My husband doesn't give me living expenses every month, but he pays for the family mortgage, car costs, utilities and broadband, children's tuition, and cram schools, and I am only responsible for some daily expenses.
We are about 40 years old, 2 daughters are in the third year of junior high school, 2 sets of small houses in the suburbs of 2 cities, the man's sales work, about 300,000 a year, but unstable, in recent years, only rose up, the woman's company staff, about 120,000 a year.
Our contradiction point: the man is only responsible for making money, other things, such as housework, children's learning and education are all not asked, often play cards until three times in the middle of the night to come back, the same is true on weekdays, and he has communicated countless times without listening.
The three views and living habits of the two of us are also very different. He wasn't considerate or cared about me, no different from a widow. Usually he knew to take the money home and give it to me, and the rest didn't ask.
Long pain is not as good as short pain, I have always wanted to divorce, the man did not say agree or disagree, still do my own thing, after the divorce, the woman's mother's family can not help anything, may have to rely on myself, in addition, I am not in good health, to take medicine for many years.
It is said that divorce is a big thing, especially our 2 children plan to separate, 1 person with 1, afraid that divorce is not good for them, has not made up their minds to leave or not to leave, originally planned to wait for the children to go through the formalities after the examination, there are 6 months.
But not far away, the next few decades feel like a year, every day is suffering. What am I going to do?
The above is a netizen self-statement. Ancient style advice: can not divorce try not to divorce, you are not in good health, income is not dominant, after divorce your life will become a big problem. Here are a few specific points you can consider
First, he did not cheat, and he did not ignore his family, right? Normally, a man's focus will be on making money at work, which he has done well.
Second, you go to work, do housework, take children, I think if you are really tired, you can ask a babysitter or resign, and do housework and with children, generally speaking, women do it, right? It is impossible for both people to do one thing at the same time.
Third, you said that he does not come back until midnight, in fact, men have the problem of sleeping at night, you can tell him, if you do not sleep before 2 o'clock, lock the door. You said you want a divorce, can you guarantee that the next time the man will not have this bad habit? As long as it is not a matter of principle, I don't think there is a need for divorce, I can turn a blind eye.
Adults have three views or ways of doing things have been fixed, it is not easy to change, it is normal for everyone to have different views on a thing, but dead drilling will lead to continuous quarrels between husband and wife. It is difficult to change others, but it is possible to change yourself. The so-called love is to change the other party a little bit, accept the part that you can't accept, and slowly grind into the three views, which is the most practical.
Of course, you really can't stand it, then get a divorce, after all, your life path is still very long, don't wronged yourself.
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