The summer vacation of adolescent babies is indeed a headache
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Raising a baby to the age of 12, I think it's a smooth ride along the way, twin girls, in general, it's more worry-free. Since this summer, however, things have changed.
Dabao has always been a cute and cute child, clingy and gentle when he was a child, unlike his sister when she was in the fourth and fifth grade, she always rolled her eyes and pulled her face all day, as if who owed her three hundred hanging money.
However, her sister has now become easygoing, smiling all day, and Dabao is beginning to roll her eyes. Say a top sentence, always unconvinced, always have a reason, a face full of rebellion.
I think it's still the trouble of mobile phones, six years in the past six months, the mobile phone really did not control, let it go, chatting with little girlfriends all day, watching game videos. Nowadays, addiction cannot be blamed on children, or the pot of adults.
So I calmly and calmly, persuaded each other with good words, and never made irrational behaviors such as beating and cursing, dropping mobile phones and smashing computers.
The parent-child relationship is good, and in the process of slow correction, Dabao is generally quite obedient. The mobile phone is handed over, and I have not fought to collect the mobile phone, to this extent, I think there is still salvation.
But it's easy to lie flat, and it's really hard to get back to learning, and I thought about not doing too many tasks at the beginning, scaring the baby, and not doing it. So I took a seventh-grade zero-based online class at an institution every morning, and did school summer homework in the afternoon.
To say that this summer homework is really a Buddha, three or four arithmetic + one application problem every day (25 days can be done), read "Bookworm" in English for 20 minutes (can be done for 30 days), trace two pages of words, and it is done.
This little bit of work, at best, adds up to an hour, but she always emphasizes working all afternoon. I came home from work every day with her mobile phone, and this fat baby said that she was tired today and asked to spend all the night playing.
I handed her the mobile phone while discussing, you have too little work, those three and four calculations and an application problem, fart work will be written, you will write a few more days, almost 25 days to write, let's do something else.
Don't even think about it!
Isn't the school finished today? Why do you let people write 5 days in 1 day?
You want to trick me into finishing it quickly so that I can arrange your work, right?
I saw that this is a professional master who does not learn to learn by himself, and this is the truth that I slowly realized after working for several years that you can't work too fast.
When you finish your work, the boss will arrange a new job for you immediately; After you write the material, the leader immediately proposes a bunch of revisions; The stronger you are, the heavier and more burdensome you will be...
I endured my anger and said nicely:
Do you take advantage of the summer vacation to learn more, can't you crush others when school starts?
Dabao pretended to be innocent and kind, and asked:
Why should I crush others? Crushing others, how sad and uncomfortable people are!
Depend on! You still have this Virgin's heart! When you are crushed, I see that you are sad and uncomfortable, right?
People still have something to say:
Why do you always want to crush others? You let me learn more, I crushed, and then people looked at it, people hurried to learn more, and came to crush me, isn't this an involution? What if it goes on like this?
I fall! When did Dabao secretly evolve into an anti-PUA master, every sentence said is the true meaning of anti-involution in the workplace, but goose!!
You give me less nonsense! If you don't roll or not, people have to roll it, just your day 3 four calculations and 1 application problem, who do you want to roll, you, you even say so many truths! Isn't it that you don't want to study and play with your phone?
The new generation of children is really difficult to do ideological education work, if he (she) does not want to learn, you are motivated, sarcastic, scolded, tender, soft and hard do not eat, full of anti-PUA truth, in a word.
What to do, can you still push the baby out in the big summer? Picking up bottles to endure hardship education? Don't get by with the uncle who looks at the trash can downstairs.
Is it okay to start a beating? The biological one, what to do with that enemy, really can't gnaw the old.
Dad Jin will definitely shake his head again when he sees this: Loving mother is a loser! Hmph, he tried another one, Baoqi is not as good as us, we haven't scuffled to grab the phone, although it is already about the same height as me.
Sometimes think about it, what Wa said is unreasonable, the crushing between students, like the glamorous pressure between stars, is there still a head when rolled up? The end result is that everyone is getting more and more tired, the cost is getting higher and higher, society is not progressing, and parents are not necessarily happy.
The so-called "heads" and "other people's children" starting from elementary school have become the envy of everyone by attending good middle schools and classes, good universities, doing high-end technical work, and even going abroad to engage in research. But these children have learned really hard along the way.
Whether it is a weekday or a holiday, the wind comes, the rain goes, and the class brushes the questions in class. I took exams every three to five, and at a young age I accepted the cruelty of comparison among my peers. Always learning, always rushing to learn, studying deeply, going to college can not stop, after studying for a doctorate, it is basically a life that cannot be stopped.
While another group of children, elementary school smiled and played, middle school rebellious lying flat. Blowing air conditioners, eating watermelons and playing with mobile phones, compared to peers who go to training, they suffer a lot less. Don't suffer now and suffer later? That's not necessarily...
Find a less advanced job, go home early every day, don't need to use your brain, eat and drink, giggle. Parents call over, help, rub some money, is also a lifetime, but does not live in the image of "cow" in the mouth of others.
It's hard to say which life is better.
Maybe it is precisely because of this kind of thinking in my subconscious that exacerbates the child's good and bad work, if I believe in the victory of people like Father Jin, discipline and cultivate habits from an early age,......
Recently, I have communicated a lot with friends, and what is empathetic is that I heard many parents complaining about the difficulty shown by the new first child. It's exactly the same as Dabao: find ways to steal and play with your phone more.
During the hot summer vacation, parents worked hard to carry mobile phones and other electronic devices and remote controls to work, step by step, like minions, like the steps of the devil.
Last night, on a whim, I pushed the treasure gate in, and found that she was chatting with her girlfriend using the learning machine... So I have another learning machine in my bag for work today.
And what is the use of scolding? I just feel the hustle and bustle.
If you don't teach, your mother's fault, since this situation was caused by my pampering at the beginning, I can only solve it myself.
The natural temperament is also good, and what she said does make sense, but it is not okay to be addicted to mobile phones at a young age.
It doesn't matter if you don't go to a prestigious school, it doesn't matter if you don't go to a prestigious school, you always have to get a good university so that you can find a good job.
In order to achieve this goal that is not too high, the first year of junior high school has to keep an eye on it no matter what, and my eyes have been on her since then, slowly adding homework.
1. Complete the summer vacation homework first.
2. The basic mathematics course of the previous seventh grade.
3. There is a class to continue to keep warm English.
4. Practice rational number calculation.
5. Memorize points + review English words.
Don't joke low, it's good to be able to do it, you have to slowly recover your state. I've been herding sheep for a whole year, and now I am aggrieved if I learn a little. It's better to invite hatred than to insist on watching and doing, which is better than resenting us when you grow up.
It seems that he suddenly understood the painstaking efforts of the leadership ... No!
An overworked life, and a rolled-up society, are never worth singing.
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