Children are addicted to watching TV and playing games, in fact, reading is also addictive

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Many mothers have left messages asking me to talk about how to cultivate their children's interest in reading.

I am often embarrassed to poke at everyone's pain points.

Because for children to fall in love with reading, the key is to look at the parents and the reading atmosphere of the family.

A mom the other day tidied up her messy balcony, made a reading corner, and sent me pictures.

I think it's good, giving books a home and children a space to read.

The next step is to choose books and read books.

With a sense of importance to reading, it is very important.

We often hear parents complain that "children don't like to read, they know that watching TV, playing with mobile phones, reading books is not comics, and those classic literary works are never flipped." ”

But when you complain, have you ever wondered why this happened?

In fact, most parents know that the problem is in themselves and know the value of reading, but they can't do it.

A few days ago, I went to a relative's house, and the relative happily showed me his newly purchased TV and computer, saying that he wanted to feel the new era, to be connected, and to have a large screen.

His 4-year-old son is also playing hot on the couch with a new pad.

So every time he told me that my child's academic performance was poor and asked me to help recommend training schools, I always said to read more books to my child and cultivate the habit of reading.

He is hahahaha every time.

I won't say anything about it for a long time.

He said that now my son is addicted to playing games, and I said that the child is still young, and when he goes to middle school and is still addicted to it, you will really regret it.

Too many people say that watching TV and playing games is addictive.

But you know what?

In fact, reading can be addictive, really!

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In childhood, what kind of environment you give your child will be what kind of person you will cultivate.

You look at those little babies, watching and learning every day.

Every move of parents, every expression, every look is seen in the eyes and remembered in the heart.

Everything around is strange and fresh.

One day, the child touched the branches, touched the grass, this is nature.

And children will also touch all kinds of toys.

When children are older, they will see that every adult has a "toy" - a mobile phone.

And will watch an interesting "box" - a TV set.

When parents take the trouble to stick to these two things every day, laughing and discussing.

Children will also be curious and reach for them.

Of course, if parents hold a thick book, children will also be curious, what is this?

I remember when my son was almost 1 year old, every time I read a book, he would come and grab my book.

I look at my phone and grab my phone.

Later, when I was with him, I put my phone in another room.

Sometimes I would take a book to play with and tell him, "Baby, this is a book, Daddy's book." ”

One day, I bought him a few cloth books and a few cave books, handed him a copy, and told him, "Baby, this is yours, it's your book, baby book." ”

At that time, my son, who had just been able to understand some of my words, excitedly grabbed the book and threw it around.

It is rarely possible to truly "read".

But I created opportunities for books to find him and create opportunities for them to get intimate.

I am like a dedicated matchmaker.

Many mothers will definitely ask when they can be "matchmakers" for their children.

I recommend starting at 6 months, starting with cards, starting with knowing the most basic colors and shapes, and playing with books as toys.

By the age of one, you can start telling short stories in front of books.

Of course, at this stage, children's comprehension ability is average, they will love to read a book repeatedly, and it is possible to remain unchanged for several weeks.

And you will also be particularly disgusted with some classic books, that is not eye-catching, you don't need to be in a hurry.

So a mother said, "Seeing that everyone recommends reading "Guess How Much I Love You" to their children, but my son doesn't watch it every time, what's going on?" ”

I said let's let it go and wait a few months or half a year.

Because my son only liked "Little Blackfish" when he first started, I bought him "My Dad", he lost it every time, and he didn't look at it, which made me a dad very sad.

But by the age of two, "My Dad" became a must-read every day.

So choose books for children, read, don't rush to deny, say that children don't like to read.

And don't rush to exclude books, because children just don't like it at this time.

Take your time, persevere and miracles happen.

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When we put children in contact with books, the door to magic opens.

Now my son is addicted to reading.

Every day before going to bed, be sure to grab me or my mother and talk about a few books.

During the day, he would flip through some books by himself and ask me about things he didn't understand.

There must be mothers who will say, how can a four-year-old child understand books?

Of course, a four-year-old can't read financial statements or read the dense textbooks.

But they can read pictures, they can understand the stories their parents read, and they will have some unique opinions of their own.

Picture books are specially prepared for children.

When children become addicted to reading, what parents have to do is not to urge their children to read.

Instead, choose a good book for your child to read.

Sometimes I would bargain with my child because I was too busy, saying that I would wait 10 minutes to see it.

But the child has to finish reading.

Once the habit is formed, it is ready to accumulate precipitation.

One day, it will be rewarding.

Of course, such harvests come naturally.

There can be no element of coercion, without purpose.

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Never read to a child with a utilitarian purpose.

We often say that the benefits of reading are of course unquestionable.

But we can't train children to read for these purposes.

Reading itself is a beautiful thing that conforms to nature, but sometimes it becomes a thing that goes against nature and is forced to do it.

The root of this feeling in children is the utilitarian heart of parents.

Many parents read to their children, and it must be meaningful to do it.

There is a term to describe a person called a "refined egoist."

And in reading, there are also many such people, first consider whether it is useful? Pursue maximum efficiency.

Then, the child is taken into the cage of reading.

It is not an exaggeration to say that it is a cage.

A teacher once told me that one of the students in his class didn't want to go to school and said that he wanted to vomit when he saw a book.

As soon as he saw the book, his mother's chanting was in his head.

"How many words did you read today? What was said? Did the notes be taken?

"Don't read this book, it's useless."

You can only read what this school recommends, and you say it's not interesting to read it, this is the rule. ”

 This is the "classic-only" parent.

Classics are certainly good things, that is the inheritance of human wisdom and culture.

True classics never fade and nourish the hearts of generations after generations.

But what many children love to read is some "non-nutritious" fast food books.

Many of our current popular school novels are mostly such readings.

For such a situation, it is necessary to look at it in two.

Just like eating, kids love fast food and love street food.

We know these are unhealthy, but we can't stop it, we can only channel it.

Don't say no when your child says they want to read comics.

As soon as I heard someone in the parent group say that I couldn't read any set of books, I immediately hid my child's books.

Even do some detective work.

This will only make your child more and more disgusted with you and want to get out of control.

Because you don't investigate, you don't have a voice.

Without reading, don't say how bad it is.

Children's tastes change with age, do you really understand?

Can you keep up? Is it acceptable?

Acceptance and respect are not slogans, they play a key role when it comes to choices.

Many children are under the control of their parents, and their interest in reading is gradually imprisoned.

Reading is actually a very secret act.

There is no need to be ostentatious, and no one wants to interfere, reading quietly is the beauty of reading.

So when a mother tells me that her son likes to read comics and fantasy novels, what should I do?

I would say, then let him see it, and you guys watch it together is the best.

That way you know exactly what he's watching.

You can also have a good chat with your child about the plot.

Either just watch and don't rush to interfere.

Or get involved, accept the children, and read together.

When the child also accepts and trusts you, then you can recommend some classic books to the child.

Acceptance out of trust, and trying, can often change a child.

I remember when I was in middle school, I read everything, and there were really no books to read at that time.

So I read the books of the Gulf War, fantasy novels, Chen Zhong's Bailu Yuan also read, of course, my favorite is Jin Yong.

At that time, I was most fortunate that no one in my family cared about reading, as long as I read.

Entering the university is even more fantastic, periodicals, magazines, novels and biographies.

To this day, when people ask me what books I read, I say I read everything.

Read the best-selling "A Brief History of Mankind", professional psychology books are also read, and Mr. Feng Youlan's brief history of philosophy is also read.

In the past, when my wife was pregnant, I still read the pregnancy book, so I was reading this matter.

You read boldly, without too much purpose.

When you open the pattern yourself, you won't be too entangled in your child's choice.

We often say that "opening the book is beneficial", interest is the first step, first open the book before talking.

The biggest fear is to never touch books and put their interests into video games and children.

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When will children be able to read independently?

This is a concern for many parents.

First of all, it is necessary to cultivate the spirit of independence.

The spirit of independent reading can be cultivated from the age of three or four, because at this time children have a certain ability to understand.

Of course, children who are exposed to reading late must be seen according to their actual reading ability.

Generally, reading for a year will form a certain foundation.

At this time, you can tell the child again, and then let the child read it by himself, or read it many times, according to the child's arrangement.

At first, the child will even reject and say: I won't read, read to me, read to me.

You have to encourage your child to say that you can read as much as you can by looking at the picture yourself.

Don't do some tasks, that will hit your child's confidence.

I found that there is a kind of parent who reads a picture book with his child, but also has to be reasonable.

A 24-page book lasts tens of minutes, and more than half of the time is reasonable.

As a result, the author's intentional conception is gone, and the perfect graphic beauty is gone.

After reading it, the child did not know what the story was, nor what the truth the mother told, and it was all confused.

So I advocate reading cleanly and occasionally asking questions.

Do not read a book to your child with the purpose of preaching.

Only when the child asks himself, give answers, and return to the story as soon as possible.

Because the child's attention is easily distracted.

For older children, parents require children to write their feelings after reading, write reading plans, read experiences, take notes, and copy good words and sentences...

As a result, the child does not want to read because he is too tired.

In fact, children who really love reading will record some words that move them.

Either keep it in mind or make some excerpts.

But spontaneous excerpts are not the same as parents' tasks.

When the child has an independent spirit.

Then wait for the improvement of ability.

When the child's literacy level is not high, he will always rely on the parents to read aloud.

And more children just like the feeling of their parents reading aloud, close and warm.

There are also children who are addicted because they like to listen to stories.

Parents should selectively prepare some easy-to-understand bridge books for their children - to help children transition from picture books to independent reading books.

The biggest feature of this type of book is the combination of graphics and text, and the ratio is sometimes 1:1.

Children understand the plot through diagrams and read the plot through words.

Wait for your child to slowly walk up to independent reading.

Don't rush to push your child away, they may already have the ability to read independently.

Just love the way you tell a story.

Then stick to it for one more year, it doesn't matter, you can find some interesting stories to tell your child.

Generally, by the age of eight or nine, the child will ask for independence.

What parents need to do is to help their children develop the habit of reading when they are young.

And help children develop corresponding reading skills.

So when the child takes off into the air.

The talent is like the Kunpeng in the North Sea, the water hits 3,000 li, and the one who shakes up is 90,000 li.

Mr. Qi Bangyuan, who wrote "The Great River", said: "I hope that Chinese readers, no matter what you read, can develop their interests as soon as possible, have some reliance in their hearts throughout their lives, and develop calm judgment over time." Such a big country, so many people, such a complex, interlocking history, no longer use passion to determine the fate of the country and individuals; I also hope that young people will develop a tolerant and compassionate mind. ”

Let children enjoy reading from an early age, that's it.