Li Min fought cancer alone half a year ago and was originally scheduled to divorce in July, and 6 major factors completely pushed her into the abyss
What you want is never obtained, and what you have is lost one by one.
This is the portrayal of Li Min before his death.
I have already written about Li Min's life earlier, and those who know her know that Li Min seems to be enthusiastic and bold, but she is actually a woman with a very conservative and traditional heart.
She is a MV with a bold shooting scale, and she will feel embarrassed and blush when she sees it later.
The best side of Li Min is given to the public, and the bad side of the back is dissolved by himself.
When she had leg surgery at the age of 2, the children in the same ward were howling in pain, but she endured it silently, not crying or making trouble.
A person's personality can be seen from childhood - this kind of temperament that likes to hide pain and pretend to be strong also lays hidden dangers for future depression.
Fate played a series of jokes on her, both forced and her own choices.
1. [Lifelong leg disease]
The left leg was born with a disability, and the operation failed at the age of 2, and the pain accompanied by lifelong pain, and he could only use the right leg to support the whole body for a long time.
She never complained, only speaking out in February of this year and revealing her fears.
II. [Betrayal of Husband and Stepdaughter]
In 2004, Li Min met Bruce, a wealthy Canadian businessman, and finally married in 2011 after many years of long-distance running, and the love and sweetness after several years of marriage should be the happiest time in her life.
But since Bruce can abandon his wife for him, he can also abandon her for others. Within a few years, Bruce began to look for flowers and ask Willow, at first avoiding Li Min, and then simply admitted that he was no longer hiding.
In the end, she was going to divorce, and the two stepdaughters who had gotten along with her also turned their faces.
3. [Never able to get pregnant]
At first, she thought that two stepdaughters were enough, but then she wanted to have her own child, but because she was over 40 years old, it was difficult to conceive.
The thick and long needle pierced her belly, and she endured it, but 9 artificial insemination failed 9 times. She once told a friend that she desperately wanted a child, but she never realized it.
IV. [Breast Cancer]
At the end of 2022, Li Min posted a photo with a drainage bag, and friends confirmed that Li Min was diagnosed with breast cancer six months ago.
People familiar with the matter said that she went to the hospital many times by herself. Only his sister was accompanied during the operation, and Bruce went on a trip without hesitation. So angry that friends cursed, how can such a man not kick away.
My sister did not say what stage breast cancer was, only that the tumor was removed and chemotherapy was not done.
5. [Aggravation of leg disease]
Just two months after breast cancer surgery, her leg disease worsened to the point that she could not walk, claiming that she was the result of a rehearsal dance in October last year. The hip displacement pressed against the nerves, and it hurt to think about it.
She posted a long message encouraging herself to be a female warrior. Although she is transmitting positive energy between the lines, it is not difficult to see her unconcealable fear.
Because after this operation, she really can't dance anymore.
The marriage is about to be lost, and the stage of love will be reduced because of leg problems.
6. [July is the time for divorce by agreement]
According to Li Min's friends, Bruce and her agreed to formally go through the divorce procedures in July.
On June 30, she told her sister that she was not feeling well, went to the hospital for treatment, and this unfortunate thing happened when she returned.
The outside world speculates that as the date approaches, Li Min should be difficult to face this ending, and choose to keep time in a decisive way before the divorce.
A variety of factors superimposed, at first may just be depressed, then gradually develop, psychological effects on the physiology, depression, breast cancer and leg disease one after another. Rao is that she claims to be a female warrior and cannot withstand all this pressure.
Everything has a harbing
In 2023, some of the dynamics released by Li Min on social platforms, and now looking back, I find that there are omen.
She came out with a new song called "Tragic".
Also specially posted this message on Valentine's Day: "Love comes here, one word: tragic"
Tragic means tragedy, seemingly to promote new songs, but in fact expresses sadness through songs.
And the cover image made for the song turned out to be a rose with blood, and she said she liked it:
The color scheme is stunning.
On February 22, the day before her leg surgery, she also posted her thoughts on this cover image:
In fact, this paragraph, she is already a little incoherent: "It is obviously a white rose, but to turn it red, so everything is fake"
It's hard to understand what she's trying to say, and she may just want to say that it's all fake.
Li Min rarely sends many promotions for a new song in a row.
But for this "Tragic", she wrote many feelings, although each time it was a sentence or two, but now it seems that it is hidden meaning.
However, her original intention in making this song was to represent that she was strong enough and encourage all women.
Here are her exact words:
Since the release of this original intention, the further back she goes, the sadder her emotions become.
The long text sent on the day of the operation was undoubtedly an effective relief, so she cheered up for a while.
Learn to walk again and record your rehabilitation every day.
In May, she released a new song "War Song" for "Douluo Continent". The rhythm of the singing is very passionate.
When everyone thought that she had overcome the difficulties and set off again, on the evening of July 5, we learned of her death through her second sister Li Silin.
According to Hong Kong media reports, it is suspected that it was a wrist cut, but the second sister denied the news and begged everyone not to spread it again.
She did not want to reveal the true cause of Li Min's death, only confirming that her sister suffered from depression and breast cancer a few years ago.
Li Min's husband, Bruce, came to Hong Kong to see her for the last time after learning of her death, and after all, he still missed a husband and wife relationship.
It's a pity that everything is irretrievable.
Shortly after the couple's relationship deteriorated in 2019, Li Min was diagnosed with depression.
A psychologist analyzed that she pursues perfection in everything, and this failed marriage may have shattered her values and led to the onset of depression: Li Min believes that hard work can achieve all success, but feelings are not.
Recalling her infant surgery, she was trying to be a good baby, and as an adult, she always showed the sunniest side to everyone, and even her friends couldn't stand the bad marriage, she still wanted to desperately stay intact...
This pursuit of perfection and hiding pain is probably one of the culprits that ultimately destroyed her.
Once depression develops, it is no longer associated with "seeing open", it is a condition in which mood changes are not influenced by the patient's will.
Just like someone breaks their leg and has to go to the hospital for treatment, you can't always tell the other person "look away and it'll be fine."
Leslie Cheung was generous and sunny in his lifetime, and he was also a person who liked to swallow negative emotions alone. People who are too kind can't bear to hurt others, they will only hurt themselves.
May you who are watching, you must be kind to yourself, don't be too wronged yourself, cry when you are sad, laugh when you are happy, and do not have to pursue perfection in everything.