Why is the second brother "fine" (most of the phenomena) than the boss?
The female teacher in the office talked about her own children, and the common point: "the second child" is more "refined", has eyesight, high emotional intelligence, will "make trouble", can make adults happy, and win the praise of adults.
Why? They conclude:
First, when the elderly are born, there is no experience, feeling the stones to cross the river, educating children according to their own concepts and what they see and learn, in general, it is more stringent, compared to the second child, the boss seems to be regarded as a "test product".
Second, when I was a second child, I accumulated experience and learned lessons because of raising my eldest. In the process of old-age care, the edges and corners are basically smoothed out, and some of the children's behaviors are "turned a blind eye" and a tolerant attitude is adopted, so the management of the second child is much less severe, as long as it is not a matter of principle, the child's freedom is more.
Third, for its own reasons, after the birth of the second eldest, he found that the eldest was already an authority, and in order to "survive", he obtained more "benefits" and "protection" from his parents and became well-behaved. Will be "spoiled", will ask parents for "sugar" to eat, will say "nice" words.
Fourth, the second child is more "good at" learning from the boss, when the parents criticize the boss, the second child will remember to avoid the "mistakes" made by the boss; of course, when the parents praise the boss, the second child will also remember, and doing so in the future will make the parents happy.
Fifth: The second child is not satisfied with his "small follower" role, and will challenge the boss's "authority" from time to time, "grab" the boss's things, "provoke", and the boss will generally let it. But when the boss is really angry, the second child will be beaten by the old man in large numbers, and even beaten. Of course, the second child will "file a complaint", the parents have a long time, they know the "disaster" caused by the second child, no longer take care of it, let the children handle it themselves, and the second child will be "soft" because of the boss's "authority".
The second child is "fine" than the eldest, which is caused by the influence of many factors, and most of them are "conclusions" reached from the perspective of parents or relatives.
