Everyone hopes to find a confidant, to be able to help each other know each other, to accompany each other for a lifetime, this is the greatest happiness in life.
You start searching, hoping to meet the Man in a bookstore, a café, a movie theater, on the street, or somewhere.
Maybe the next second can really meet the fate, can talk about a vigorous love, no bondage, only sweet and warm.
When the ideal shines into reality, often the result is not as desired, the person who is waiting for it has not appeared, your parents urge you to get married early, and you have arranged a blind date for you, but you do not like him.
So is free love necessarily more reliable than blind dates?
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If you ask what type of boy you like now, you will definitely say various conditions, such as boys can not be less than 1 meter 8 tall, handsome, you have to care enough about you, etc., this is your ideal candidate.
In fact, this is a fantasy, back to real life, it is difficult to meet the same type of boys, if you wait so hard, it will only delay time.
Obviously there are suitors around, but you repeatedly refuse, always feel that something is missing, this obsession will become deeper and deeper, until finally become a leftover woman, you don't know where the problem is.
If you want to meet someone you like and the other person likes you, this kind of mutually pleasing feeling, like mountain climbing, may be difficult to find when you climb to the top of the mountain.
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The Red Lady matches strange men and women, whether you like it or not, in their eyes "you are definitely suitable for living together", because the conditions of the two sides are equal, and the two can complement each other.
You have no intersection with the blind date, completely unaware of the other party's personality, conduct, living habits, even if you know his family environment and personal conditions, this is only from the mouth of the red bride, not your own understanding.
From the first time you meet, you have to rate the other person, and in the future you have to observe his performance. In just a few months, it is necessary to make a judgment about whether he is worthy of a lifetime.
Blind dates often have only two outcomes: either they fail and the two people break up in one shot, or they successfully hold hands and enter the marriage hall.
Everyone came with a purpose, because the time was rushed, and sometimes they really wanted to get married or couldn't refuse, and finally they could only reluctantly be together.
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Love is free, without any constraints, without thinking about tomorrow and the future, as long as the two are together.
If the love goes further, both parents can agree, and the two can live together, and from then on, they can be happy to be together until they are old.
But free love is not guaranteed, any commitment is a blank sheet of paper, and two people may break up at any time. The longer you spend together, the greater the probability of breaking up, because everyone is too familiar, and entering a marriage-like couple's life state is more likely to produce boredom.
At the moment of the real choice, the gap between the family conditions of the two people is too large, so the road to marriage will be more difficult. Even if it is reluctantly combined, there will be many contradictions in the future.
It can be said that blind dates are definitely unreliable, all kinds of strange types will appear, and it is more difficult to meet people you like.
What's more: the speed of blind dates is very fast, often 3-6 months or so will be married, will not give you much time to think at all. Either choose to accept or simply refuse, others can't hang you alone.
But blind dates are not to find true love, but to find a partner who is suitable for living together, and to keep running into each other after marriage, so that the relationship between husband and wife can be enhanced.
Free love is not necessarily reliable, and marrying through blind dates does not mean that life is not good.
If you want to guard love, you can't get married at will; if you want to be stable and comfortable, you need to cut through the mess quickly and enter married life as soon as possible.
Love and life are like a choice between a fish and a bear's paw, and reality has no perfect result, but can only be folded.
THE END – Louis Picks Rice