Do you often feel unhappy? Do you often see people around you full of negative emotions and negative energy around you? Ever wondered why?
Everything has both yin and yang sides, only see the yang, you will be incomparably sunny, but you can't get rid of childishness. Just seeing the yin, infinitely magnifiing the imperfections of all things, you will be extremely depressed, and you will not see a little bit of life angry, mature but revealing gloom. Only when you see the yin, but still keep your heart towards the sun, can you be mature and optimistic.
In worldly affairs, there is no yin and no yang, no yang and no yin, and this truth should be deeply understood by all adults. But when we face specific things, we still can't face them calmly.
As a child, when faced with the difficulties of life, you may complain about why your parents have no ability, why there are no noble people around, why the leaders do not appreciate, and all you see is mutilation, then you will certainly not be happy.
If you think about it, how fortunate that our parents are still healthy and healthy, and how gratifying it is that there are friends around you who are willing to listen to all your unhappiness, and this leader does not appreciate whether he still needs to improve or leave this enterprise, we still have a broader world to toss.
As a parent, you often feel how your child is so stupid, learning things so slowly, not having any talent, and being crippled everywhere. However, if you think that the child coming into this world is only to complete a relationship with you for you, most of his subsequent life is actually not related to you at all, and you have never seen that he still has aspects that he does not seem to be talented in fact, maybe it is the specialty that you do not think is talented to achieve his future life, such as humor, such as good listening, such as love to play games...
As a husband and wife, or a boyfriend and girlfriend, if the other party is very handsome or beautiful, you feel that the other party has no time to accompany you. When the other party has time to accompany you, you feel that the other party will not make money and has nothing to do all day. The other party will make money and have time to accompany you, and you feel that the other party has no mood, and when you have a mood, you feel that you will not do housework. There are always mutilations you can find anyway. Then sooner or later, your relationship will eventually break down because of your crippled psychology, and it will continue to stage the same ending in every subsequent relationship.
But have you ever thought about it? If the other person is ugly, you don't have to worry about others snatching him, if the other person is busy you should be happy that he is a motivated person, if the other party can't do housework you may get an unexpected romance after being busy with housework.
Having said all that, is there a way to slowly train ourselves to become happy? Of course! The answer is to make life "lighter."
Just like we wear a pair of shoes, we don't have to wear that kind of stupid and thick sneakers, how good it is to change a pair of relaxed sheepskin flat bottoms, breathable and comfortable, but some people say that it is very expensive, then change a pair of dozens of canvas shoes. If you don't have money to carry a brand-name bag, you have to bear the pressure of staging behind it, why should it be so? Make a normal bag and it won't leak out. Try it lighter and your whole being will be relaxed.
The same is true of life, and putting every flaw in your eyes in your heart is actually a burden on you. Let go of this and your life will be easy.
Our parents, though ordinary, have raised us and brought us complete happiness in our lives; our children, although not gifted, have filled our world with laughter; our cars, though cheap, can still reach their destination on time without delaying any planning; our lovers, despite their shortcomings, are still trying to live...
Let go, let go of those flaunting hearts, comparison hearts, picky hearts, the pursuit of perfection, and accept the imperfections of life, and your every moment is happy. I don't know if the future will come, but whether you are happy or unhappy now is something you can decide.