Near the age of 50, I suddenly found that there are too many feelings and relationships, but they are actually worthless

01

There is a saying on the Internet: "Indifference is a cruelty to beautiful things, but for unfortunate things, it is a kind of kindness." ”

People of different ages will actually have different feelings when they read these words.

Young people think that what is the meaning of being so indifferent? It is better to be enthusiastic, mingle with friends or colleagues around you, but appear to be more gregarious.

Of course, it is also a good choice to be social.

And the elderly people will feel that what interpersonal relationships, what friends and colleagues, are all virtual, only the banknotes are real. Instead of wasting time on relationships, it's better to waste time making money.

In fact, the older a person is, the more indifferent that heart becomes.

Indifference is not a bad thing, but a person's perception and transparency of the previous years. Perhaps, only those who have honed it in time can perceive the chicness and freedom of indifference.

You know, there are too many relationships and feelings in life that are not worth treating with us sincerely. Sincerity should not be entrusted to the white-eyed wolf, and true feelings should not be entrusted to passers-by who have no feelings.

It wasn't until I was fifty years old that I found that there were too many feelings and relationships that were worthless.

02

All feelings will be defeated by reality.

Someone once put forward the idea that when we are in our twenties and thirties, it is the best age to talk about feelings, because our nature is still relatively simple. And forty or fifty years old is the best age to make money, because we have a family and we have children.

The word "feelings" is nothing more than the feeling of certain stimuli by the human senses. Momentary feelings, that exists. And long-term feelings, there are very few.

Take the relationship between husband and wife, do you think that the love in this world is really so innocent?

We have not yet come into contact with love, or are in contact with love, then we naturally feel that love is very sacred, just like angels bring light to the world, making people feel warm.

However, when we have already been exposed to love, I believe that we will change our previous concepts and slowly become "flat" and no longer interested. Because we know that all passions have a day when they calm down.

It's like fireworks, blooming in the night sky, the most brilliant moment, that is, a few seconds or a dozen seconds of time. When this period of time has passed, everything will eventually return to plain.

All feelings cannot compete with the rice, oil and salt of life; all passions cannot compete with the cold as frost of reality.

03

There is no need to be too serious about interacting with people.

There is a saying in life: "As soon as you are serious, you lose." ”

To be too serious about something is to put all your mind into it. Once there is any change in this matter, all our efforts will be wasted.

In the same way, in the matter of social interaction, if we are too serious about some relationships, we always feel that "feelings are as long as gold", I believe that we will be disappointed nine times out of ten.

In the case of our colleagues, is this so-called colleaguely feeling really as sincere as we think?

Someone once said that all colleagues are just a bunch of strangers who make money together, and there is nothing remarkable about it.

In society, making money is people's first priority, what feelings, what relationships, are just dragonflies like appendages. If we take it too seriously, we really "lose".

When you are young, it is not a bad thing to suffer some losses. And when we're older, don't be too naïve. You know, everything, all relationships, just stop, that's it.

04

When people reach middle age, they may wish to be a thin lover.

The feelings between colleagues are very hypocritical; the feelings between relatives are unreliable; the feelings between people are very fragile.

For feelings, there is such an eternal and unchanging truth - keeping distance.

Keep a distance from colleagues, you respect me, I also respect you, both sides in the open to do their duty, no one can offend anyone, that is the performance of "high emotional intelligence".

Keep your distance from relatives, although we are somewhat related by blood, but we are really not familiar. Since this is the case, you let me go, and I let you go, and each of them is fine, each wonderful.

Keep your distance from passers-by, you take your sunshine path, I walk my canoe bridge, anyway, it's all for myself, as long as you have a happy life, it's enough, and why bother with some feelings too much?

In the end, we will all live like "thin lovers". Thin affection for feelings, thin feelings for relationships, no feelings for human nature, the more you live, the more realistic you are, the more you live, the more shrewd you are.

05

Write to the end

Zhu Dunru wrote in "Xijiang Yue": "The world is as short as a spring dream, and human feelings are as thin as autumn clouds." ”

The world is too short, life is too hurried. Humanity is as thin as paper, and human nature is as cold as frost. At the right time, people should do the right thing, and if we waste time on unnecessary things, then our lives will be in vain.

For the word "thin feelings", I think that this is not a bad thing, but the beginning of a person's life. Just think, how can the perception of time be the fantasy of the pavilions?

It is a kind of gratitude to be passionate about those who love us. And for strangers, this is a kind of letting go. I let go of my hands, and please, let go of your hands. That's all.

Wen/Shushan has deer