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Late at night, I received a message from S: "I will not participate in any community learning anymore, these are not for me, too tired, and useless." ”
S was met by a community two years ago. At that time, he was positive, altruistic, and his learning ability was also very strong.
Although he has participated in many communities in the past two years, involving time management, voice beautification, pitching, writing and other fields, the results seem to have little effect, but the more he learns, the more anxious he becomes.
In fact, his problem is that he is not confident and does not believe that he can learn in a certain aspect, which also leads to his inability to focus on one field and carry out long-term deep cultivation.
Confidence, focus and consistency are the basic conditions for success.
Self-confidence: Believe in yourself unconditionally
Believing in oneself is the underlying ability of a person, which is the background of our lives. It directly affects the state of our lives. It's easy for an unconfident person to overlook himself.
There is a legend about Socrates, the great philosopher who hoped to find one of the best closed disciples before he died.
The right-hand man who had followed him for many years worked tirelessly, searching around through various channels, and bringing one young man after another, all of which were politely rejected by Socrates.
Seeing that Socrates was about to die, the assistant was so ashamed that he sat down in front of the bed in tears and said, "I am so sorry for you that you were disappointed." ”
As a result, Socrates said, "I am indeed disappointed, but the person you are sorry for is not me, it is yourself." Originally, the best person is you, but you can't believe it, so you ignore and lose yourself. ”
When he finished, he closed his eyes. The loyal and hard-working assistant stayed where he was, shocked, remorseful, and regretful.
Compared with this assistant, a Bridge Architect in France has a firm and incomparable confidence, and it is this confidence that allows him to compose the world-famous romance.
In honor of his deceased wife, the bridge architect wanted to build a one-of-a-kind tower on the banks of the Seine to confess to his lover in heaven.
However, this design has been criticized by countless people. The magnates thought that this shape was simply impossible to achieve and had no aesthetics.
The bridge architect's belief in his design eventually impressed the government of the time, and the tower, which took ten years to build, amazed the world.
The designer's name was Eiffel, and the tower was also named the Eiffel Tower, and perhaps it should have another name: "Tower of Confidence."
If there is a lack of self-confidence, the whole person will shrink unconsciously. In the face of opportunities and challenges, there will be hesitation, entanglement, and self-doubt.
Just like the S mentioned earlier, he has self-doubt while learning, can't see his progress, and when he encounters setbacks, he begins to shrink, so he can only change fields frequently.
When a person has self-confidence and can say "I can" out loud, his mentality is firm, and he is willing to work hard and take the initiative to fight.
It is self-confidence that makes a person stable, firm in heart, able to do more things, and can go further.
Concentration: Focus on doing one thing
There was a question on Zhihu: Which ability can bring people close to success?
There's a highly praised answer that strikes the nail on the head: focus on doing the same thing.
Learning and struggle, such as digging wells and springs, can only continue to grow if we focus on one area.
I've seen a college student tell his story before. He has a wide range of interests and an active mind, and when he first entered university, he participated in many clubs, mountaineering clubs, photography clubs, debate teams, and Spanish clubs.
Throughout the semester, he was very busy every day, spending almost all his spare time on club activities, but when the club changed at the end of the semester, not only did he not promote to minister or deputy minister, but several clubs did not even want to keep him.
The result surprised him. It turned out that it was because he was too busy, and the community always couldn't find him when it needed people. Over time, everyone felt that he could not concentrate on completing the activities of the community, and it was difficult to take on a big responsibility.
In the end, he kept only his favorite Spanish community, immersed himself in it, and gave it his all. By the time of graduation, the student received multiple offers from foreign-funded companies because of his small language advantage.
Whether studying, living, or working, we will face many choices and temptations every day, and if we want everything, we are likely to end up drawing water from a bamboo basket.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to improve yourself and want to become better, but you don't know how to make trade-offs, set too many goals, the focus is easy to blur, and eventually consume a lot of time, but there is no effect.
People's energy is limited, and only the ultimate effort can make people truly grow. Remember, time is fair, so is energy, and where concentration is placed, there will be gains.
Staying power: sustained force, continuous action
Ever heard of lotus law?
The number of lotus flowers in a pond is twice as many as the previous day, and by the 30th day it is all in full bloom, so how many days does it take to open half a pond? 15 days? No, it's 29 days.
This is the strength of perseverance, and only by continuing to act can a person harvest lotus flowers.
The German poet president Le Leyer said: "Only perseverance can make you achieve your goal." ”
The real top masters are all practitioners of staying power.
Hongdan, the author of "Intensive Writing", began to write 400 words a day and silently insisted on it for more than half a year before achieving a little success in the simple book. Then he persisted for another seven years, eventually publishing three books and becoming a best-selling author.
She often said: "My biggest strength is that I am good at persistence, I am a long-termist." ”
Ye Shengtao's grandson, Ye Zhaoyan, is also a writer, and he has been publishing works since 1980, with a total word count of about 4 million words. He said in an interview: "Talent is not important, the most important thing is whether you can survive to 1 million words." ”
He said he was like a long-distance runner, always in the middle of the season, and he was still insisting when many writers in the literary world had stopped writing.
Long-term persistence, with staying power, we will benefit for a lifetime.
Zeng Guofan, a famous minister of the late Qing Dynasty and known as a half-"sage", was not only an adherent of long-termism, but also a beneficiary of long-termism.
He has mediocre qualifications and was very slow to learn things when he was a child, but he is good at persistence, long-term thinking, and continues to grow and improve over time.
He left nearly 1.3 million words of "Diary" for future generations, which is not only a rare giant calligraphy work in ancient China, but also a lifetime of insight and wisdom.
Zeng Guofan said: "If there is Heng, there is nothing that cannot be done." Man is eternal, and he has achieved nothing in his life. ”
Almost all achievements are accumulated day after day, and it is a process from quantitative change to qualitative change. There is a distance between sowing and reaping, called: "Persistence." ”
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We live in the best of times, and these times are full of opportunities. We live in the worst of times, a time of temptations of all kinds.
What we can do is to keep our hearts in this complex era, to be confident, focused, and lasting.
Self-confidence, believing that you can, believing in it. Concentration, focus on an area, no distractions. Staying power, stretching the long dimension, continuous power.
Believing in yourself, sticking to your heart, and persevering are the true meanings of success.