In every woman's heart, there lives a sanmao.
From the distant Sahara to the Dunhuang Gobi, she does not go with the flow, nor interprets life, but only becomes a witness to life.
She is the romantic, free, true temperament of sanmao in our hearts, an eternal legend.
Today, I would like to share with you Sanmao's "Send You a Horse", hoping that this book that explores the essence of life can bring you strength.
"Send You a Horse" is sanmao's most special collection of essays, written after Jose's death.
After parting from life and death, between the lines of Sanmao's words, there are fewer anecdotes and more deep reflections on life.
As Sanmao said in the book:
"Life is just a twenty-four-hour accumulation after another, and in such a precious time, I must understand my choice."
There are many things that happen to everyone in their lives, some things are crucial and some things are insignificant.
Among them, there are three things that cannot be thrifty and affect the direction of life.
Every time you do a good job, life will be more happy and joyful, and less complicated and chaotic.
Reading is the boat of life
Sanmao had four years of darkness.
At that time, she suffered from severe autism, did not dare to go out, and was afraid to see people.
Whether it is learning flower arrangement, learning piano, or doing something else, Sanmao is not interested.
Until one day, Sanmao was at the painting teacher's house and accidentally saw a book "My Brother Kangxiong".
Sanmao soon became deluded, the bitter and melancholy Kang Xiong in the book made her find the resonance of life, Sanmao no longer felt lonely, she read it many times over and over again, and each time she burst into tears.
When returning the book, Sanmao excitedly chatted with the painting teacher about the story in the book, and she also talked about classical novels from modern literature, from Tang poems and Song ci to classical masterpieces, and kept talking non-stop, as if she had completely changed a person.
When there are mountains and rivers in life, there are no roads, but there are willows and dark flowers in the book.
For four years, Sanmao was like an ostrich buried in a book every day, nibbling on books day and night, and when he encountered favorite books, he was reluctant to put them down even to eat and sleep.
It was reading that healed her grief, dissolved her grievances, and made her heart rise with hope again.
There is a saying that goes well: "Reading is not only a good medicine for the soul to heal itself, but also a boat for life to cross itself." ”
The world in the book is all-encompassing, and everyone can find a way to solve the problem.
I know that netizens have told @Marry an experience.
In March last year, she and her parents contracted COVID-19 at the same time, and within a week, their parents left.
Wrapped in grief, she lost the courage to live and muttered all day, "Dad, Mom, don't leave me." ”
The real rescue was a book sent by the head nurse, "Living the Meaning of Life", and she said with deep feeling:
"Victor Frankel was the bereaved man, and in the Nazi concentration camps, he was still able to draw a list of happiness and live the meaning of life in the midst of the purgatory-like suffering of the world, and my pain was nothing compared to his."
In the book, she encountered the same encounter in life, she saw hope and learned to reconcile with life.
As Mr. Lin Yutang said: "Reading, opening up maosai, removing contempt, gaining new knowledge, increasing learning, broadening knowledge, and cultivating spirituality." ”
The enlightenment of a person's mind, the cultivation of temperament, and the improvement of cultivation are inseparable from the penetration and infiltration of reading.
It is like the wise men who never retire, giving you guidance when you are confused and giving you answers when you are confused.
Even in chaos, reading can tear a hole in the dark days and shine light into the darkness.
Travel, you can meet a better self
I like a song written by Sanmao:
"Why wander, wander far away. For the birds flying in the sky, for the streams flowing lightly in the mountains, for the wide grasslands, and for the olive trees in dreams. ”
In addition to reading, Sanmao's favorite thing is to measure the world with his feet and feel good with his departure.
After Jose left, Sanmao was always immersed in the pain of tearing his heart and lungs.
During the day, she often touched the scene and hurt, the placket was wet and dry, dry and wet; at night, she woke up from nightmares again and again, and it was difficult to sleep.
"I'm going to live again."
With the original intention of finding himself, Sanmao embarked on a long journey.
Mexico, Brazil, Chile, Agenyen... China, across thousands of mountains and rivers, Sanmao came to the vast northwest.
In the vast wasteland, Sanmao ran like an unrestrained horse, screaming and screaming as she ran... The throbbing of life slowly awakens.
Especially in the Mogao Caves, gazing at the buddha statue of great compassion, Sanmao seems to hear the reassurance from a thousand years:
"Have you realized?" Go to the crowd and don't refuse. ”
At this moment, the dust in Sanmao's heart was washed away.
The world is vast and vast, and its troubles are placed in it, and it seems inconspicuous.
Instead of indulging in grief, it is better to re-understand and accept the world.
Thoreau said, "The true meaning of travel is not movement, but to bring your soul to find the spring light of life." ”
True travel is not just to see the scenery all the way, but to embrace a better life after colliding with the world.
There is a clip from the movie Dear Galileo.
Sakura, a Thai girl who won the championship in her design work, was hung up for pretending to be a teacher's signature when she used the study room, and she ran away in a negative mood and traveled to Europe.
On the way, she lost her purse and passport, had to work to earn travel expenses, and had to evade police inspections.
However, this seemingly bad trip allowed her to meet completely different people and things.
A Thai chef who has been stranded in London for 10 years, teaching her to smile and deal with suffering calmly;
The impoverished artist, who lives in a dilapidated warehouse, patiently guides her: "If you make a mistake, you must admit that this is the rule of the world." ”
The old woman who often killed her and shook her solitude was the only one who reached out when she was most helpless...
Gradually, the stubborn Sakura began to reflect, she was no longer self-centered, but learned to understand and tolerate.
I've heard the saying, "Vision determines realm." ”
The reason why a person is unhappy is largely in seeing the world from a single lens.
After traveling more to see the world and the earth and see sentient beings on the road, it is possible to have insight into yourself, recognize the truth of life, and have a more colorful life.
Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance
Dr. Deepak Dudmund, a renowned expert in body, mind and spirit health, once said:
"All the problems in your life come from not loving yourself enough."
Indeed it is.
After Sanmao returned to Taipei to settle down, many readers wrote to her to talk about her troubles.
One signed "Unhappy Girl" wrote:
"I am 29 years old, unmarried, ordinary looking, mediocre at work, living poorly, never the opposite sex is interested in me, living in a rental house that can only accommodate me, in a dim mood, living a humble life, and I don't know what happiness there is in living?"
In the letter, the girl asked for help from Sanmao with great pity: "I am very inferior, please tell me, what is the ultimate purpose of life?" ”
In just a hundred words, the girl used a series of self-denial words such as humble, poor, bleak, and inferior, and degraded herself to uselessness, even to the dust.
In fact, all world-weariness must come from self-weariness; all self-love will bring about love for life.
Sanmao said bluntly:
"If I were you, the first step would be to increase my expectations and values for myself, and never look down on myself again."
Having a career for a living, renting a room, and knowing how to explore the meaning of life after commuting to work, how can we say that such a life is not beautiful?
Even if you look ordinary, as long as you dress neatly and wear light makeup, you can dress up decently.
If you live in a bucket room, paint the walls, use a small pot of flowers, a painting, you can also skillfully dress up life.
If you feel that life is too lonely, try to go out and enroll in a class, go to class, and maybe make like-minded friends.
When life is enriched little by little, it is too late to enjoy itself, and even if you have the energy to consider the worldly vision and evaluation.
So, it's not that life itself is unhappy, it's that you make life unhappy.
The world is like a mirror, and if you talk and laugh, it will be full of laughter; if you are depressed, it will not show its eyebrows.
When a person learns to appreciate the small blessings of life, then no matter where he is, he can catch the starlight in ordinary fireworks.
As Jia Pingwa said:
"In a person's life, whether it is bitterness or pleasure, whether it is gained or lost, the most important thing is that there can be no moonlight in a clear spring in the heart."
Truly wise people emit light from within.
Someone said:
"Sanmao's book is the book I open when I am happy, and it is also the book that I still turn over when I am about to be crushed by life."
Indeed, Sanmao's life was fateful, but she used a steaming heart to live a legend in our hearts.
This romantic, free-spirited, true-natured woman tells us with her passionate life:
Read more books when you are confused, use poetry books to break through the fog, and perhaps find a direction to reverse your fate;
Travel when you are in difficulty, open the window to see the world with your feet, experience a different life, and meet a better life.
The most important thing is to learn to accept yourself in any situation.
In this way, we can understand life step by step and live this life fully and safely.
Source: Fan Deng Reading
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