"I love you, so I chose to end your life with my own hands".
On the hospital bed, the man "suffocated" the woman he loved with a pillow.
This scene is the picture from the movie "Wild Rose of Paris".
The man is called "Zog" and the woman is called "Betty".
-01
What is love?
Some people say: love is to take what you need.
Some people say: love is to find another self in the world and become a complete soul.
Some people say: love is two poor people, to redeem each other.
Some people also say: love is another meaning of life, beauty, attachment and expectation.
There is a kind of love, not crazy and not devilish.
For love, willingly give everything you have.
In "The Wild Rose of Paris", Betty is one such woman.
Zuo Ge is a depressed "writer" who hides in a small town as an ordinary worker.
He was talented and interesting, but it was all hidden in the corners of his life, and perhaps in the dead of night he remembered the manuscript he had left under his bed.
It wasn't until Betty appeared that she discovered the hidden side of this "normal man".
That night, Betty looked through Zog's manuscript, and she said a word:
"You shouldn't be silent like this."
So, with anticipation and hope, Betty ran to almost all the local publishing houses and publishers, trying to get them to publish Zuoger's works.
-02
Paranoia, madness, romance, despair
Betty is persistent, screwed, and pure "romantic".
After being rejected again and again, and opposing Zog's ideas again and again, Betty went crazy.
What kind of girl is Betty?
She is romantic, she is paranoid, she is beautiful, she is sad, she is like a bird flying in the sky, it is impossible to be bound and cannot be trapped.
She has been pursuing, always pursuing, always resisting.
Her pursuit was in vain, her pursuit had no end, and her rebellion eventually consumed herself.
She wanted Zuoger's manuscript to be published, but was rejected; So, he scratched the publisher with a knife.
She hoped to conceive Zuoge's child, but the pregnancy was in vain; So, she took someone else's child.
She wants not to be pointed at, not to be stared at her breasts and ass; So, she confronted everyone who had bad eyes.
She doesn't want Zuo Ge to be mediocre, and she doesn't want the talent of the man she loves to be buried; So, she set fire to the house, leaving Zog with no way back.
Eloquent and high-spirited.
She became more and more courageous, she kept resisting and failing.
He said, "You're crazy".
She replied, "Shall we go?"
When hope is dashed, when the bird flying in the sky breaks its wings, her end is doomed.
Betty was crazy.
She poked herself blind;
She couldn't get pregnant;
She can't make the love in her heart where romance reigns supreme the only one;
She was put in a mental hospital.
And what about the left grid?
He is silent, he does not care, he does not fight for fame and fortune, he willingly lives an ordinary life.
He loves Betty, but he can't accept Betty's madness;
He is a chicken that lives on the earth, not a bird that flies in the sky;
They love each other, they separate, they go crazy together;
But Zuo Ge retains the "rationality" and absolute calmness of a man.
At the end of the film, Zuo Ge comes to the hospital, and he can't bear to see his beloved girl who cares about his beauty go on like this.
Zoge ended Betty's life with his own hands.
There was no resistance, no sound, and just like that, Betty's life ended with a pillow.
Betty's romanticism, love first, made me think of Xu Zhimo.
Mr. Liang Qiushi once described Xu Zhimo as an "extreme romantic".
For Xu Zhimo, he can be poor in this life and can live a poor life, but he cannot live without romance.
Xu Zhimo is a bird flying in the sky, and Lin Huiyin has become a person living on the ground.
Lin Huiyin is a romantic, and Xu Zhimo is also a romantic;
When both people pursue the ultimate romance, their lives cannot stand mediocrity.
Once the relationship enters a flat period, two people will find ways to create some trouble for each other, and two people who love each other too much will often develop into "sadomasochism".
Lin Huiyin is sane, she is romantic, she longs for love, but she can return to real life.
Because I love you, you must love me;
Before eating, we are to write a poem and then pray for our meal;
Our lives should be full of ritual and romance.
This is something that normal people cannot endure.
Before intimacy, the other person said:
"You wait a minute, I'll light a candle first and pray first."
That's not romance, that's eerie feeling.
The romanticism pursued by Xu Zhimo is extreme and "self-imaginary".
He is too extreme, and the woman he loves must conform to what he conceived in his mind; Even in the process of their love and marriage, the woman must live according to his ideal appearance.
Since the ancient literati twisted more?
Hu Yinmeng also had this evaluation of Li Ao:
"He couldn't accept the ordinary, real me, the perfect me he had always loved; He was a very talented and good person, but he was not a fit for life. ”
Love and romance can coexist;
Marriage and romance can coexist;
Extreme romance and extreme love can coexist;
But birds that fly in the sky, and people who live on earth, cannot coexist.
-03
Paranoid personality versus avoidant personality
In psychology, there is such a type of personality: "paranoid personality".
What they believe cannot be changed;
What they insisted on, even if they hit the south wall, they were not willing to turn back.
Betty is a paranoid personality, and the left personality is an avoidant personality.
The meeting of these two types of people is simply a disaster.
The paranoid type, who insists on himself, he cannot tolerate any opposition of his partner to himself.
They are used to imposing their wills, pursuits and ideas on their partner, trying to keep their partner alive according to their will.
And the avoidant personality, like a hedgehog.
When they encounter contradictions, encounter problems, and encounter problems that they are unwilling to respond to, they choose to shrink in the thorn.
Do not respond, do not speak, choose silence.
These two kinds of people love each other, they are screwed, they are suffocating.
Is it true love? True love will indeed be met.
But true love does not mean suitable, and true love does not necessarily go on.
For adults, it should be understood that:
Whether you like it or not, whether you love it or not, whether it is suitable or not, whether you can get married or not, are completely different things.
Maybe you fall in love with someone, miss someone, and marry another.
Love is complex, love is multifaceted, but love is also unique.
"I've met a lot of people. Someone gave me a fever and I thought it was love, and it burned it all. Someone gave me chills and disappeared from my life. Someone makes me feel warm, but it's just warmth. Only you, let my body temperature rise by 0.2°C. - "Wild Rose of Paris"