The saying "seven-year itch" circulates between husband and wife, like a huge spell that plagues many marriages. In today's reality, the vast majority of marriages will encounter the seven-year itch to a greater or lesser extent.
It is worth noting that the "seven-year itch" does not necessarily mean that it must be seven years, some will be advanced, some will be delayed, but there will always be some performance - the relationship between husband and wife is more tense, feeling that the feelings are weak, the other party is not attractive, etc.
The seven-year itch in marriage has poked at the sore spots of many couples, and many couples who hear this word will be a little afraid, afraid that they will not be able to escape this spell. Love is a long run, go through seven years together, if you are too lazy to operate, too lazy to pay, no freshness, life becomes boring, then you can not escape the seven-year itch. Do you want to see what the seven-year itch of husband and wife is showing? After seeing these performances, are you better able to run your marriage?
1. The Cold War is getting more and more, and communication is getting less and less
Communication decreases, simply because there is nothing more to say than familiarity, or because each topic cannot achieve a pleasant communication effect.
The former is fine, because they understand each other and achieve a sense of tacit understanding, perhaps a look, a body movement, a spoken word, the other party can fully understand your expression content.
However, the latter, gradually lose the desire to communicate, the idea of pouring out is constantly forced to digest themselves, even if it is a very important communication or exchange, think about the unpleasantness of the previous communication and the disappointment of the expected effect, simply dispel the idea of communication.
The Cold War is slowly accumulated, because of the lack of objects to talk to, more lack of desire to communicate, silence is not necessarily gold, the silence caused by the Cold War, really not gold, is a bomb, at any time will detonate.
The knot of affection does not erupt in silence, but perishes in silence.
Communication is gradually lost due to familiarity, ignoring the cheapest way of adding value in feelings.
2, stare at each other's shortcomings, infinite magnification, tolerance is less and less
It is especially easy to fall in love with the advantages of a person, but it is too difficult to fall in love with the shortcomings of a person.
Once in love for a long time, what you used to like, now you don't like it, and even start to get bored.
When one person is bored and resistant to another person, those so-called shortcomings, those small shortcomings that can be accommodated in the past, will be infinitely magnified, magnified, and even the slightest inconspicuous small faults will be carefully calculated.
If this signal in the relationship is not fully valued, crises will ensue, and even lead to the end of a relationship.
When encountering such a situation, you should learn to look at the lovers around you with an appreciative attitude, everyone is changing, body shape, appearance, age, culture, cultivation, and even mental health are constantly changing.
If you want to maintain appreciation for a person all the time, you must re-understand each other, re-appreciate each other, fall in love with each other again, and get along with changing eyes and love concepts.
The unspoken rule of love is, however, to like a person, to fall in love with a person, and then to like a person who is changing, and to fall in love with a person who is changing. However, people always feel deceived, incredible, and unwilling to accept the changes in things, and there is a huge gap between reality and ideals.
To accept the constant changes in marriage and fall in love, so does love.
3, do not want to communicate with each other
Together for so many years, can say it long ago, even the trivial things at home are not willing to mention, say that there is no such thing, at this time, nothing is willing to say, even if there is something that needs to be communicated, it is not willing to say it, I would rather hold it in my stomach, even the words of communication are not willing to say it, let alone say anything sweet, even if there is something special to communicate, it is also said in the simplest way, as if it will feel particularly tired when it is said.
4, become dislike to go home
When I was in love, I hated two people at home every day, every time I came home from work, I was very happy to see each other, I felt that this home was the warmest and most comfortable place, and I also remembered this home when I went to work, but when I got to the itch of seven years, I didn't want to return to this home, I didn't feel a little warmth, and I didn't have any passion, just like two strangers insisted on staying in this place, so I would rather go out to drink, chat with friends than come back, and even some people feel that this home is cold, and there is a strong sense of pressure, Some let themselves breathe, even if they came back early one day, not because of each other, but because of the children.
5, can not move to start arguing
After all, it has been seven years since marriage, each other's living habits and hobbies are very clearly understood, even all the shortcomings of the other party are well understood, it is precisely because it is too well understood, so it feels that there is nothing to say, let alone what feelings, even if there is, at this time it has become very light, and even some people are just a habit, feel that there is such a person, but there is no feeling, it can also be said that it is completely indifferent, and there may be a sense of boredom, do not want to hear each other speak, as soon as they speak, they begin to quarrel, When quarreling, he also turned everything out, and the more noisy it became, the worse it became.
6. Unwilling to be alone with each other
When I first started to fall in love, I only thought that there was only each other in this world, there was no one at all, as long as someone else appeared, I felt particularly distracted, and every day I only thought about the opportunity to have two people alone, say some heartfelt words to each other, do some things I wanted to do, and the feeling at that time was very sweet. However, when it came to the seven-year itch, there was no such passion at all, and even hated to be alone with each other, thinking that if there were only two people with each other, it would feel very boring, and it was better to chat with friends and be happy, so there was such an opportunity to get along alone, and I would also find a way to do something else.
7, there is no conjugal life
The seven-year itch often has the name of a husband and wife, but has long slept separately, turning the other half into their own brothers, which will not only make love drop to the freezing point or even make the marriage shattered.
Couples without a husband and wife life, the flame of love is almost extinguished, at this time people may be lonely and unbearable and can not withstand the external test.
Such a husband and wife relationship, as long as you meet a woman who is emotional and understanding, or a considerate man, the family will be scattered.
How many seven years of life can you live well? If you still love each other, it is better to solve each other's problems calmly, marriage needs two people to maintain each other, I hope the above article can help everyone.
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