Original family and mate selection

The small red astrolabe is shown in the figure, for your reference, the sun nine houses, the moon and Pluto fall 8 houses, the earth sky falls 10 houses punish Pluto, rising to Pisces.

Xiaohong is my acquaintance, she talks and does things have a scarf do not let the eyebrows of the temperament, dress also tends to be neutral (but not a tomboy, but you are difficult to read the feminine gentleness in her, even if you can feel her "femininity", like a cold and reheated dish, even if desperately disguised just out of the pot, but after all, it is a little awkward and flavorful), these years rarely talk about love, the love that has been talked about is also unhappy and scattered, the current perception of the opposite sex is full of pickiness and resistance attitude, but also disgust is greater than appreciation, love. Despite this, Xiaohong is almost thirty-five this year, although the career development is indeed better than that of her peers, but it is inevitable to find someone to accompany her in the middle of the night, and recently she often consults with me on how to improve her magnetic field to break through the serious topic of intimate relationships.

When it comes to the problem of mate selection, in addition to the love house, marriage house, Venus, Mars, etc. that we have to go to see, we cannot ignore the influence of the 4th, 10th house and the sun and moon conditions, for this part we call it the "original family" or "inner parents" the impact of the impact.

In the concept of astrology, the 4th house is the father, the sun represents the father, and also represents the husband in the female astrolabe, the 10th house represents the mother, and the moon represents the mother, and also represents the wife (that is, the self in the marital relationship). People who are in harmony with the sun and the moon usually have parents who have similar values, personalities, and comprehensive conditions, and balance, and when parents discipline the parties, they will also have a quite consistent attitude, such as: strict fathers and strict mothers, or both fathers and mothers. Little red sun and moon are all in Scorpio, "Scorpio who struggles endlessly for survival" is randomly arrived at Xiaohong's parents who are very strict, Scorpio always has a rebellious period in life (some long, some short), and Xiaohong is often served by her parents because of "disobedience" when she was a child. This kind of parents who are excessively similar to each other will naturally lead to the lack of learning of the father's principle or maternal principle in the process of raising children, although Xiaohong's parents are in Scorpio, which represents the negative energy, but Scorpio is the most unstoppable in the negative sign (Scorpio energy strong female star Which one makes you feel good to hold and talk?). For example: Liu Xiaoqing; Zhao Yazhi), in the life lesson of learning the principle of complementarity and flexible relationships, there has always been a lack of understanding. The biggest problem after growing up in this environment is that they are not easy to get along with people who are different from them, they are not able to recognize different voices, and in the end they can only find a partner who is very similar to them to marry, and after marriage, they will find that life is more and more boring and boring, after all, it is not an interesting thing to live with another self.

My father's sun and moon both fall on Leo, and it is also the sun and moon, and my mother's comment to him is: I can't listen to a word of advice from others all my life, and I always feel that I am right. The problem of "too big self" brought about by the combination of the sun and the moon falling on the lion is indeed more likely to be more serious.

The problem with Xiaohong's original family is not just the combination of the sun and the moon, xiaohong's ten houses fall into Saturn and Uranus. Saturn's fall in the 10th house has always been considered a typical sign of gay men, because in the cognition they have produced from an early age, the image of the mother is often not inclusive, nourishing, and warm, but full of restrictions, pressure, competitiveness and indifference, which will make them feel incompetent, depressed and discouraged in the face of women in adulthood, and tend to choose men as partners. In saturn's female astrolabe of the 10th house, they will over-develop positive energy due to the guidance of their mothers, and when this tendency is too serious, they will choose a woman as a partner to make up for the lack of feminine power in life. When the two planets representing the positive force of the earth and the sky fall in the tenth house representing the negative force, it also brings Xiaohong a rather harsh, anxious, eccentric, and uncompliant mother, plus the moon falls on the 8th house to merge with Pluto, Xiaohong also sees too many "dark sides" of family life through her mother from childhood, such as: Parents always stimulate each other's inner dark side for the money problems in family life, blame each other or agree with the outside world (because many people with stars in the eighth house will see more from sex and money than their peers The dark events brought about by power, Xiaohong has been accustomed to her mother and her father hysterically scolding her father because of money problems since she was a child), and the sharp and strong parts of her personality have become more and more prominent.

In Xiaohong's consciousness, the source of negative energy represented by the mother is the opposite of the traditional expression, the mother is suppressed, has a sense of competition, resists, and restricts, not "the mother's embrace is the warmest", but the woman's world is the most sour, only by striving to develop the positive energy to grow into a man who stands tall in the sky, can he live like a person.

The little red earth and sea were closely integrated, and they also tortured mars in the first house. Mars is the way each of us exercises our personal will, but also the motivation for us to achieve the goal of completing ourselves, when it has a fierce conflict with the planets representing the energy palace of the original family, it also makes Xiaohong find in the process of growth that the set of the original family will often hinder herself from pursuing the goal of growth more freely, smoothly and happily, and the life stage that she wants to develop (the goal of the first house) and the teaching conflict in the original family has led to a lot of internal consumption of her own energy, and has also caused her own huge frustration and anxiety.

Xiaohong has a great chance to project the above problems caused by the distortion and imbalance of yin and yang energy into intimate relationships, and even in a wide range of interpersonal relationships, and the problem of her yin and yang imbalance will also bring about the early emergence of the bottleneck period of her life development (after all, limping in the life race, it is definitely more stressful, more difficult, and more difficult). When her partner is unable to take responsibility because of lack of ability (that is, the development of positive energy is not smooth), she will not develop a conciliatory and nourishing negative energy to soothe her partner, let the partner recharge at home and then fight the jianghu, she will take her from childhood to adulthood to double the punishment of her partner, because the partner's plight just stings her growing grievances and lack - when she needs her mother's gentleness in adversity, her mother only gives her harsh rebuke and stick.

"Robins always sing the same song" – this quote illustrates the influence of family genetics on everyone's destiny. Xiaohong does not want herself to be her mother, and her relationship with her mother is quite tense, but the meanness, indifference, and competitiveness she shows in her intimate relationship are the same as her mother.

In the astrolabe, the moon, gold, and Neptune represent negative energy, the sun, fire, wood, earth, and Uranus represent the masculine force, Pluto is sometimes considered to be feminine and sometimes neutral, and Mercury is a neutral planet.

When a person's negative energy is better, they will have a compliant, nourishing energy expression in their lives, and when their positive energy development is frustrated, they have the ability to heal and soothe themselves, without making the original cruel reality more difficult in their hearts, they can always find a comfortable state for themselves and adjust themselves to start again. When a person's positive energy works better, they have the ability to create and fight, they have the ability to develop their own will, and let their exuberant vitality shine in real life. Some people, although successful, but the heart is very bitter, always let the people around them feel stressed, not easy to get along with, this kind of people often develop positive energy is better, negative energy has more problems. Some people, although gentle and understanding, always think of others in everything, and are willing to sacrifice for others, but they are cowardly, lack of growth in life, and do nothing, such people often develop yin energy better, and masculine energy develops poorly. There are also people who have no ability, who are willful of self, who have a harsh and mean personality, who love everything more sincerely, who cannot accept and face their own shortcomings, and who do not know how to understand and tolerate others, the development of this kind of person's yin and yang energy usually has many problems, and it is also easy to have the inherent dilemma of mutual consumption of yin and yang energy.

If the energy of the person is not improved, it is easy to experience the "tragedy of yesterday" in the long river of years, and sometimes these problems are mixed with family karma and become more difficult.

Xiaohong asked me how I should improve her problems, balance my inner yin and yang energy, and how to change my "inner parents" and reconcile with them. I gave her the following advice, and if you also have the problem of yin and yang energy imbalance, it may also help you:

First of all, the power of the original family is done imperceptibly, it is brought by the root, and the various tendencies brought by the original family will become an instinct, although some are inappropriate, but when it is corrected, it will produce a huge panic because of inertia and the insecurity triggered by change, resulting in an increase in the difficulty of correction, and the physical and mental rebound is very violent. When I point out the obstacles caused by their instinctive tendencies to my guests, I sometimes encounter their fierce emotional confrontation, and this is the reason. Each of our original families is imperfect, each has its own problems, each of us grows up in its own unique imperfection, we need to develop a fairly independent spiritual and material situation, we will have the ability to realize and correct the shortcomings brought about by the original family, otherwise life will be "only in this mountain" to live.

Needless to say, this lesson is very arduous and can never be completed in a short period of time, but for parties who are troubled by their parents, or hurt by the wrong energy patterns taught by their parents, these efforts are definitely worth it;

Secondly, we must learn to forgive, parents are just ordinary people, they will also make mistakes, but also have the right to make mistakes, do not expect too much from them, to look at them objectively. We can review our own childhood, but also learn to accept the failures in our own lives (after all, although sometimes the situation does get bad because of the mistakes of our parents, and the choices and responses we make are not necessarily responsible and wise), and gradually sort out the imbalances and inappropriate sources of our energy expression;

Finally, when we are able to clear away the many emotional disorders attached to the "inner parents," we must create for ourselves a pair of ideal inner parents who can guide, protect, and care for us. They will be the development of our inner yin and masculine elements in balance, a harmonious and complementary, symbiotic alliance, so that the inner parents will certainly allow us to gradually have a harmonious and happy intimate relationship.

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