I am a loyal fan of Li Tian, almost every book of Li Shi has been read, even his newly published "Talk Show Work Manual" has not been spared, but you don't say, there is really "material", there is such a paragraph in the book:
Wang Jianguo, who had drunk a little wine, said, "I have always encouraged you to cry, not only on the stage, if you want to communicate with people, you should cry, so that people can listen to you, but it seems that it is not a person, but I really encourage you." Yan Yiyan nodded her head.
In fact, Wang Jianguo's politically incorrect words actually have profound insights.
When I read this passage at that time, I was particularly up to the top, thinking: You see this group of talk show people can really talk nonsense, communicate with people, you have something to say, there is reason, you come up and cry, what is this!
But continue to look down at Li's explanation: expressing values sounds rational and logical, but to let the audience find you, psychologically closer to each other, the stepping stone can only be emotion. How to influence people and persuade people. The summary is a sentence, in the face of a brain, want to influence it, it is best to enter from the emotion, and then persuade reason.
Just such a short three-line word, I was instantly convinced, thinking about the scene of communication everywhere in life, it seems to have been confirmed.
01
A few days ago, I sorted out my daughter's picture books and diaries when I was a child, and I saw that my daughter's diary said: Tonight my father came back in the middle of the night, with too much dry cough from smoking, I knew that my parents were going to war again...
I remember the years before I got married to Old Y, we quarreled, three days a big quarrel, two days a small quarrel, occasionally my mother came to live for a few days, I had to endure not to lose my temper, but sometimes I really couldn't help it, I remember once, in front of my mother and Old Y big quarrel, quarrel, my mother sat on the sofa without a word.
"After the war", my mother asked me: Do you have any ideas about this kind of quarrel?
As soon as I listened, I didn't bat an eyelid: what can I think! Is not happy, married for so many years, has been with him, you come back late at night, close the door lightly, I am a little nervous, after being woken up in the middle of the night has not been able to sleep, and told him to smoke less, on this matter, is it so difficult!
My mother said: No idea, I told you to admit defeat early, change the way, people's wives are gentle, from time to time to lie a petite, shed a tear or something, you see you Oh, every day like a foot stepping on the neck of a donkey! Whoops, you're not tired!
At that time, I was not convinced, what I said was completely reasonable, I still needed to cry, and I also had to be spoiled... What my mom said!
Now I understand, my mother expressed is not a sentence summed up by Li Tian: in the face of a brain, if you want to influence it, it is best to enter from emotions and convince reason.
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Remember the year before, the second day of the New Year, the 97-year-old grandfather died, although the grandfather was old, but there was no disease and no disaster, the night of the first day was still good, a big family to eat together, the New Year, the grandfather ate less, said a little tired, early rest, we think, older, tired early rest is also normal, did not expect to sleep like this ...
According to local customs, the funeral lasts for 3 days, starting at 6 o'clock every morning, ending at 4 p.m., kneeling every two hours, returning home in the evening, my sister's mother-in-law came to help make dinner, while choosing dishes, while leaving tears and saying: You see your grandfather raised your unfilial children and grandchildren, go every morning, come back at night, like going to work...
The sister listened and did not do it: Chairman, what do you mean, where we are not filial piety, where is not in place! My grandfather is 97 years old, life, old age, illness and death, is also a natural law, besides, sadness can be put in the heart...
My sister's mother-in-law said with a flick of her mouth: Waiting is a matter of life, I mean now that people are gone, you come back, I don't see you shed tears, even I cried several times, you said you are sad and relieved, who knows you are sad...
You see, how do you reason with her? Tears are not only the need for emotional expression, but also the only criterion for evaluating filial piety!
summary:
Now if the girlfriend ah, netizens leave a message, and I said in the mother-in-law, husband that, boss that, colleague that ... Wronged, unreasonable, and all other things that are difficult to communicate...
I said, "Cry...
Crying is the cure for all communication problems, hehe... unbelief? You try!