How to make good use of the summer vacation to help children achieve a counterattack? Top parents share their experience in summer vacation arrangement

introduction

Soon it will be summer vacation, let's not underestimate the summer vacation, there is a saying widely spread on campus: not afraid that classmates are top students, afraid of top students for summer vacation! Summer vacation is actually a critical period to open up the gap between children.

How to arrange their children's summer vacation life has also become a matter of great concern to many parents.

More than enough is too much. For the summer vacation living arrangement, there are two wrong tendencies that need to attract the attention of our parents: one is that the arrangement is too tight, and the child seems to be full of clockwork throughout the summer vacation, too tight, busier than normal school.

Another is that the arrangement is too loose, the child has nothing to do throughout the summer vacation, has no goals, has a disordered schedule, and does not know what he is going to do.

Whether it is arranged too tightly or too loosely, it is not conducive to the child's growth.

01 These three misunderstandings should be avoided by our parents

In the summer vacation living arrangement, there are three misunderstandings that we need to avoid:

◑ First, cut time to pieces

Some parents think that the more detailed the summer vacation plan, the better, and the time from getting up in the morning to going to bed at night is accurate to what time it is.

Regardless of whether the child can stick with it for a long time, just by cutting time into such fragments, we will find great drawbacks. The biggest drawback is that the child does not become the master of time, but is forced to become a vassal of time.

Many parents overlook the particularity of summer vacation, which is different from daily schooling. If we compare the holidays and working days of professionals, it is easy to understand: no professional person still arranges their work and rest according to the working day on holidays.

During the summer vacation, in addition to several key time points such as waking up in the morning, napping and going to bed late, we should give children more rights to free time, so as to mobilize children's enthusiasm for learning.

Otherwise, when the child wakes up from the morning and finds that his whole day has been cut to pieces, there will be a sense of oppression in the "cage", even if it can be implemented step by step, it is also passive participation, such a summer vacation arrangement will only make the child more and more negative about learning.

◐ Second, the proportion of subject knowledge arrangement is too large

This is also a very common mistake. Often some parents turn the summer vacation into a second classroom, compared with the normal school, many children have to take online classes and do homework every day during the summer vacation.

The excessive proportion of subject knowledge arrangement will not only cause excessive learning pressure for children, but also greatly crowd out the time that children should have spent on developing other abilities, which obviously limits children's all-round development.

◐ The third is to overly "roll" the child

This excessive "rolling" of children is mainly manifested in the fact that parents sign up for a large number of off-campus tuition classes for their children, so that the child's entire summer vacation is either in the cram school or on the way to the cram school. Summer vacation like this seems more tiring than school.

Children seem to have a very "fulfilling" life, but practice has proved that such "fulfillment" is meaningless, and in the long run, it will only make children rebel against learning.

If a child's grades are so poor that they have to make up classes, in many cases, it is because the child has not solved the problem of listening carefully at school. Children can't listen well inside school, and it's unlikely to work miracles outside of school. In fact, the first thing parents should solve should be the problem of children's attitude to learning.

Making good use of summer vacation is not about treating summer vacation as a school day. Many parents seem to be "rolling dolls" on the surface, but they are actually "pit dolls".

02 How to plan your summer vacation life scientifically

So how to make scientific planning for children during the summer vacation?

I am also a parent myself, and I actually have a lot of resonance with many parents on how to arrange this matter during the summer vacation.

In the face of summer vacation, we must balance the two key points of "physical and mental relaxation" and "physical and mental indulgence" of children.

"Physical and mental relaxation" and "physical and mental indulgence" are two completely different concepts, with essential differences, and the exclusion of learning "physical and mental indulgence" is different, "physical and mental relaxation" itself does not exclude learning, on the contrary, learning can also become the protagonist of summer vacation life, we advocate children to achieve physical and mental relaxation during summer vacation, so that "play" and "learning" can be taken into account.

Although the summer vacation has not yet arrived, I talked to my daughter (fifth grade of elementary school) about the summer vacation arrangement last weekend, which is also our annual practice to get the work done in advance.

My daughter and I first discussed and evaluated her current overall situation, and then determined the stage development goals that we want to achieve in the next semester, and then determined what tasks to complete during the summer vacation according to the evaluation situation and the development goals to be achieved. These tasks are spread over the entire summer vacation, not every hour. All tasks at the moment serve the next stage of development.

For example, if you want your child to master 60 ancient poems during the summer vacation, share it and master roughly two ancient poems a day, as for how to arrange the recitation of ancient poems, it can be left to the child to decide independently, the child only needs to complete the task well, and does not need to fix a time period to memorize, parents only need to be responsible for acceptance on the day.

Another example is reading every day during the summer. I found that many people were misleading parents, such as writing a rule on the summer vacation schedule that "read one page of books every day". If we really apply this practice bluntly, then the child will not have any reading gains, let alone enter the realm of reading flow.

The truth is actually very simple: reading is not about making a show for others to see.

When a child really enters the reading state, it is impossible to specify the amount of reading in one or several pages. Reading is a very self-centered thing, and it emphasizes the flow experience.

03 Share my daughter's summer vacation plans this year

Specifically, my daughter is preparing for this summer's vacation as follows:

◑ About the completion of summer vacation practical assignments

Complete all summer practice assignments by the end of July. Completing summer vacation practical assignments should not be too rushed or too procrastinating, and the time of one month is just right. Any learning must have a normal rhythm in order to receive the desired effect, and the quality of the work rushed out is generally not too high.

Of course, it is too procrastinating to do homework, and in the end, in order to complete the homework before the start of school, the child hastily copes, and finally becomes "rushing".

◐ Fill in the gaps in subject knowledge

Because my daughter's grades in all subjects are very good, there is no specific arrangement for this piece of work to fill in the gaps during the summer vacation, so that more time can be freed up to arrange the study of other projects.

If we find that our children's subject performance is indeed not satisfactory, we can also use the summer vacation to check and fill the gaps, and strive to fill the gaps during the holidays to ensure that the next semester can keep up with the progress.

◑ About the accumulation of ancient poetry

The accumulation of ancient poems is conducive to providing rich materials for children's writing. My daughter's accumulation of ancient poems has reached more than 1,500, and this summer she will strive to master about 180 more, and the goal is to exceed 2,000 before graduating from the sixth grade.

While accumulating ancient poetry, I also cultivated my daughter's sense of poetry, and she will write hundreds of grammatical poems and ancient style poems every semester.

◐ On the accumulation of classical Chinese

Don't think that it is too early to accumulate classical Chinese in primary school, if children do not have a foundation in primary school, it will be difficult to form a sense of classical Chinese, and in the future, when they go to junior high school, learning classical Chinese will be more difficult, let alone be able to write high-quality classical Chinese articles.

Because children lack the context of classical Chinese in their daily lives, in order to improve their comprehension ability and cultivate their sense of language, they can only absorb from the famous texts of previous generations of classical Chinese masters. Practice has proved that the sooner the child is exposed, the better the child's sense of literary language.

In the first semester of the fourth grade, my daughter was able to use classical Chinese proficiently and write articles that could shock the teachers of the entire Chinese teaching and research group, not because she had this talent, but because she mastered a considerable number of famous classical Chinese texts in the early stage, almost to the point of blurting out, and had a strong sense of classical Chinese, which laid the foundation for her literary creation. The summer vacation time is relatively abundant, which provides a time guarantee for her literary accumulation.

In addition to the Analects and Mencius, there are currently hundreds of famous articles in the "Guwen Guanzhi" alone, and it is planned to accumulate another 30 this summer. For children who do not have a foundation in classical Chinese, they can recite a few sentences or a short paragraph of classical Chinese every day during the summer vacation, which seems to be a small amount, but if they really do not fall a day, the cumulative amount of several years is enough to change the child's temperament and knowledge structure.

◑ About summer vacation reading

In my opinion, reading should be the most uninterrupted thing in the entire summer vacation life.

We don't artificially stipulate that children must read several pages a day, what we have to do is to continuously stimulate children's interest in reading, provide them with a large number of excellent reading materials, and when this reading interest becomes a habit, we will take the initiative to read even if we do not care about children's reading in the future. Because reading has melted into the depths of their souls, like air and water, they cannot do without.

As for what books children should read during the summer vacation, I suggest: first, we must respect children's reading interests, but respecting children's reading interests does not mean that we parents have to give up our responsibility to guide; Second, we can refer to the reading lists recommended by some professionals and tailor a reading list for children.

For example, my daughter began reading most of the original Chinese and foreign masterpieces in the second grade, and after a few years, she far surpassed many peers in reading comprehension and writing ability.

◐ About the development of personal interests

Each child has their own hobbies, such as painting, playing musical instruments, calligraphy, literary creation, computer programming, etc., and we can encourage them to use the summer vacation to develop their own hobbies.

◑ Exercise and fitness

This summer, we will continue to enroll our children in a swimming class with the goal of mastering swimming skills. In addition, accompany the child to complete a certain amount of exercise such as skipping rope every night.

◐ Housework

Now that labor class has become an independent course in primary and secondary schools, its importance to children's growth is self-evident, from the perspective of promoting the development of children's physical and mental health, children of each age must participate in housework within their ability.

Every summer vacation, I would have her join us in housework. The reason for participating together is that there are two purposes, one is to guide children to learn to do housework on the spot; Second, for the safety of children, especially in the kitchen, parents should not let young children stay alone in the kitchen to operate.

The projects I've listed may seem like a lot, but most of them can be completed if we can guide our children to manage their time wisely.

epilogue

I have proved with my own experience that if we can make reasonable use of the summer vacation, it is indeed possible for children to develop in all aspects and successfully achieve a counterattack.