When determining the relationship, we have longed for the beauty of this relationship, and we will think that the mountains have no edges, and the heavens and the earth are together, and we dare to break with the king.
What happens in the future is full of changes, we don't know what feelings will become tomorrow, whether they are happy or lost, we don't know.
Perhaps, in the face of the people we love but do not love ourselves, we are six gods and no master, we are helpless.
We don't know what to do, and we think that if we do something wrong, we will make the other party not love ourselves.
So, we humbly please, we plead over and over again, let the other party tell us what we have done wrong, and then we will say that if we don't love, we won't love.
Or self-doubt, building up a theory again and again, overturning it again and again, but in fact, these are just torturing themselves, and the other party has always been indifferent. What if the man you love doesn't love you anymore? This is the wisest answer I've ever heard.
Calmly accept the facts and don't dwell too much
Su Jing in the TV series "Yanxi Raiders" is a close friend of Empress Fucha Suyin, who often went to Fucha Province at that time, and when she saw Su Yin's younger brother Fucha Fuheng practicing, she was deeply fascinated by his manhood.
She had always thought that Fu Cha Fu Heng liked herself, but in the end she found that it was just her own wishful thinking.
But she couldn't accept this fact, and she wasn't willing, so she kept pestering Fu Cha Fu Heng, making both of them unhappy, and even ordinary friends couldn't do it.
Zheng Zhi wrote in "Raw Swallowing": "Scattering is the norm of life, and we are no exception. It's just that I occasionally think that if I could really do it all over again that day, I should live a little more solemnly. ”
It is true that when a matter is determined, no one will deal with it with the purpose of separation, but the world is unpredictable, and no one can guarantee that their feelings will always be unchanged.
I have also been unwilling, and I have thought that I have been entangled like this, as long as I do not wake up from this dream, we will still be the same as before.
Therefore, we must learn to let go, do not do senseless persistence, if it is really the day of separation, we must look into each other's eyes, and then say goodbye.
Analyze the current situation rationally and not be presumptuous
Things are constantly changing and developing, even if it is love, there is no guarantee that it will always be passionate, no longer love, is a factor it may have.
But in our view, even if you don't love, there must be a reason, rather than a sudden, whim, saying that if you don't love, you don't love.
When we perceive that men do not love themselves, we should be sober and rational and analyze the reasons for this phenomenon.
For example, whether two people have an irreparable gap, such as the concept of consumption, the three views, and so on;
For example, whether men see different ideas, like the new and dislike the old, so they are not willing to continue to walk with themselves;
For example, whether two people are not suitable, continuing to insist is torture, it is better to stop the loss in time and so on.
In short, we must understand what is not loving because of not loving, not in the experience of changes in men's attitudes, do not think about anything, and only put all the faults on themselves.
This way is also unfair to yourself, after all, love is a matter of two people, even if they are separated, it is also the reason for two people.
Never be presumptuous, never consume your emotions and self-confidence because a man who doesn't love himself, that's not worth it.
Adjust your mindset quickly and don't stand still
No matter how beautiful the experience will become the past, no matter how deep the sorrow will fall on yesterday, life is constantly moving, life is constantly moving forward.
Although parting is painful, we cannot let our lives be full of mud and stagnate because of a person who no longer loves us.
People have sorrows and joys, the moon has clouds and sunshine, and it is very normal to gather and disperse, and none of us can avoid it.
Moreover, the main source of all suffering or happiness lies in ourselves, and if we are in a bright spring, we are naturally cheerful; if we are sluggish, we are naturally negative.
We can't change the fact that men don't love themselves anymore, but we can still change our mindset.
What about the person who has lost a loved one?
For us, it is only the loss of a person who does not love themselves, and for the other party, they have lost a person who loves them, so, in comparison, their loss is greater.
Many things, as long as we think from another angle and look at it with a good attitude, we will avoid some unhappy things, and it has always been us who can help us get through the difficulties.
So, don't be sad, don't be sad, the melancholy days will always pass, and happiness will come. As Yi Shu said: "The days are going to pass anyway, it is better to frown and face, it is better to open my eyebrows and smile, the difference between one thought and the difference between clouds and mud, I will not oppose myself." ”