What a terrible word the "seven-year itch" is, meaning that many things develop into the seventh year and there will be some problems without the will of man, and marriage is certainly no exception. After being married for a long time, the freshness is lost. From romantic love to real marriage, in the bland chai rice oil and salt together, each other is too familiar, and the shortcomings of each other when in love have been fully exposed at this time. This leads to the marriage entering a "bottleneck", if there is no way to choose an effective solution, the marriage will end.
From the perspective of human growth, most people achieve their own growth in marriage. Personally, I think of these points: falling in love – getting married – having children – being bored – escaping.
When you are in love, you don't know and grasp yourself, and you don't know what kind of spouse you need. With the increase of marriage age, the contradictions between each other slowly became prominent. Marriage experts pointed out that the biggest reason for divorce is not an extramarital affair, but the couple cannot cooperate and can no longer live together. From the perspective of the way of communication, there is a Chinese saying that "acquaintances are unreasonable", the relationship between husband and wife is too familiar, often ignore the needs of the spouse, no longer choose the way to express, when showing their emotions without concealment, in many cases will hurt each other.
But after the birth of the child, the mother's emotions are all transferred to the child, indifference has become the crux of the emotions of both sides, and the negative emotions of each other are rendered to each other, making the family atmosphere tense.
If the seven-year itch does not want to change each other, it will feel that life is very boring, looking bored with each other, no matter how to do it, each other will look at each other wrong, which will lead to a feeling of wanting to escape, want to leave each other's familiar circle of life to breathe fresh air, and achieve a state of physical and mental relaxation.
In fact, when we look back at each other and think about the first love, don't they all regard each other as the only love in this life, and they will not give up in this life? What is the reason for today's situation, I think this is not a certain thing, a certain person's reasons, each other should be more honest, a little more trust, something to say, do not hide in the heart, otherwise, it will accumulate day by day, one day will erupt.