Preface:
Li Weikang and Geng Qichang are a pair of legendary typical "talented and beautiful" combinations.
They are not only a loving couple in life, but also the best partners on the stage, known as the "Liyuan couple".
However, their way of marriage is ingenious, because since they got married, the two have adhered to the "AA system" economic method, which has caused some controversy.
This kind of "fine-grained" marriage economic model may seem a little unusual to the outside world, and even make people mistakenly think that they are just a couple who look like each other.
However, the reason for this financial separation is one of the secrets of a long and happy marriage.
Drama School Encounter: The One Who Protects You in the Political Turmoil
In the summer of 1966, a sudden political storm swept across the country, destroying countless families and lives.
That year, Li Weikang was 17 years old and Geng Qichang was 18 years old, and they, as students of the Chinese Academy of Drama, were not spared.
As a descendant of a well-known opera family, Li Weikang was once coldly regarded by his classmates and even bullied.
The change in the political situation made her become the target of public criticism overnight.
Many years later, recalling that dark time, Li Weikang remembers it vividly:
"I remember crying to the end, and I couldn't get the tears out of my eyes. My classmates and teachers around me were avoiding me, and I was really scared to walk alone on a long, dark street. ”
Geng Qichang is Li Weikang's classmate, a seemingly ordinary opera youth.
That year, he silently watched Li Weikang in trouble, but he couldn't ignore her in pain.
By chance, Geng Qichang summoned all his courage and said to Li Weikang: "If you have any difficulties, just tell me, and I will help you."
A simple promise, but it became Li Weikang's warmest watch during that time.
She was amazed at the protection of this inconspicuous classmate who did what she said, and Geng Qichang's kindness became a light in her heart.
Two young hearts began to get closer in that storm, but they held back their feelings under the pressure of reality.
It wasn't until 8 years later that they finally reunited on stage.
At that time, Geng Qichang was already a pillar of the theater, and Li Weikang was also a well-deserved leader.
He solemnly said to Li Weikang: "What I said to you back then has always been in my heart.
Now, I am still willing to protect you through your life. ”
Li Weikang was teary-eyed, and the account book of fate was reopened after 8 years.
From opera students to famous actors, they stick to their dreams and wait for each other to be fulfilled.
Her unique "split-account" new life
In 1974, Li Weikang and Geng Qichang successfully got married.
For the marriage news of the two, most people gave their blessings - they are not only an extraordinary combination of tacit understanding on the stage, but also an extraordinary talent and beauty.
However, their married life was surprisingly "divided into accounts".
This stems from a shocking request from Li Weikang - the strict AA system for all property after marriage.
When it comes to the details of life, from rent, water and electricity to daily necessities, a fixed percentage of their monthly salary goes to the public, and the rest is handled by individuals.
I also meticulously separate the "ledger" when eating and buying vegetables, and I won't eat even a single egg.
"My situation is quite special, I feel that I have a burden, I don't want to take advantage of others, and I don't want to influence others." Li Weikang explained his thoughts this way.
For Geng Qichang, who has lived a simple life since childhood, it is not difficult to understand, he chooses to respect his wife and accommodate her ideas.
In fact, Li Weikang's character was revealed when the two met.
At that time, Geng Qichang, who was also a student, once expressed his love for Li Weikang in the form of a note.
But Li Weikang, who is realistic and realistic, wrote back: "You are very important to me, but I don't want to fall in love now, I just want to concentrate on studying."
Such a delicate and independent woman made Geng Qichang also see her specialness.
Since she has her own ideas, as a husband, she should be considerate and space, which has become Geng Qichang's consistent way of understanding Li Weikang after marriage.
Money boundaries, emotional rapport: how do they do it?
Many people are puzzled by the "account-splitting" married life of Li Geng and the two.
Money and affection are so separated, how can their relationship be so harmonious and long-lasting?
As the parties concerned, Li Weikang and Geng Qichang's answers were very simple.
Li Weikang said that in fact, the most important thing in married life is not money, but whether both parties are sincerely committed and considerate of each other.
"Emotional matters, you can talk about feelings, you don't need to talk about money." Li Weikang said with a smile that the warming of the relationship between husband and wife does not depend on money, as long as they are considerate of each other, the amount of money is not important.
For Geng Qichang, since his wife has her own ideas, he should respect rather than force them.
"I understand her, and she understands me. Everyone stood in the middle, and this is the feeling. He said.
Therefore, despite the meticulous separation of the two financially, there will be many heartwarming moments in life.
Li Weikang said with a smile that every year on her birthday, Geng Qichang would give her a pot of flowers that he took care of, which moved her more than any luxury.
This kind of marriage based on mutual understanding allows Li Geng and the two to truly achieve the boundaries of money and will not affect the exchange of feelings.
As Li Weikang said, as long as both parties are attentive, it doesn't matter how much money there is.
Thick and thin, your eternal watchman
If Li Weikang's "account sharing" request at the beginning was still a little reserved, then after the two of them experienced ups and downs, she truly realized Geng Qichang's unconditional tolerance and protection in his heart.
In the 80s of the 20th century, Li Weikang, who was in the rising period of his career, suddenly fell seriously ill, and his busy work was also one of the causes of the disease.
In order to be treated, she had to pay a large amount of medical bills.
This huge part of the expenditure that could have been used by the father-in-law, Li Weikang insisted on bearing it himself.
Because she doesn't want to disrupt the original economic habits of the two, and she doesn't want her husband to "pay" for this.
However, the torture of illness is not something that money can resolve, and during this time, Geng Qichang's unwavering care made Li Weikang feel her husband's selfless dedication.
"He was by my side every day, and at that time I had a bad temper and often lost my temper, and he would patiently coax me to be happy." Li Weikang said.
When you are seriously ill and struggling, the companionship of the person who listens is far more important than money.
Li Weikang finally opened his heart after experiencing illness - it turned out that the flow of feelings was not increased or subtracted by the source and quantity of money.
The warmth of people's hearts is the foundation that supports a family.
Maybe there was a distance between her and Geng Qichang at first, but it was when they really needed it that their souls were really connected.
Stripped of the appearance, life is all about supporting each other
47 years have passed, Li Weikang and Geng Qichang still maintain the habit of separating their respective properties, but their relationship is more harmonious than before.
They have succeeded in proving that the boundaries of money in life do not determine the harmony of a family, let alone the standard of affection.
We don't have to over-read Li Weikang's initial "account sharing request", because it actually stems from her consideration of the burden that may be on the other side.
And this possible sense of burden has gradually melted as the relationship between the two warms up.
When we are young and vigorous, we may be more serious about money.
But after the baptism of time and wind and rain, you will find that the essence of life is to support and understand each other.
Li Weikang and Geng Qichang have entered old age.
Their achievements in the Peking Opera industry, which they love, have become a valuable asset in the development of Chinese culture and art.
And their love story and marriage style also show future generations what it means to understand and tolerate each other.
When we put aside the external appearance, we may find the inner resonance of each other.
Love doesn't need to be calculated, life needs to be cared for.
This is the life thinking left to us by Li Weikang and Geng Qichang, the "Liyuan couple".
Epilogue:
Love and marriage do not need any frames and boundaries, when the heart is realigned, the foundation of life will be firm, and the flowers of feelings will flourish.
This is also the password for the long-term success of Li Geng and the two.
When appearance and material things are no longer the criterion for judgment, we may all be able to live simpler and love more freely.