Living in the present moment, no matter how hungry time swallows everything, we must strive to live out the meaning of life while we are still alive.
Spring, autumn, winter and summer, flowers fall and blossom, and everything in the world has a time limit.
Time is the fastest, most ordinary, most precious, and most overlooked thing in the world.
In order to pursue fame and fortune, some people ignore the preciousness of time and the meaning of life, and do not regret it until the end of life, but it will be too late.
Let go of greed and ambition, learn to be content, and maybe we will live happier.
There is a female doctor from Fudan who has worked hard all her life to pursue her ambitions, but in exchange for cancer, she has come to understand the meaning of life at the end of her life and see through two things in life.
Fulfill your dreams
In 1978, Yu Juan was born in an ordinary family in Jining, Shandong Province, as the only child in the family, her parents loved her very much from an early age, and her life was also worry-free.
Yu Juan has been smart and studious since she was a child, and her academic performance has always been among the best, and she was admitted to the industrial foreign trade major of Shanghai Jiao Tong University with excellent results in the college entrance examination.
But being admitted to Fudan has always been Yu Juan's dream, and in order to dream, Yu Juan still studied hard during college.
In college, Yu Juan met a boy Zhao Binyuan, Zhao Binyuan's vitality and boyishness fascinated Yu Juan, Zhao Binyuan was 6 years older than Yu Juan, and he was very good in all aspects.
Through a period of time together, the two gradually increased their good feelings, and finally established a romantic relationship.
When she graduated from university, Yu Juan participated in the first examination and failed.
Later, Yu Juan entered a software company to work, planning to prepare for graduate school while working.
After graduating, Zhao Binyuan chose to stay in Shanghai Jiao Tong University to teach, and in the face of Juan's World War II examination, he chose to support, and he did not want Yu Juan to leave regrets.
In 2000, the two registered for marriage, and in order to have a home in Shanghai, the two took out a loan to buy a house.
In July 2001, Yu Juan passed World War II and was successfully admitted to the School of Sociology of Fudan University. In order to study for master's and doctoral degrees, Yu Juan is very busy every day, looking for topics, writing articles, and participating in various club activities.
In 2004, the school gave Yu Juan an opportunity to study at the University of Oslo in Norway, she did not want to miss this rare opportunity, and went home to discuss with Zhao Binyuan, Zhao Binyuan knew that Yu Juan would not give up this opportunity, and once again supported Yu Juan to study abroad.
Unfortunately sick
After graduating with a doctorate in Fudan, Yu Juan stayed on as a teacher.
In 2008, Yu Juan gave birth to a son by caesarean section, and in order to be able to better devote herself to teaching tasks, Yu Juan weaned the child before she was one year old, and she wanted to become an associate professor within two years.
In the face of Juan's "dissatisfaction", God seems to have to make a joke with her.
In September 2009, Yu Juan felt that her waist was often painful, and she could not find the cause when she went to the hospital, and the doctor only advised her to pay attention to rest.
At the end of December, Yu Juan's waist pain Yu Juan transferred to full of pain, really unbearable she went to the hospital in the company of Zhao Binyuan to check, as soon as she went to the hospital, Yu Juan directly entered the emergency room, lying inside for three days and two nights.
But strangely, the cause could not be found this time, and the experts held a meeting to discuss Yu Juan's condition, and also invited professors from various departments in the hospital.
On January 2, 2010, doctors finally diagnosed the cancer, and the cancer had spread to the bone marrow, and the bones had appeared black, leaving them at most more than 2 years.
Zhao Binyuan heard the diagnosis of the hospital and was confused on the spot.
He never thought that Yu Juan would get cancer, and it was already advanced. His mind was blank at the moment, Yu Juan was only 31 years old, and their child was only 2 years old, which made her unable to face it.
Zhao Binyuan knew that he could not hide from Yu Juan, and finally told Yu Juan about the diagnosis of advanced breast cancer, and he wanted to face it with her.
But this time, Yu Juan has lost the opportunity to do surgery and can only rely on chemotherapy and drugs to maintain her life.
With 2 bone marrow punctures and 14 chemotherapy treatments per day, Yu Juan vomited at least dozens of times a day, and even fainted in pain.
At the same time, the high medical expenses also overwhelmed them, 25,000 needles, 21 days to inject; more than 10,000 boxes of imported drugs are only enough to eat a course of treatment.
In order to treat Yu Juan's illness, Zhao Binyuan sold his new house, and his parents in his hometown also sold his old house, and the family could only squeeze into a rental house to live.
Netizen hot comments
The meaning of life is that reality is infinitely possible, infinite possibilities mean reality and eternal life, and the infinity of the subject's time is the premise of infinity, so the present person is the foreshadowing of future generations.
After many netizens saw Yu Juan's story on the Internet, they all sighed and expressed their views on the meaning of life.
Some netizens said:
"The meaning of life is to know and understand the nature of the natural world, recognize yourself, find the best way to survive the choice, to achieve the rational and moderate unity of material and spirit, I tell you a secret, everyone's life is in the knowledge of people to find people, find others easy, but life to know, to find themselves is too difficult, as if looking for the sky, but the sky is actually in their own hearts, everyone's heart, converged into the sea, Providence people's hearts."
Some netizens also said:
"Every time you're overloaded, you'll get an answer later. Take your life slowly, don't rush for answers. Love yourself well, things can never be done, but life is only once. ”
Netizens who lamented life said:
"Reminds me of that patient when my husband was hospitalized!" 32-year-old total paralysis due to falling from a height! In addition to the mouth can move all rely on others to take care of! Alas, life, to seek peace and health is already on the sign. ”
Each of our lives should not be defined, when we are born, we take a script of our own, as for how we should interpret the plot, we need to judge and work hard.
Different scripts have different lives, some scripts are bland, some are warm, some are happy, and some are painful.
But no matter what, we must try to interpret the play as well as possible, and try to enrich the plot as much as possible until the end.
Three unfulfilled "wishes" in this life
In March 2011, Yu Juan listened to a "Yang Shen Doctor" who specialized in cancer because of "urgent illness", and was treated by starvation therapy, which only aggravated the deterioration of her condition.
In the last days, Yu Juan began to record her anti-cancer bits and pieces on the Internet.
On April 2, 2011, Yu Juan celebrated her 32nd birthday, which was also her last birthday, on which she underwent chemotherapy, but the effect was very poor, and even severe lack of oxygen and breathing difficulties.
After 36 hours of rescue, she was finally pulled back from the hands of the god of death, and she wrote on her online account:
"The weather is not very good, the mood is not very bad, the body is not very good, the spirit is not very bad, I wish you a happy birthday!"
It wasn't until the end of her life that Yu Juan understood the meaning of life: how important it is to have a healthy body and spend time with her family.
This cancer forced her to let go of everything in the world, all the hustle and bustle was far away from her, only one mother, wife, daughter for the last attachment and nostalgia for her relatives and homeland.
If she has time, she will definitely accompany her children well, give the money to buy a car to her parents to buy a pair of shoes, not so desperate to buy a house, pursue fame and fortune, and be healthy and happy with the people she loves, and the snail house can also be very warm.
In the early morning of April 19, 2011, Yu Juan still could not escape the clutches of the disease and died with regret.
A month before his death, he was interviewed by Shanghai Television. Yu Juan said her three biggest wishes at present:
"Let the son have a mother, the parents have a daughter, and the lover have a wife."
But at this moment she can no longer fulfill this seemingly simple wish, and we are heartbroken, but we are powerless to change anything.
From the beginning of Recording Her Life on the Online Platform to her final regretful death, Yu Juan recorded a total of nearly 100,000 words of content, all of which were her laments about life, regrets about herself, and warnings to the world, with more than eight million hits.
Yu Juan's former friend Zhang Xuesong, after reading Yu Juan's online platform account, was deeply shocked by the text inside.
He made a decision to organize all the words into a book and publish it, so as to warn the world and make more people wake up.
The book was first published in May 2011.
The book tells the story of Yu Juan's short life, and she hopes that through her own experience, those who have been blinded will wake up and never experience regret again.
Human life is not about the length of time, but about the meaning of life.
Don't squander hard-won time, don't live up to everyone around you who loves you, and don't wait until you lose it before regretting it.
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Today's topic: If it were you, would you choose fame and fortune, or live a life of plain and happy life?