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There is a quarrel on the high-speed train again!
On April 23, in Chongqing, two women on the high-speed train had a fierce argument, one was a mother with a baby in her arms for several months, and the other was pregnant for several months.
The pregnant woman in the front row wanted to sleep, but because the baby in the back row kept crying in her ears, she couldn't sleep.
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So she roared at the woman with the baby in the back seat: Don't argue, don't argue, don't bring a child!
The mother with the baby was yelled at and scolded: You are a pregnant woman.
The whole carriage echoed with the quarrels of the two, or the crying of babies.
Children crying, passengers and parents arguing, such things really happen frequently, and they can be hot searches every time.
This time, it also triggered heated discussions among netizens, and some netizens felt:
"Babies are not children, they will cry when their ears are uncomfortable on the high-speed train, they can't control themselves, and the appeasement effect of parents is limited, don't be too outrageous."
"Be more tolerant of your mother, little babies are really unbearable sometimes, and they are not the kind of bear children whose parents don't care."
"I thought it was a bear child who could already talk, could run and jump, this family is still a baby in his hand, and those who have raised children know that babies are really difficult to coax and not carry..."
Some netizens think:
"Baby crying, please come to the carriage junction."
"It is a virtue that public does not affect others."
"Did she think about the noise affecting all the passengers in the car?"
Whenever I encounter this problem, the comments are polarized.
But right now, this problem seems to have always been a difficult problem.
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Baby cries for 45 minutes on the plane
The passenger cursed: Let that child die!
Quarrels like the above between parents and passengers often occur.
In the past two days, foreign media have also reported such a news, the baby plane cried for 45 minutes, and the passengers collapsed and cursed.
It happened on the plane from Palm Beach, Florida, to Orlando, and the weather was very bad that day, the plane was delayed, the passengers were already impatient, and the young children were in a bad mood.
Under such a premise, the plane took off.
During the flight, a middle-aged man broke out, saying that he wanted to sleep for a while wearing earplugs, but a baby kept crying, and he couldn't stand it.
He yelled at the flight attendant: I paid for your ticket, and that XXX little fart cried for 45 minutes!
When the flight attendant reminded him to be quieter, he was even more furious: There was a child on the plane crying, crying non-stop, you have to calm the child down, so I didn't yell, do you want to hear what is really yelling? I told you I would.
In this regard, the flight attendant reassured again, but the man's mood was even more crazy: all of us were locked up in an XXX and an XXX baby was locked up in a tin that kept echoing, and you XXX are still persuading me to be kind?
"That baby shouted all the way!!!"
"Did that stupid X pay you extra before you allowed him to cry?"
"I don't care about that shit! xx, let the child be quieter, I was so excited by the noise, let that child die!! ”
The flight attendant immediately reprimanded him for not speaking ill of the baby, and the man immediately shot back: All of us will sit on this xx plane and listen to this cub cry for 45 minutes! What are you!
In this way, the entire plane was filled with the roar of men.
As a result of this incident, the man refused to disembark after the plane arrived and was eventually taken away by the police.
This matter has also caused heated discussions on the Internet, and the comments are the same as the news in Chongqing above, some people feel that they should be more tolerant of small babies, and some people think that parents should manage their children well in public.
The polarizing comments also mean that if you don't handle babies and toddlers crying well, if passengers can't give more tolerance and understanding, it will inevitably lead to quarrels.
But it's not just about arguing about this one answer.
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For young uncontrollable little babies
Please be more understanding and tolerant!
On public transportation, babies cry, and the most anxious must be parents.
There are many moms who have shared their experiences:
Take a 1-year-old child to take the high-speed train, and the child can't be quiet for a minute,
Almost the whole time with the child at the door of the toilet,
The 5-hour trip takes less than 20 minutes, and I'm really tired.
I hope you understand more,
Children's crying is generally not intentional, and adults do their best.
I took my baby (one year old and one month) on a plane last month, and she cried so hard when she took off and landed,
I tried everything to give her food and water, and I kept trying to see what the people next to her were doing,
I can see that others are very disgusted, fortunately there are empty seats on the plane, holding her and sitting on the side to look out the window,
I guess because I was very positive the whole time, no one said anything about me, but I never wanted to fly anymore.
In confined spaces such as airplanes and high-speed trains, adults will still be uncomfortable, and children will be even more so.
Sometimes because of motion sickness or discomfort, children do cry, and the uncomfortable feeling does not disappear, and it is difficult for parents to coax their children well.
At this time, what others can do is really only be more tolerant and understanding.
Of course, the premise is that parents also have to find ways to calm their children's crying.
As one father said: If my child is noisy in public, I feel guilty and will do everything I can to stop my child from continuing to be noisy.
But children crying this kind of thing is very metaphysical, sometimes you don't want to manage it, so I think the focus is on the attitude of parents, whether they have the intention to manage, if you really manage it but still can't control it, the surrounding people still understand.
If parents let it go, then it really has to be said.
When faced with such a question, a mother gave a textbook answer:
The mother took the 1-year-old and 3-month-old baby on the plane, and after the plane took off, the mother sent small gifts to the flight attendant and the surrounding passengers: earplugs and two candies, and a paragraph was printed on the back of the gift bag -
Anticipate problems in advance and find ways to make up for them, so that passengers feel respected and empathize.
In such a situation, even if the child cries, everyone can understand, after all, everyone grew up from a baby.
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For older children
Parents should take care of their children as well as possible!
Some netizens said: What I hate is not the baby crying itself, but the parent's attitude of "I have a baby, you have to endure".
Yes, sometimes it is the attitude of parents who do not care and make the argument uncontrollable.
Such an incident happened on the high-speed train a while ago, a 3-year-old child made a loud noise on the high-speed train, and a passenger discouraged it.
At first, the parents also apologized repeatedly: "I'm really sorry." ”
But the child's noise did not stop, but it continued, and the passengers in the back seat could not bear it anymore, and solemnly reminded again: "You guys take care of your children, the noise is dead!" ”
As a result, the child's whole family took turns to fight, and the child's mother, grandmother, and father took turns to scare the passengers:
"We can't control the child, the 3-year-old can't understand the reason, we are already covering his mouth, and tell us what to do?"
"This is the high-speed train of the public, want to be quiet, go to the advanced one!"
"I'm sorry, is there something wrong with you! Don't give birth to children in your life, you have to take them to death when you give birth! ”
Have you ever taken a high-speed train, is it your first time on a high-speed train? I forgive you. ”
For a while, the quarrel became uncontrollable, and the flight attendants could not stop it.
This incident also triggered a heated discussion on the Internet at that time.
Some said that "in just a few minutes, the quality of three generations of the family has been reflected", while others said that the female passengers were too aggressive.
As parents, children can understand that they can make noise, but for 3-year-olds, they can communicate normally.
In this case, it is not good to manage the child, and it can only be said that the method is not useful.
Remember the 3-year-old girl in Heilongjiang who wiped the carriage with wet wipes?
When Duoduo was more than 1 year old, her parents took her to travel by high-speed train, because Duoduo also loved to be noisy in the car, and her parents were worried that their children's noisy would affect others.
When her mother saw Duoduo wiping the floor and the wall with wet wipes on the table, without making noise or making noise, she encouraged Duoduo to keep doing it.
Mom said: I stood next to her, and when she finished wiping a piece, I said, 'Duoduo, you are so good!'" The more she praised her, the more vigorous she became, thinking that the child would be tired to sleep after wiping for a while, but she didn't expect her to wipe until she reached the station. ”
This method not only quieted Duo Duo, but also gave Duo Duo a sense of accomplishment: "When I praised her, her eyes were glowing." ”
According to my mother: My husband and I don't want our children to disturb others when we go out, and we will prepare our children's snacks and cartoons in advance.
Now that Duoduo is 3 years old, as long as she goes out for a ride, her mother will tell Duoduo that public places do not belong to the individual, and if you are sleeping, your parents are yelling next to you, you will definitely not be happy.
Such an education, really amazing.
The pregnant mother feels that in this matter, whether there will be quarrels depends on the attitude of the parents.
As one mom said:
As a mother, I will do my best to calm my child down when this happens, and I will sincerely apologize to the surrounding passengers and ask for understanding.
Now the child is 2 years old and very sensible and obedient.
But the child in infancy is uncontrollable, and when the child cries, the parents are the most anxious one, and I will understand this.
But if there are parents who let it go, help the abuse, and make unreasonable noises, then I don't agree or understand.
True, many times, passengers are annoyed not by the child, but by the attitude of the parents.
On public transport, it is really not a big difficulty to avoid quarrels:
If it is a small baby, parents can prepare some small gifts in advance (earplugs, candy, sticky notes, etc.) to give the front and rear seat passengers a vaccination, which is respectful.
According to the baby's age, prepare some toys, snacks, pacifiers, and try your best to comfort the child.
If it is an older baby, prepare some toys and snacks that the baby likes, and if it is a very noisy baby, you can also carry the baby to the connection at both ends of the carriage to play, and try not to take the child across the train again and again, affecting others to rest.
When the baby is 3 or 4 years old and can communicate, you can transmit more rules to the baby not to speak loudly and noisily in public, and the baby is much more sensible than we think.
Don't think that children can't manage when they are young, and children who can't manage are useless methods.
Finally, the pregnant mother also hopes that in the face of parents who have tried their best to coax their children, everyone can be more tolerant and understanding.
Understand parents who have been apologizing, saying sorry, and trying to coax their children, because it is the parents who cry the most.
Understand the discomfort of children riding in the car, because they are not bear children, but small children.
At the moment, mutual understanding and cooperation may be the only way out for such things!
Reference article
"Extranet noisy! The baby cried on the plane for 45 minutes, and the passengers collapsed and cursed and were taken away by the police! Some people scold him for his giant baby, some people call him a hero... - British newspaper sister"
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