Yang Wei, who hasn't appeared for a long time, has suddenly become popular these days.
It's not because he's got any good results.
but because he posted a video complaining about the weakness of his three children.
After many people watched it, they all laughed in tears.
The most important thing is that many people have greatly reduced their parenting anxiety after reading it.
Yang Wei is the gold medalist in the all-around gymnastics at the 2008 Beijing Olympics and holds the title of world champion on his head.
And his wife Yang Yun is the former captain of the Chinese women's gymnastics team and has won an Olympic bronze medal.
In most people's cognition, the children born by such couples should be very athletic talented.
In fact, Yang Wei and Yang Yun themselves think so.
In their hearts, their children should inherit their mantle and fight for Olympic titles.
However, the ending was unexpected by all:
"Two martial arts warriors gave birth to three frail babies!"
This is not only Yang Wei's self-deprecation, but also his helplessness against reality.
He said that the three children are all bamboo pole stature, and their physique is very weak.
At first, they didn't believe in fate.
felt that with the skills of the couple, even if the children were born with a weak physique, they could be trained to be strong.
If the child's calf is weak, let the child practice jumping;
If the child's core is weak, let the child practice crawling;
If the child is hunchbacked, let the child train his shoulders.
I thought that the three babies could get rid of the bamboo pole from now on.
Outcome:
The boss practiced for two years and successfully fell in love with golf;
The second child practiced gymnastics, knocked out his teeth, broke his knees, broke his hands, and broke his head;
The old three bronchitis pneumonia did not escape......
There is a saying that dragons give birth to dragons, phoenixes give birth to phoenixes, and the children of mice will make holes.
After reading Yang Wei's complaints, I suddenly felt that everyone might have overinterpreted this sentence in the past.
People don't say that great parents can give birth to great children.
People may just say what breed the parents are, and they can only give birth to what breed of baby.
For example, a child born of a pig must be a pig, not a cow or any other animal.
Examples of parents who have a certain specialty, but children who are not good at all, are common in life.
For example, there is a Russian couple who have settled in China.
Dad can speak five Chinese, Mom is an English translation major, but their son only scored 28 points in the English test!
Some people say that their children are in the third year of junior high school and are second to last in the class.
The penultimate is the head teacher's son.
The third from the bottom is the daughter of the elementary school homeroom teacher.
Some people also said that after graduating from 985, they worked hard every day to help their first-grade son with homework, and as a result, his son scored 15 points in English and 1 point in Chinese.
Regarding this phenomenon of "school bully parents give birth to scumbag children", netizens also gave interesting and irrefutable explanations:
In a family, the children have a lot of potential, and the ancestral grave is smoked, but if the ancestral grave keeps smoking green, then it must not catch fire?
Thinking about it this way, I wonder if those parents of school bully feel a little bit in their hearts?
Hahaha, jokes aside, having a child is really like opening a blind box, and if you don't get to that point, you never know whether your child is here to pay off debts or debts.
If you presuppose your child's performance too early, it is estimated that the feelings of loss and frustration will come earlier and more violently.
So, how do you avoid being "hurt by reality"?
There are three things you can try:
1. Lower expectations.
There aren't that many geniuses in this world.
Even if both of you are excellent, it is only through your hard work.
So, don't expect your child to be born a genius.
It's okay to guide your child to work hard, but you shouldn't take it for granted that they will excel in a certain area like you.
A healthy body and mind is always the most important thing.
2. Discover your child's shining points.
Every child is unique and has their strengths and weaknesses.
Parents should use their hearts to discover their children's shining points, rather than using a unified and undifferentiated standard to demand their children.
3. Encourage and support children
After finding the child's talent, there are only two things parents need to do, one is to encourage and support the child to work hard and deepen in the direction that he is good at, and the other is to provide the necessary conditions for the child's efforts.
Allowing children to be themselves, allowing themselves to be themselves, is the most heart-warming and wise parenting!
Finally, I want to end with a netizen's flat argument:
When you feel that your child is not good, first ask yourself if you can do it.
If you can't do it yourself, why do you ask your child to do it?
If you do it yourself, where do you need your children?
It is said that children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, and respecting the fate of children is the wisest way for parents!