Author: Seeking Rice
Marriage is a commitment to love that is borne by each other; a world of two people constructed by repentance and forgiveness.
--Wayne Oates
"Mo Di" network stills
The film Painted Heart World, aka Mo Di, is based on the true story of Maudie, a Canadian folk artist with severe arthritis. The film focuses on the beautiful love story of the heroine Mo Di.
Suffering from arthritis and loving to paint, Mo Di, because she wanted to escape the life under the fence of her aunt's house, went to the male protagonist Everett's house to work as a maid, and later the two fell in love and married, spending a happy life.
The whole drama story is simple and emotionally restrained, although it is based on the theme of love, but from the beginning to the end, there is no sense of arrogance and contrivance, but it gives people a real, plain but touching sense of happiness.
I believe that every audience member can't help but burst into tears when they see the scene before Mo Di's death. The most moving love in the world is actually the most ordinary and ordinary.
The film's Douban score is 9.0, and the reason why it is so touching is that I think it should be the huge contrast between the story in the play and people's cognition in reality.
In real life, most people will feel that a happy marriage should be a talented woman, and the door is right. And it is already difficult for those marginalized characters to live humbly, much less to obtain extravagant happiness.
However, the film is precisely about such a love and marriage that is incompatible with the world.
One is a woman with severe arthritis, a deformed trunk, and walks on a sloping foot, and the other is a grumpy, uninhabited fishmonger who does not socialize with people and is not liked. They live in the most remote part of the town, the house is simple, narrow and dark, and it is such a pair of two people who are marginalized by the people around them, but they have the happiness of being envied and envied by the world.
The happy marriage of Mo Di and Everett did not fall from the sky, but the result of their continuous learning and growth in the school of marriage.
Here are three secrets to the happiness of the marriage of the fringe characters:
Stills from "Mo Di"
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > one or two abandoned socks, which together can also dress up the most beautiful pair of feet. The secret to a happy marriage: fit each other rather than be perfect. </h1>
On the night of Mo Di and Everett's wedding, Mo Di said that they were two socks that had fallen off. Everett said she was pulled into a sock that was long and had a lot of holes.
Because Mo Di suffered from severe arthritis, her brother and aunt felt that she was a burden, because she could not take care of herself at all. Mo Di lives in her aunt's house and lives under the fence, and she wants to return to her home. But the brother in debt sold the house left by his mother privately, Mo Di was left homeless, the aunt asked her brother to take Mo Di away, the brother was unwilling, Mo Di was abandoned by her brother, and she was also disliked by her aunt.
Everett was not liked by the people around him because of his short-tempered and withdrawn personality, and no one was willing to associate with him, even if he wanted to find a maid, no one came to apply. He was the kind of person who was abandoned by those around him.
When Mo Di walked into Everett's house, Everett hated her, but he needed a maid, and Mo Di also needed a place to live and a job. So two people who needed each other came together.
But as life goes on, they slowly discover that they are the most suitable person for each other. Everett is short-tempered and can't control his anger, but Mo Di can understand his inner loneliness and needs, so she can always tolerate him, give him selfless care and love, and after he is angry, Mo Di still cooks soup for him and cleans the floor.
Mo Di likes to draw, but the grumpy Everett can allow her to scribble on the walls and corners of the house.
The book "Marriage Psychology: Marriage is the Best Practice" says that the key to a truly happy marriage is not that your other half has a "normal" personality, but that the other half is the person you are compatible with.
If you can tolerate the strange side of each other and deal with them with care, love, and respect, your marriage will not be on the rocks.
Everett tells Mo Di that he will still say the opposite and lose his temper. And Mo Di said: I know. Mo Di tolerated Everett not only because she wanted to stay, but because she understood that Everett's true heart and he needed himself.
Entering marriage, we will find that the other party is not the most perfect person, but the most suitable person. When one party loves to talk back, argue, and be stubborn, it does not prevent the other party from willingly embracing and compromising. Because both sides can understand, think, and see the real ideas behind the appearance from each other's position and perspective. Just like Mo Di can always understand Everett's inner voice.
Screenshot of the video of "Mo Di"
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > two, "First me, then the dog, then the chicken, and finally you." "The Secret to a Happy Marriage: Accept Change</h1>."
When Mo Di first checked into Everett's house, Everett told her the rules of the house and said, "First me, then the dog, then the chicken, and finally you." ”
Later, Mo Di became famous for her paintings, and more and more people ordered paintings, and she had to create them every day. Everett took the initiative to take care of all the household chores, leaving Mo Di only responsible for painting.
The hot-tempered and macho Everett, at first, was contemptuous of Mo Di, but as time passed, he slowly changed, he began to respect Mo Di, and when Mo Di did not want to sell the unfinished painting, he did not lose his temper, but returned the money and left the painting.
When he lost his temper with Mo Di again because there were too many people visiting the house, Mo Di did not return home at night, and the next day Everett actually took the initiative to find Mo Di and reveal his heart to her.
Nourished by married life, Everett is no longer the strange and incomprehensible man he used to be, he has gradually learned to respect, love and understand others. It is precisely because of his changes that their marriage has gradually become happy.
The book "Marriage Psychology: Marriage is the Best Practice" says that the biggest difference between a happy marriage and an unhappy marriage is that a harmonious couple always establishes new bonds and has new experiences, and the two always love each other.
The book also lists six misconceptions that partners are reluctant to change in marriage, namely:
1, adults do not need to change.
2, the party who makes the change now does not have to adjust himself in the future, so that the relationship between them will always be stable.
3, change will make a couple drift apart.
4, confidant lovers do not need to change, the power of love can pass through many difficulties.
5, the refusal to change is not the main reason why marriages are failing.
6, change means betraying yourself.
Marriage is a long practice, in this process, we have to face all kinds of changes, our feelings and needs are constantly changing, as a partner we should not have a game mentality, but should break those worldly misunderstandings, be honest with our partners, face our own hearts. Only when two people grow up together, constantly improve themselves, and change themselves, can the husband and wife better maintain a coordinated pace to continue the future life, and the marriage will become happier.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > three, "Do you see that cloud in the sky?" "I only saw you, my wife." Happy Marriage Secret: Attempts at Emotional Repair</h1>
In the book Psychology of Marriage: Marriage is the Best Practice, it is said that an attempt to repair feelings (repairattempt) is to prevent the escalation of negativity through behaviors on words or actions (whether they are stupid or clever) so that they do not get out of control.
Mo Di and his wife are good at using their feelings to repair and try in life. In the film, Everett loses her temper with Mo Di for the first time, because Mo Di has secretly self-helped Evret's things, he drives Mo Di away, and Mo Di really leaves.
But the next morning, when Everett woke up, she found that Mo Di had already made breakfast and was wiping the floor. This is Mo Di's initiative to compromise and make overtures to Everett, and Everett did not speak, but just ate breakfast and went out to work, which means that Everett has acquiesced to Mo Di's stay and accepted Mo Di's overtures.
When summer comes, The Mo Di couple's hut is very hot, but if the door is cool, annoying flies will fly in. Mo Di offered to install a mesh door, but Everett firmly disagreed, and the two men argued with each other, and finally Mo Di gave up the dispute.
But the next day, Everett quietly installed the mesh door, and Everett did not apologize or explain, but his actions had already shown that he was showing favor to Mo Di and expecting her forgiveness, and Mo Di smiled happily. Although the two people did not communicate in words, because of Everett's actions, the unpleasantness of the original dispute was transformed into the happiness in Mo Di's heart.
Everett and Mo Di also had a conflict, after Mo Di met his aunt, he learned that his girl was still alive, and His heart was very painful, and Everett was also very upset because others mocked him for not being worthy of Mo Di, so the two people quarreled in the car without a word, and Mo Di got out of the car and left.
After a night of reflection, Everett came to modi, and the two sat on the swing. Mo Di asked her husband to see the clouds in the sky, but Everett said, "I only saw you, my wife." ”
His words already indicated that he was trying to reconcile with Mo Di. Everett said she was afraid modi would leave him because she could find a better man than herself. Mo Di said that he would not leave Everett because he gave him everything he wanted.
On the way home, Everett takes Mo Di to see her daughter, and Everett opens Mo Di's heart knot with action.
The success of each attempt to repair an emotional relationship will make Mo Di and Everett's relationship more intimate.
In our married life, there will always be contradictions and emotional stumbles, some people like to argue about the right and wrong of things, some people like to escape or cold war, although the final time may calm the storm but the problem is not solved, but it is temporarily buried.
Smart couples will issue emotional repair attempts after conflicts to solve problems and avoid harm. Of course, the key to the success of the relationship repair attempt is whether there is a solid emotional foundation between the husband and wife.
Psychologist Wayne Oates said that marriage is a commitment to love that bears each other's responsibilities; a world of two people constructed by repentance and forgiveness.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > concluding remarks:</h1>
Although Mo Di and Everett live a marginalized life, they are both smart people, determined people, they do not care about the eyes of others, they are not confused by worldly desires, they always adhere to the original intention of marriage, adhere to the purity of their hearts and love for each other, so they finally keep happiness.
Marriage is a long and difficult journey, and a thousand couples have a thousand ways to get along. The way of marriage cannot be copied, but it requires us to operate seriously and experience with our hearts, and when we love our partner deeply and are convinced that we can have a happy marriage, we will surely find our own happiness code.
Author: Seeking Rice, The Author in fireworks, the fake literature and art in the world. This article is original and represents personal opinion only.
Reference book: The Psychology of Marriage: Marriage is the Best Practice by (Beauty)