One day in 1987, when a hotel was lit up with flowers and candy, Cheng Zhi, as a groom, wore a suit and smiled to greet the wedding guests.
However, when everyone felt very happy, the bride Yin Xiumei was not happy.
She didn't want to get married anymore.
Yes, on the wedding day, Yin Xiumei had already thought about divorce.
There were too many people on the scene, she could only finish the wedding first, and Cheng Zhi, as a groom, was completely unaware that Yin Xiumei, who was about to become his wife, would file for divorce with him in less than a year.
In 1988, unsurprisingly, Yin Xiumei filed for divorce from Cheng Zhi, and the two returned to single life in a peaceful way.
In fact, their marriage was doomed from the beginning, and the feelings of wishful thinking could not be exchanged for two feelings of mutual pleasure.
Later, Yin Xiumei met a foreigner on the way to a performance, and she did not expect that they actually sparked a spark of love and entered the palace of marriage.
Now that the two have been married for 24 years, what is her living condition after marriage, and why do she live with regrets in her later years?
01
Yin Xiumei, a native of Heilongjiang, was born in 1956 in a cadre family, a family that was originally in good condition, but because the children were too much, they did not live smoothly.
Yin Xiumei is the third eldest in the family, with two older sisters on the top and two younger brothers below, and the family of 7 depends on her father alone to support herself.
Although her father's salary was ok in those days, it was not a simple task to get so many people to eat every meal.
Therefore, in Yin Xiumei's memory, her father's back always looked so magnificent, and whenever he saw him go out, he was carrying so many open mouths of the family's rations and clothes.
In fact, her father had a great influence on Yin Xiumei when she was a child, and the back of the sense of responsibility made her determined to let her family live a good life in the future.
Moreover, As a northern girl, Yin Xiumei has a stubbornness and a bit of arrogance in her bones, and the things she believes must be broken.
When she was in elementary school, she had already begun to have such careful thinking.
At that time, in school, one of the reasons why she was very popular with her teachers was that she had a good voice, and every time she opened her mouth, she could sing into people's hearts, and the teachers and classmates praised her.
Slowly, she fell in love with singing and aspired to become a singer in the future.
At the age of 14, Yin Xiumei became the youngest actor in the Hegang City Art Troupe, because she had a good talent for singing, and the troupe also arranged for her to learn ballet to develop in an all-round way.
When she first learned to dance, she was often ridiculed by some classmates who had studied for several years, and Yin Xiumei was not accustomed to them, and she could not bear to go back directly.
It was also under this kind of sneering that Yin Xiumei, who had held her breath, learned faster than anyone, and in a few years, her singing and dancing skills had been much higher than that of her classmates who came in at the same time.
Moreover, because of his outstanding talent, he was recruited into the Heilongjiang Provincial Song and Dance Troupe and became a soloist, and since then he has truly embarked on the road of music.
Many years later, Yin Xiumei sang songs such as "Building the Chinese Dream Together", "Glory", "I Love the Snow of Your Saibei", "Thank you for the Earth", "Labor is the Most Glorious" and became a real singer.
However, she can become a singer, in fact, thanks to Jiang Kun.
Once, Yin Xiumei received a notice to attend the Canton Fair, so she packed her bags and set off, but when she arrived at the scene, she found that she had been deceived.
In fact, this is a game, only the winners can participate in the Canton Fair, and the people who come to the competition are all the best in the music industry.
Feeling that she had been deceived, Yin Xiumei was very angry and turned around and went to her sister's house.
This game is still very important, after learning that Yin Xiumei left, the group was very anxious, looking for Yin Xiumei's sister's residence everywhere, and had no choice but to ask Jiang Kun to look for it.
Because Jiang Kun and Yin Xiumei are good friends, maybe for the sake of friends, Yin Xiumei will come back.
At that time, Jiang Kun was still sending invitations everywhere, because he was going to get married in 4 days, when he suddenly received a phone call saying:
"Yin Xiumei didn't want to attend the Canton Fair and ran to her sister's house"
Jiang Kun sighed and set out to look for Yin Xiumei.
When the two met, Yin Xiumei was still full of joy, but after learning that he had come to find him to participate in the competition, his face suddenly sank.
At that time, Yin Xiumei was only in her twenties, with a proud heart and a stubborn temper.
Jiang Kun was stunned to talk about dry saliva before convincing her, if it were not for a cross-talk, he really might not be able to persuade Yin Xiumei at that time.
They all got up and left, and Yin Xiumei repented, saying that she didn't want her sister to leave.
Jiang Kun's face changed dramatically and he said:
"Grandma, you have to go, and if you don't go my wedding again, it will be ruined."
In the end, Yin Xiumei still followed Jiang Kun to participate in the competition, although the master was like a cloud, she still got a good result.
Yin Xiumei, who became famous in World War I, was favored by two orchestras, and both the Central Orchestra and the China Broadcasting Art Troupe wanted to dig her up, and finally Yin Xiumei entered the Radio Art Troupe and went to a bigger stage.
At that time, Yin Xiumei performed everywhere and won a lot of light for the troupe.
In 1986, she was also awarded the title of "Twelve Stars of the Divine State Music Scene", when she was 30 years old, did not even have a boyfriend, and the family began to worry about her personal problems.
However, she couldn't eat hot tofu in a hurry, so Yin Xiumei met someone she shouldn't have met.
02
In 1987, under the introduction of relatives and friends, Yin Xiumei met Cheng Zhi, who was 10 years older than herself.
Cheng Zhi is also a well-known tenor singer with works such as "Teach Me How not to Miss Him", "Please Don't Forget Me", "Cold Little Hands", "Negative Heart" and so on.
At that time, the two were old and eager for marriage, and when they first met, Cheng Zhi fell in love with Yin Xiumei at first sight, but Yin Xiumei could not raise interest, and the family was in a hurry and agreed to marry him.
At that time, Yin Xiumei thought that feelings could be slowly cultivated, and maybe she would like him after getting married, but the truth was not satisfactory.
After marriage, the two were not much happy, and Cheng Zhi was more honest, did not know how to take the initiative to talk to Yin Xiumei, and lived a life like an ordinary friend.
After a period of time, Yin Xiumei still had no love for him, so she proposed a divorce, and Cheng Zhi did not object.
In this way, the two only a few months passed from marriage to divorce, and they did not leave children.
After the divorce, Yin Xiumei has a full 10 years of empty window, although she is a very independent person, financially self-sufficient, but whenever friends ask her to go out to play, a group of people are the only ones who are single, and there will inevitably be a sense of loss in her heart.
Seeing that she was always alone everywhere, and her friends had introduced her to her, but after experiencing a failed marriage, Yin Xiumei was unwilling to accept this kind of introduced feelings.
So at that time, whenever someone mentioned the introduction of a boyfriend, she refused.
At that time, Yin Xiumei was almost 40 years old, and everyone thought that she would not get married again, even she herself felt so, but just like fate, she actually "picked up" a husband on the way to a performance.
In the spring of 1986, Yin Xiumei was going to Lanzhou to attend a show and was preparing to take a plane to leave, but because of the delay, she and her assistant waited there for more than an hour.
When they boarded the plane, she was still murmuring with her assistant about the delay in the plane, and at this time Philip in front could hear them talking, Yin Xiumei spoke very well, and Philip couldn't help but look back.
At that time, Yin Xiumei was going to participate in the performance, and she was dressed very delicately.
After boarding the plane, Philip and Yin Xiumei's position was not far away, so Philip took the initiative to come forward to talk, and after the two talked, Philip learned that she was a Chinese singer Yin Xiumei, and it was time to participate in the performance.
So he asked her:
"Can I go to your show?"
Yin Xiumei readily agreed, but at that time she did not think of being moved by this foreigner.
In a few hours of performance, Philip was quietly watching from the stage, and after the performance, Philip had already liked Yin Xiumei, and the foreigner was more straightforward and directly confessed to her.
But because the two Chinese did not understand, Yin Xiumei did not accept him.
However, Philip did not intend to give up, in order to pursue Yin Xiumei, he worked hard to learn Chinese, and after two years, he could fully communicate normally.
You know, Chinese is also quite difficult for foreigners to learn, and there must be a great decision and motivation behind being able to learn this degree in two years.
So Philip went to Yin Xiumei again to confess, this time speaking Mandarin.
At first, Yin Xiumei was surprised, how could this man speak Mandarin?
Philip then said to her:
"In order to pursue you, I spent two years studying"
She did not expect that someone was really willing to pay so much for her, and Yin Xiumei was finally touched by Philip and accepted his confession.
In addition to being moved, Philip is also a particularly romantic person, often buying her small gifts, and looks handsome, after being together, Yin Xiumei found that she liked him more and more.
So in 1988, the two entered the hall of marriage.
A foreigner who met on the plane turned out to be his husband, and Yin Xiumei at the wedding seemed a little incredulous.
However, Yin Xiumei, who was happy after marriage, still had some regrets in her later years.
03
In 1988, when the two were married in Lyon, Neither Yin's parents attended because they had opposed their daughter's marriage to Philip from the beginning.
At that time, Yin Xiumei's mother felt that Philip was very unreliable, although her daughter was older, but she could not find someone to marry, she obviously had a better choice for such conditions.
However, Yin Xiumei ignored the opposition of her family and insisted on marrying Philip.
After getting married, Philip was very fond of her, and the two communicated in Mandarin, and often made Chinese food for her to eat.
And Philip is from a famous French family, the family conditions are very good, often create some small surprises to make her happy, let her everywhere, spoil him into a treasure.
After a period of marriage, Yin Xiumei's mother went to visit her daughter, and when she arrived at Philip's house, she found that this foreigner knew how to live so well and would also cook Chinese food, and her daughter lived here with taste.
The stone in my mother's heart fell to the ground.
Although the two lived happily after marriage, when they got married, they had missed the age of having children.
Therefore, Yin Xiumei, who is now 66 years old, has never had a son and a half daughter, which has also become a regret for Yin Xiumei in her later years.
Although Yin Xiumei married a foreign husband, she never gave up her singing career, she said that she would not change her nationality, and her husband agreed.
In January 2022, she also sang the song "Spring Wind 100,000 Miles" with Yan Weiwen at the Spring Festival Gala.
In-depth reviews:
In fact, the relationship between Yin Xiumei and Cheng Zhi was doomed to end at the beginning, one is that the two have a big age difference, and the other is that Yin Xiumei has never had love for him, and such a marriage will end sooner or later.
Therefore, she wanted to divorce on the day of marriage, which was also the ending that Yin Xiumei had long thought of, but she only let this relationship last for a period of time in order to cope with the urging of her elders.
Even if Cheng Zhi likes Yin Xiumei, but the feelings of wishful thinking, no matter how hard they try, can not wake up a person who does not love you.
There are many such examples in life, although there are few happy people in the marriage introduced by people, most of them are still scattered, and this kind of marriage has never had an emotional basis.
But between Yin Xiumei and Philip, they have gone through a process from meeting each other to falling in love, and Philip knows how to take the initiative and romance, which is the secret of their love to be fresh and long-lasting.
Although she was older when she got married and not having children became a regret for her, at least life was happy.
So it is not necessary to marry at the right age, but to marry the right person.