a good family environment and educational resources are important, but it is her internal interest and motivation that determine a child's success.
And Huanhuan's love for art will surely support her to go further.
Yang Yangyang worked diligently and achieved results
"Mom, I want to go to Tsinghua High School for the high school entrance examination, and the goal of the college entrance examination is Peking University!" Yang Yangyang said seriously.
Yang Wei couldn't help but smile: "Good son, your goals are very high! But remember to be down-to-earth, go all out to do well in the high school entrance examination first, and then plan slowly for the college entrance examination."
No matter whether you can enter Peking University in the end or not, as long as you find a university that suits you, your father will support you!"
"I know, Dad. ”
14-year-old Yang Yangyang said calmly.
He is already 1.8 meters tall, and compared to his peers, he looks much more mature and stable.
Yang Wei looked at his son with satisfaction, Yang Yangyang is diligent and studious on weekdays, and he is also very good in various subjects, and he is recognized by teachers as a good student.
Not only independently plan the Xi plan, pre-Xi knowledge points in spare time, but also take the initiative to help students with poor academic performance solve problems.
"Yangyang, Dad is very proud of you! Your current Xi and mentality are better than many college students. ”
Yang Wei praised.
Yang Yangyang smiled shyly and said that he was just doing what he had to do.
His introverted and steady personality and hard-working and diligent qualities indeed made Yang Wei feel very pleased as a father.
To have such a sensible, obedient and good son with excellent grades is the proudest thing in his life.
Yang Wei sincerely hopes that his son can successfully enter the ideal high school and university and realize his dream.
And all this also depends on the support and encouragement of his family on his way to growth.
A loving and harmonious home can achieve a bright future for children.
Lele's inferiority complex and anxiety
After doing another wrong math problem, Lele's eyes were red and he couldn't help crying.
She had spent more than an hour on the question, but she still couldn't get the correct answer.
The sister Huanhuan at the same table had already finished all her homework and was happily showing the newly painted sketch to Yang Wei.
"What's wrong again?" Yang Wei walked over and looked at his youngest daughter distressedly.
Although this child is okay in Chinese subjects, he does have a hard time reasoning in science and mathematics, and it takes two or three times longer than his peers to understand.
"I really can't, I can't be admitted to college in my life!" Lele said with a sob.
Yang Wei sighed, hugged his daughter and comforted her: "Baby, our 14-year-old brother Yangyang is only in his second year of junior high school now, and it's still early to take the university entrance exam, so you don't need to worry about these now."
The important thing is that Lele grows up happily and happily, and the rest is not the most important, you know?"
Lele nodded, but couldn't help asking, "Then I'm really not as smart as my brother?
"Silly girl, you are Daddy's most beloved baby, and you always will be! ”
杨威抱住乐乐，轻声安慰她。
In fact, Lele also worked hard, but her memory and attention were not as good as other children, and she needed to practice repeatedly to master Xi knowledge, and she often made mistakes, which made her have a great sense of inferiority and anxiety.
Yang Wei realized that as a parent, he could not hold all children to the same standard.
He decided to give Lele more encouragement and support, let her progress slowly, steadily, and no longer force her to maintain the same Xi progress as her peers.
How parents should perceive their children's differences
When Yang Wei discovered that his three children were so different in terms of learning Xi and talent, he couldn't help but fall into deep thought.
The eldest son Yang Yangyang is introverted and steady, with excellent grades, and his daughter Huanhuan has amazing artistic talent, but the youngest daughter Lele is always struggling in science and mathematics.
At the beginning, Yang Wei spent a lot of money to hire a math tutor, wanting to improve Lele's grades through hard practice.
But after a few months, Lele's math did not improve significantly, but instead showed negative emotions of excessive stress.
Only then did Yang Wei realize that his method was wrong - he couldn't hold all children to the same standard.
"Every child has what every child looks like, just like every flower has its rhythm of blooming. ”
Yang Wei saw the experience of an excellent parent and sighed.
He finally understood the truth.
As a parent, he should pay more attention not to the children's scores, but to their growth conclusion:
Journey and inner world.
Epilogue:
Yang Wei decided to change the way he was taught.
He lightened Lele's academic load and no longer required her to catch up with her peers.
Instead, he gave Lele more encouragement and recognition, celebrating every small progress and achievement she made, allowing her to rebuild her confidence and motivation to learn and Xi.
Maybe Lele won't have outstanding talent, and her path will be even more tortuous.
But as long as her family always cares and supports, she will eventually shine with a different brilliance.
On the road to growth, the careful guidance of parents is far more important than the score.