Why did children in the past teach them to be able to hit and scold, but now children cannot?
Yes, the previous children are strong, the previous psychosis is called mad, the previous cerebral palsy children Down's children are called fools, the previous depression is called how to jump into the river It is estimated that something is possessed, so it is not that the current children's psychological problems are more fragile, but we did not find it before.
The pain has never been less, but it was not known before.
Why did the children in the past beat and scold, simple and rude, but also cultivated a lot of talents.
Today's children can neither hit nor scold, and parents still have to learn a lot of educational skills, but they still cultivate a lot of losers.
What went wrong?
Quite simply, the times have changed, the post-60s and post-70s were born in an era where no one has ever come before, and their life experience has almost no reference value. Their childhood was a small-scale peasant economy, and they thought that happiness might be drinking the first bottle of soda, so they thought that now children would be very happy to drink soda, and they were picky about something. They define their children's happiness by their own happiness.
Many parents still feel that we were raised up by such simple and rude beating, why can't our children do it now?
In the past, the "era of scarcity" was simple and rude, but now it is the "age of abundance", children are rich in information and love, a large family of six people around a child, this is called very six plus one. At this point, simple rudeness will not work.
In the past, it was important that children could be fed when they were born, but now we must treat children as people, and you can't bully children just because you are adults. You blame your child for not being smart enough and working hard enough, but a few parents can reflect on whether they are smart enough and hard enough.
Parents who know how to reflect and respect, and who can put their children on an equal footing with themselves, are too scarce.
Today's children say that it is a bad thing that they can't be touched, and it is precisely the progress of the times. Children have their own sense of self and now need to replace the "hard management" of the past with a "soft management" approach.
"Soft management" is not to express your love with accusations and accusations, and the post-60s and post-70s are too fond of using accusations and accusations to express concern. If you don't slap the table in a meeting, you feel that the strength is not enough, and you don't feel strong enough to educate children without poking the brain. "Soft management" is the transformation of accusations and accusations into concern and support.
Don't always ask if your homework is done, how are your test scores, think about your leader always asking if your work is done, are you bothered. You can pour him a glass of water and accompany him silently, and silent companionship is also a kind of support. Talk to your children often to listen to you, let the child be in charge of the small things, and let the child be the master as much as possible in the big things. Let the child make his own decisions, and his self-confidence and responsibility will be stimulated.
The biggest problem for some parents is that they can't afford to wait, don't rush to communicate well, growth needs to wait.