01.
To be honest, I really didn't like KK at first, I don't think he deserves Tong Chenjie's good, I don't understand KK so childish and emotional, why tong Chenjie forgives him again and again? But when I saw that I changed my mind about KK, maybe because he was a very warm person, it warmed Tong Chenjie's heart.
Tong Chenjie had a marriage, and that marriage was for Tong Chenjie, and if she met her ex-husband again, it would be impossible to have physical contact with him. Because she didn't love, because that marriage brought her pain and humiliation.
At that time, the three female guests talked about the topic of Guo Keyu and Zhang He having a lot of physical contact, Tong Chenjie rarely said her opinion of her ex-husband, she said: "If it is my ex-husband, I would rather freeze to death than touch him, if my ex-husband comes to participate in this show, you will find that KK is a hundred times better than him." My ex-husband is a very formal person, he is a person with a more serious sense of form than I am, and the feeling is always being shown to outsiders. You know what it's like to be? There is no such, intertwined feeling inside, there is no. So if I met my ex-husband, I wouldn't have physical contact with him, and that's why. ”
Presumably, after the comparison of the previous ice-deep form of marriage, Tong Chenjie realized what a marriage with temperature looks like. KK is indeed very good, in addition to childishness and love of alcohol, and then more emotional, if he is more responsible, then their marriage is really good, which may also be the reason why Tong Chenjie refuses to divorce.
Regarding the two of them, I expected the final outcome, and the two of them will definitely continue to be married.
But after 18 days of travel, did they find the answer they wanted? Tong Chenjie is more convinced that she loves KK, so she is also willing to give KK a chance. As long as KK can get rid of his stinky habit of drinking and have a little more responsibility, then their marriage can be good.
Having already experienced a marriage, it is not easy to find a suitable person, so Tong Chenjie does not want to give up so easily, so let them mend it, I really hope that they can live well, can be white-headed with the old kind.
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In fact, the marriage between Tong Chenjie and KK is not a big problem, as long as KK can reflect and realize his own problems.
KK is quite childish, he is the kind that can enliven the atmosphere, big boy, but not so capable of carrying things. He has a lot of strange theories, such as "let Tong Chenjie do more housework because he loves her" and so on. Tong Chenjie is also too accustomed to KK, every time KK has a temper tantrum, it is Tong Chenjie who coaxes him. KK is like the male version of Zhu Yaqiong, carefree in marriage, no man's appearance.
The crux of their marriage was: "No children" and "abstinence from alcohol."
KK has never felt that "having children" has nothing to do with "quitting alcohol", so he has always been very resistant, he feels that Tong Chenjie is making unreasonable trouble, he feels that this is an excuse for Tong Chenjie not to have children. But in fact, it is not, it is precisely because KK is drunk and always so emotional, Tong Chenjie is afraid of having children. Tong Chenjie is a woman whose original family is very unloving, her parents divorced when she was very young, and then her mother took her on the road, maybe her father loves to drink, there is a layer of reason, she also hates not being able to accept that a father loves to drink, because she has been hurt, she does not want her children to be like her, in that insecure environment.
If KK knows this layer of relationship, he should understand Tong Chenjie more and think about how difficult she really is.
Women need a sense of security, because she will experience a lot when she is pregnant and giving birth, and these should not be faced by her alone, and the men around her must give her more support, including taking a baby in the future.
Tong Chenjie is already a mother, if she has another child, she will not have to raise two children, how tired she should be. So KK has to grow up, he has to realize his mistakes and change himself.
It is difficult for others to change you, and only by making up your mind can you possibly change yourself.
Let's look at the "moving chart" of the divorce between the two of them: KK is quite volatile and greatly affected by emotions; Tong Chenjie was resolutely divorced at first, but later KK was emotionally strong and she calmed down. I used to think she was actually quite sober because she wasn't divorced, but then I thought that maybe it was then that she understood what she was looking for in this marriage.
KK does have a lot of flaws, but it does warm her.
People are imperfect, everyone has shortcomings, see if you can tolerate your partner's shortcomings.
Tong Chenjie is still more mature, she chose to give KK another chance, I hope that KK this time is really aware of what is wrong with him, come up with practical actions, and really change. We have to reflect on ourselves and change ourselves for the sake of the people we love, and you must have practical actions, otherwise your love will really be destroyed by you.
KK did not hesitate to get off the car, and Tong Chenjie hesitated for a long time, the car drove away for a long time, she quickly let the master stop. KK is also convinced of Tong Chenjie's love for him, so he has been chasing after him, their "you chase me" is different from "Wang Qiuyu still loves Zhu Yaqiong", why Wang Qiuyu does not dare to get off the car, because he knows that Zhu Yaqiong does not love him anymore, since he does not love, then it is meaningless for him to get off the car.
Wang Qiuyu is more mature, and KK knows Tong Chenjie's heart for him.
03
I used to watch the show like everyone else, to persuade the two of them to divorce, but seeing that in the end I was like Tong Chenjie, I still gave KK another chance. It is not easy to meet a person who warms himself in life, and the love of each of us may be quite screwed, with imperfections and shortcomings. I hope that their choice this time can make them grow old in vain, what a good love, since love, love well, don't hurt.
There is a sentence that I want to say to Tong Chenjie: "Don't get used to KK anymore, look at his actual actions." ”
There is also a sentence that wants to say to KK: "Since you really want children, then please pay your practical actions, quit drinking, and let Tong Chenjie see your determination." Both people went to check the body, listened to the doctor, prepared for pregnancy, and knew that pregnancy preparation is not allowed to drink, not to mention that Tong Chenjie's age is already an advanced maternal age. Having children is no joke. More understanding of Tong Chenjie in family affairs, a little bigger man, don't be like a child, more responsibility, less emotional. ”
I hope they are well, Tong Chenjie is such a good wife, KK don't lose it.
Today's topic: Are you optimistic about the marriage of Tong Chenjie and KK? Welcome to leave a message to discuss.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the warm emotional affairs of this world.