I am 50 years old and a housewife. Since getting married, I have been taking care of children and family at home, and my husband, 60 years old, used to work in the tobacco bureau and recently retired, with a pension of 8,000 yuan a month.
At first, I thought that after my husband retired, we could enjoy a good life together and go sightseeing, but after he retired, he picked on me everywhere, complained that the dishes were too salty or too light, and always looked for faults.
Driven by his nagging, I made up my mind to leave the house for a while and try to get out of his control. However, it was only when I lived in someone else's house that I really realized the merits of my husband.
He and I met through a matchmaker. Although he is not tall, only about 160 centimeters, he has no family burden, his parents died early, and his job is stable. In contrast, I am a rural girl, with a decent appearance, 165 cm tall, but my mother's conditions are very average. I don't have my own job, and my family has a young brother to take care of.
Perhaps by fate, we quickly fell in love and soon got married. Later, we welcomed a son, and without in-laws to help take care of the children, I had to take care of the children and household chores at home.
This life lasted until after my son got married, and I started to have some free time. However, living at home with my husband, I often felt depressed. He was a typical machismo, and his family's decisions ranged from the decoration of the house, the choice of furniture, to the child's school, and he demanded that I not interfere.
He didn't think I had enough vision to make an informed choice. He even interfered in my social life, thinking I was in contact with bad friends, so he repeatedly asked me to cut ties. In his eyes, this is me abusing social resources.
I felt like a canary in a birdcage, unable to breathe the fresh air outside. However, when he retired, his demands intensified. He asked me to cook and lay out the dishes every day, tidy my clothes and mop the floor every day.
Having to endure his nagging every day upsets me. When the child got married, I finally had enough, so I left him at home and went to my son's house by myself.
My son and daughter-in-law saw my exhausted appearance and warmly invited me to stay. However, I soon found that I couldn't fit into their lives. During the day they go to work, and I need to be responsible for the morning and evening meals.
Sometimes, when the daughter-in-law dislikes a certain dish, she will take it to the bedroom with a frown. At one point, she even scolded me for not cleaning up the hair that had fallen out in the bathroom, how disgusting it looked. After that, she left angrily, while her son was silent.
This home was not suitable for me, so I found an excuse to come to my brother's house. My brother lives with my mother, who is in her 80s, and his son and daughter-in-law, and the family has never been wealthy.
After I stayed there for a few days, my brother started asking me for living expenses, and my mother also asked me to pay alimony. The younger brother said the family expenses were too large to afford. My mother also told me that my brother's life was not easy.
I gave my brother and mother 5,000 yuan each and left their home. A man wanders the streets, thinking of the old man at home. He kept calling me, but I didn't answer once.
It's been a month since I left home, and whether I live at my son's house or my brother's house, I'm just a passerby. In contrast, although my husband has many problems, he has never restricted my freedom and provides living expenses on time every month.
I hurriedly decided to go home. When I got home, I saw chaos at home. When the old man saw me return, he put his arms around me and said, "Wife, you have finally returned, and you have starved me for so many days without you." ”
Looking at his messy beard, I suddenly felt distressed. At that moment, I understood a truth: no matter how unsatisfactory your husband is, he will give you money when you need it and accompany you to the hospital, and parents, children, brothers and sisters, cannot compare with him. After all, mutually
It was our husband and wife who accompanied us until we got old. During this period of living away from home, I deeply experienced the importance of family and the preciousness of marriage.
When I got home, I began to revisit our marriage. In this marriage, it has always been the husband who is more financially capable, but that doesn't mean I lose my independence and dignity. The operation of marriage requires the joint efforts and respect of both parties.
Although we have different habits in some trivial matters, this should not be the trigger for the rupture. On the contrary, we should be more tolerant and understanding, and more supportive of each other to build a more harmonious family environment.
In addition, I also learned that family affection, friendship, and sibling relationships are limited. Parents will need our care because of old age and infirmity, children will have their own lives because of their families, and siblings will be busy because of their own lives. Only the relationship between husband and wife is the longest and most sincere.
So, I decided to revisit our marriage and find balance and happiness in it. Setbacks and run-ins in marriage are inevitable, but as long as we respect each other and support each other, we can overcome all difficulties.
To sum up, this experience of leaving home made me more aware of the preciousness of family and the value of marriage. No matter what happens, only mutual understanding and support between husband and wife is the most important. I will return to my family with a more positive attitude and run a happy future together with my husband.