Oral description: Aunt Zhu
Author: Xiaoya
I am 51 years old and have a 25-year-old son, and I am worrying about his marriage.
Originally, I was very happy, because at the beginning of this year, my son brought a girl back: "Mom, this is my girlfriend, the two of us have been together for two years and want to get married." ”
Seeing the girl who looked like a well-behaved and quiet girl outside the show, my first impression was very good, and I showed my love from the bottom of my heart, and quickly welcomed my future daughter-in-law warmly, shushed her and warmed her, and personally cooked a table of delicious food, for fear of snubbing my future daughter-in-law.
The future daughter-in-law is called Dong Qian, although the family conditions are not good, the father works in the city, the mother is responsible for taking care of the children and doing housework, and there is a younger brother who is three years younger, but the conditions in my family are not much better.
I was also a farmer who farmed for a living, and 17 years ago in order to support my family, I took my son and followed my husband out to work hard, and saved a little family business, so in my bones I don't have much requirements for my daughter-in-law's family conditions, as long as the woman is virtuous and a child with good character.
The son said that his girlfriend's parents were also very happy with him, so our parents would soon meet and sit together to discuss the marriage of our two children.
When discussing the bride price, the woman's father asked us to give 150,000 bride price, which was beyond my expectations, I thought it was 100,000 at most.
Although the 150,000 bride price is also a lot of money for us, it is our savings for two years, but in order to let my son marry his wife smoothly, I still agreed.
At present, we are choosing an auspicious day for them, planning to organize a wedding for them, but recently an incident happened that made me see the character of the prospective in-laws clearly, and I became hesitant about my son's family affairs.
A few days ago, after dinner, I was lying on the sofa looking at the circle of friends, brushing and brushing to see the circle of friends of fellow villager Chen Fa.
Lao Chen lives in his hometown in the countryside, where he grows orchards and often sells fruits in circle of friends. This season is the season of fruit, and her family grows oranges, grapes and other fruits.
Looking at the oranges in the circle of friends, I think of the old years. Lao Chen's husband and my husband are young, and the two grew up together, so the relationship between the two has always been very good.
The old Chen family used to like to grow fruit, but at that time it was only for their own family. When the fruit is ripe, Lao Chen will send some to my family, and my son and I used to love to eat Lao Chen's oranges.
I casually praised Lao Chen and commented, "I haven't eaten your oranges for a long time", and Lao Chen quickly commented: "Come and eat, eat as much as you want." ”
Originally, I thought it was just polite remarks, but after half an hour, Lao Chen sent me a message, asking when I had time to go to her house to pick oranges.
Although I repeatedly refused, saying that it was not good to disturb her, but Lao Chen kindly invited, and I also wanted to go back to my hometown to see, knowing that since my husband died of illness two years ago, I have not gone back, so I agreed.
I told my son about this and told my son that I was going back to my hometown in the countryside, and I don't know if my son missed his mouth when chatting with his fiancée, three days ago, Dong Qian's mother called me: "Lin Hui, I heard that you are going to pick oranges, can you bring me one?" ”
Dong Qian's mother said that she was busy washing and cooking all day long, taking care of her two children, and she was so tired that her back ached, and she wanted to relax. It just so happens that she also likes to eat oranges, and she bought a lot but couldn't find one that matched her taste, so she also wanted to go with her to make a splash.
Since she spoke, I didn't want to give her face, if it affected my son's marriage, it would be bad, so I had to tell Lao Chen, and Lao Chen readily agreed, saying that it was no problem to come a few more people.
Three days ago, I took Dong Qian's mother to the car back to my hometown in the countryside, thinking that it is also a good thing to have an additional companion on the road, which can also enhance the relationship and make the prospective daughter-in-law satisfied, but I never expected that Dong Qian's mother's character would be so bad.
Since my son didn't have time to drop me off, and I couldn't drive, I bought a train ticket to go back to my hometown in the countryside.
I bought two Pu Express tickets, Dong Qian's mother didn't tell me about her requirements before, I forgot to ask, let alone asked her for the money for the train ticket, but after she learned that she wanted to take Pu Express, her face was full of unhappiness, saying that I was too picky, and I was too offended to take Pu Express, which made me feel very embarrassed.
The ticket has already been bought, and I am about to leave, and there is no time to change the ticket, so she had to follow me and sit on the general speed, shouting my waist there along the way, saying that it hurts here and there, I had to not speak, but my heart was very uncomfortable.
Finally arrived at the station, because the train station is in another town far from her hometown, you need to transfer the bus three times to arrive, Dong Qian's mother listened to it and shouted that she didn't do it, saying that she was very sick with motion sickness and couldn't bear it: "Still want to take the bus?" No, no, it's going to kill me. ”
While I scolded myself for being careless and not making it clear in advance, knowing that she was so squeamish, I shouldn't have promised her, and I had to spend money to stop a taxi and rush to Lao Chen's house.
Lao Chen welcomed us warmly, made a sumptuous lunch, and then took us to the orchard to pick oranges. After we strolled around for a while, Dong Qian's mother said that she was tired and wanted to take a break, under an orange tree, and I walked while chatting with Lao Chen.
When the two of us returned to the tree where Dong Qian's mother rested, it was only half an hour, but when I saw the scene in front of me, I was stunned, and Lao Chen was also stunned.
After I saw the mountains of orange peels that had accumulated at Dong Qian's mother's feet, I was stunned, first sighed in my heart and said "eat so much, I'm not afraid of fire", and then saw how Dong Qian's mother ate oranges, and I was instantly angry.
Dong Qian's mother picked an orange casually, quickly peeled it, broke a clove and stuffed it into her mouth, then frowned, spit it out, threw the remaining orange in her hand directly into the trash can on the side, and then picked fresh oranges.
If the one she tried tasted good, she would eat the rest or throw it in the trash.
Seeing her so wasteful, not to mention Lao Chen, the owner of the fruit tree who carefully took care of it, even I couldn't stand it, I said how she ate so much, dare to eat like this.
I was furious, I wanted to say Dong Qian and her mother, Lao Chen stopped me and asked me not to make too ugly trouble: "It's okay, she's alone, she can't waste much, after all, it's your own mother in the future, don't make it too ugly, save your daughter-in-law from being unhappy." ”
I suppressed my anger and repeatedly apologized to Lao Chen, wanting to compensate Lao Chen, but Lao Chen said that it was not worth a few bucks and resolutely did not want to.
On the way back, Dong Qian's mother shouted back pain while saying to me: "This orange tastes quite good, so you didn't let her send you some?" If you arrive, don't forget to tell me and leave me a few boxes. ”
I didn't pay attention to her, but I felt very tired, finally returned home, looked at my son, I couldn't help but worry in my heart, as the saying goes, if there is a mother, there must be a daughter, the near Zhu is red and the ink is black, the character of the child is greatly influenced by the parents, what if the future daughter-in-law is also such a person?
Besides, even if the daughter-in-law is good, with such a family, I feel that I can't bear it, thinking about it, I told my son about the cause and effect of the matter, and my son was stunned when he heard it.
I sighed: "Although it is said that it is better to tear down a temple than destroy a marriage, I dare not be a daughter-in-law taught by such a mother, and I dare not ask for such a mother-in-law." I suggest you not to marry, think clearly for yourself! ”
At present, my son has not told me what he thinks, but Dong Qian's mother has sent me messages several times, asking me if I let Lao Chen send oranges, so that I have a headache when I look at it, and I don't know what to do.
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