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From 1984 to the present, Wu Gang has been debuting for 39 years.
He has appeared in hundreds of works, and his popularity has skyrocketed with his excellent acting skills and fitting temperament.
Especially in the TV series "Trident", Wu Gang's righteous and awe-inspiring image is deeply loved by the audience.
But he didn't expect that he, who was prosperous in his career, would also suffer from love in reality.
He had a 15-year marriage with Dink's wife Zhao Ying, during which he was not only rejected by his ex-wife Zhao Ying, but also "ruthlessly" abandoned.
However, after the two divorced, 63-year-old Wu Gang not only did not remarry, but stayed with Chen Jin, who was unmarried and sterile, for 21 years.
What exactly is the reason for this?
The emergence of key figures
A key figure in their story is Chen Jin.
He has won many awards for "The Three-Body Problem", "Calm Waves" and "Eighteen Cave Village", and is well known to the public.
Wu Gang and Chen Jin, seemingly at no intersection, met in "Seventeen Days of Life and Death".
Similar childhood experiences and the pursuit of a dull life made the two cherish each other, and soon became like confidants.
Chen Jin is independent and confident, dignified and atmospheric, not too pursuing fame and fortune, and only enjoys the process of acting.
Following the Hundred Flowers Award, she was awarded the Huabiao Award again, but when she delivered her speech, she only expressed her gratitude to the director and language teacher many times.
However, who would have thought:
Chen Jin, who has experienced a variety of life in the play and has also played countless wives and mothers, is a complete unmarried infertility person.
She even agreed with her brother Chen Zhun that her brother would send her death.
Chen Jin's favorite phrase is that freedom is when you stand alone, not attached, not afraid.
Perhaps she never thought that she would meet a friend like Wu Gang in the rest of her life.
Of course, this is also a great blessing for them, and it is necessary to travel together at some times.
It is precisely because of Chen Jin's pursuit of freedom and fearlessness of loneliness that he gradually influenced and even changed Wu Gang's "obsession" of wanting children.
He accepted Chen Jin's "life is the process of getting along with yourself".
Only by constantly overcoming oneself is it real, and pinning hope on others is always insecure and ethereal.
It was precisely because of the change of thinking that the later Wu was able to slowly come out of the frustration of divorce and return to a normal life.
However, it must be known that the acquaintance of Wu Gang and Chen Jin was before Wu Gang was divorced.
And such a close "confidant" relationship, under the eyes of the public "there is no pure friendship between men and women", scandals naturally came out.
This matter may be the "last straw" to finalize Wu Gang's divorce from Zhao Ying.
Fifteen years of marriage ended in a bubble
For the divorce, Zhao Ying just felt that the two chose different paths, and naturally they could not go together in the end.
And the rumors of the scandal also mean that Wu Gang may have someone he likes, so it is a good way to complete it.
However, Wu Gang could not withstand such a blow, and the fragile heart under the resolute exterior could not be understood at all.
Why did the two people who have walked through acquaintance, acquaintance and love together come to this point?
And Zhao Ying does not seem to have the slightest nostalgia, as if the time of more than ten years has been illusory.
Wu Gang, who is depressed, also knows that blindly slumping is not the way, and finally decides to paralyze himself with a full work, "Maybe time can heal everything."
With the birth of works such as "National Cadres", "I'm Waiting for You in Heaven", "Migrant Workers Go Home", "Flying with You", "It's Not Easy for Parents" and other works, Wu Gang's popularity has become higher and higher, and wealth has gradually accumulated.
Although material wealth is essential, spiritual sufficiency is even more valuable, and Wu Gang, who has both fame and fortune, not only does not become easier, but produces self-anxiety.
The long-term anxiety and distress made Wu Gang constantly doubt and deny himself.
At such moments, how important it is to have a friend who can give advice in time, or even just as a listener.
And Chen Jin is such a character, her straightforward and innocent, "alternative" views and unique opinions, can be said to open the door to a new world for Wu Gang - to surpass himself, challenge himself, and live for freedom!
Unlike Wu Gang who is "troubled" by fame and fortune, his ex-wife Zhao Ying has been running on the road to make money.
Different ways do not conspire against each other
Since 1991, Zhao Ying was influenced by "going to the sea" and decided to abandon acting to engage in business and accumulate wealth, and the two lived a separated life again.
For Zhao Ying, this incident is nothing more than the beginning of becoming a business female elite alone without her husband's help and support.
For Wu Gang, his wife's lack of news and disregard was enough to depress him for several years.
However, where there is shadow, there must also be light. Wu Gang, who is trying to cheer up with the help of his family, makes a comeback.
Although the supporting role is his new beginning, Ma, deputy director of the Dashanzi Mining Bureau in "Secretary of the Provincial Party Committee", has opened up his new character shaping plate - "leadership".
Since then, Wu Gang has shined in dramas such as "Civil Conscience", "Heroic Age", "Storm Court" and "Seventeen Days of Life and Death".
At the same time, Zhao Ying is also making a splash in the catering industry of her choice.
However, the story of Wu Gang and Zhao Ying did not break down because they had no emotional foundation from the beginning.
At that time, one of them was the heroine Altaryn, who was loved by the director and had countless suitors, and the other was an unknown actor who could only rely on hard work.
So how did they come together?
Know each other, know each other, love each other
Both were born at the People's Liberation Army Academy of Arts, and after graduation, they were both assigned to Bayi Film Studio.
Whether it was Zhao Ying's strong personality that complemented Wu Gang, or perhaps because of Wu Gang's careful and considerate care, he could go up to the hall and down the kitchen, and even impressed Zhao Ying by learning to cook Shanghai cuisine for her, and the two finally came together.
The small dormitory, but there are three meals for two people and four seasons, but it is also plain and warm.
However, Zhao Ying's "ambition" was finally revealed under the catalyst of her character.
She is no longer satisfied with Wu Gang's statement that she "enjoys the family", but is obsessed with taking on more plays and making more money.
After failing to persuade Wu Gang, he didn't say much and began his perennial filming life.
The marriage cracks between the two probably also began at this time.
Just imagine, the couple can't see each other several times a year, and when they see each other, they are even more troubled by trivial matters, and they quarrel from time to time.
Even for the same thing, in the long run, isn't it a matter of time before they separate?
They also had a dispute over the child, and Wu Gang felt that it was time to have a child when he was old.
But Zhao Ying always believes that giving birth to a child is irresponsible to the child under insufficient economic conditions, and she will never let the child experience the suffering they have endured again.
Of course, this conversation still ended with Zhao Ying's hasty departure, leaving Wugang alone at a loss.
The formation of Wu Gang's character and thoughts is naturally related to his childhood experience.
Wu Gang, who suffered a mutation when he was a child
It can be said that Wu Gang, who suddenly changed his family when he was a child, and the children of soldiers who lived happily from everyone envied, fell and were avoided by everyone.
Little Wu Gang may not have known at that time that the former Youwu had left him, and all he could understand was the disgust of his partners and the teasing and bullying...
Until he and his sister followed their parents to Sichuan to make a living, they watched the hands that were originally used for dancing and holding microphones become rough and dark, and the originally clear and loud singing voice became dry and hoarse.
It is said that "children from poor families become heads of household early".
Wu Gang seems to have grown up overnight - washing and cooking, picking up and dropping off his sister, tidying up the housework, and he has gradually become familiar with all the big and small affairs at home, and it has also laid a solid foundation for him to grasp the work outside the home when he grows up.
After graduating from junior high school, Wu Gang returned to Qingdao to become a senior carpenter.
Wu Gang, who was still yearning for seafarers and successfully entered the ocean company with the support of his mother, found that he was not suitable after experiencing the dangerous job of an electrician's apprenticeship.
Finally, because of his excellent appearance, he was selected into the literary troupe and began his acting life for nearly half of his life.
During this period, Wu Gang suffered a failed marriage.
But God allowed him to meet a close friend.
Not husband and wife, but with the same heart
That person was Chen Jin.
Of course, their relationship may have gone far beyond that of ordinary friends, and such companionship seems to have reached the spiritual level of soul fit rather than material provision.
At work, they discuss, study and progress together;
In life, they wash their hands together to make soup, go shopping and talk together, which is also plain and warm.
They also travel together and challenge together.
In 2017, Wu Gang, who was already over half a hundred years old, signed up with Chen Jin to climb Mount Everest and challenge the limit.
After hearing about the danger of climbing, many people chose to give up, and Wu Gang also moved such an idea, but Chen Jin did not hesitate.
"Challenges are an essential part of life, and of course, so is calmness, and life is complete only if you experience both." Chen Jin said.
Life always requires a few impulses.
Chen Jin, 53, spent his most memorable birthday on the summit of Mount Everest.
This is not only a small goal in her life, but also a testament to her success in challenging herself.
Today, the 63-year-old Wu Gang is still alone, with no wife and no children.
But he is not alone, with a confidant like Chen Jin and Chen Zhun as a companion, for him who does not seek fame and fortune, perhaps sincere companionship and true happiness are the most precious wealth.
Zhao Ying, on the other hand, is like a fish in the turbulent business field, playing wantonly, and training herself into a generation of strong women.
Although the two who were originally husband and wife, their lives are now very different, one is colorful, and the other is as plain as water.
But this is their choice, for them, everything now may be the best arrangement - Wu Gang has Chen Jin who can understand himself and accompany him in pursuing a dull and warm life, and Zhao Ying also has his own business empire.
And neither of them chose to remarry and have children, one may be successfully enlightened, the other may think that the capable self is no longer suitable and has no energy to deal with.
Different life choices naturally bring different results.
But we should respect the choices of others, and be firm in our own choices, so that we can be worthy of our hearts.
Who can say that Wu Gang or Zhao Ying made the wrong choice?
After Wu Gang went through twists and turns, in exchange for Chen Jin's current 20 years of companionship, how can it be said that it is not a different kind of happiness?