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China's first-class actress Yin Xiumei, since she began her acting career in the 70s of last century, has accompanied the audience through decades of ups and downs with her singing. Her works such as "I Love You, Snow in Seibei", "Party, Dear Mother", "The Motherland Will Not Forget" and so on, are deeply rooted in the hearts of the people. In addition to excellent performances, Yin Xiumei rarely appears in public, giving people a sense of mystery. But the real Yin Xiumei has a hearty personality and is blunt, as actor Chen Peisi commented: "First, real; Second, temperament. She never hides what she says. This evaluation was also recognized by her old colleagues Jiang Kun, Zhu Shimao and others.
In 1987, Yin Xiumei began her first marriage, marrying tenor Cheng Zhi, who also graduated from the Central Conservatory of Music. Cheng Zhi is a gentle man with outstanding singing talent, and has been highly praised by world-famous musicians. Their marriage was mainly due to the urging of both parents. Especially Yin Xiumei, she is over thirty years old, her marriage problems have not been solved, her mother is so anxious that she will pester her every time she comes home. Therefore, Yin Xiumei had to compromise and agree to her mother's blind date arrangement, and Cheng Zhi became the blind date.
When they first met, Cheng Zhi behaved very gentlemanly and left a good impression on Yin Xiumei. More importantly, Yin Xiumei's mother is very optimistic about Cheng Zhi, thinking that they are both musicians and must have a common topic. So, her mother kept saying good things for Cheng Zhi and urged Yin Xiumei to date Cheng Zhi. In order not to worry her mother, plus she also has a good impression of Cheng Zhi, the two established a romantic relationship.
However, in the process of preparing for the wedding together, they gradually felt out of place with each other. Yin Xiumei has a fiery personality, while Cheng Zhi is calm and calm, and the two will always have different views on the same thing. Although they don't argue often, this discomfort makes Yin Xiumei very uncomfortable. She had considered breaking up many times, but because she had already prepared for the wedding, she was unwilling to face the reactions of both families, and she endured until the wedding day.
On the wedding day, the two had a disagreement over a little matter, which made Yin Xiumei determined to divorce. She feels that if two people are together, they are not destined to be happy, and the long pain is better than the short pain. So, before the official wedding ceremony, she filed for divorce from Cheng Zhi. Although Cheng Zhi was surprised, he rationally agreed and proposed to wait until the wedding was over to go through the formalities so as not to affect family and social relations.
Although they delayed their formal divorce for more than a year, their relationship has long existed in name only. Looking back on this experience, Yin Xiumei said: "Feelings are a matter of two people, and they can be maintained by not one person's efforts. Sometimes, there can be a huge difference between two people. I think the most important thing for two people to be together is tacit understanding. If two people are not on the same channel, communication can be very difficult, almost impossible. ”
This experience reveals the reasons for their incompatible personalities. Perhaps in Yin Xiumei's opinion, Cheng Zhi's personality is a little strange, or her feelings for him really can't be cultivated, in short, they have been no longer harmonious since the moment they got married. After this marriage, Yin Xiumei has a new understanding of marriage, she said: "Marriage is something that everyone should have, should cherish, and enjoy the beautiful things of family and love." ”
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