01
In "Dream of the Red Chamber", there is such a sentence: "The organ is too clever to calculate, but it has mistaken Qingqing's life!" ”
Everything is too clear, that is not a good thing. Even an old fox like Wang Xifeng, who had calculated to the bone, was only calculated on his own head in the end, and there was no good result.
Many people think that it is absolutely a good thing to be shrewd, too confused, and there will definitely be no good fruit to eat.
It's just that the smarter people are, the more they will lose at some point in the future. Man, when he should be shrewd, must be shrewd, and when he should be confused, he must be confused, and this is the king of "proper" survival.
In your opinion, what type of people does fate favor?
In this regard, Su Shi said, I only hope that the child is foolish and reckless, and there is no disaster or difficulty to go to the secretary of state.
In Su Shi's view, my child, don't be too smart, simpler, simple, ordinary, then you can. Only in this way can they live in peace and old age.
Just imagine, Su Shi is so talented that he can actually say the expectation of "foolishness and rudeness", is this not the feeling brought to him by the years?
You and I will eventually understand that people who have these encounters are usually not treated by Heaven, and no matter how shrewd they are, they are futile.
02
He who does things with great skill will not be welcomed by God.
To be a person and do things, in the end, is it better to be "tolerant"? Or is it better to "be better than"?
Man cannot always be tolerant, nor can he always be tolerant. Tolerance when it should be tolerated, calculation when it should be calculated, that is what the ancients called the way of "inner saint and outer king".
A person, no matter how capable and capable, if the heart is too narrow, everything is too calculated, there will be no good results.
Yuan Shao during the Three Kingdoms period was refuted by the strategist Tian Feng, and directly sent Tian Feng to prison. What is even more speechless is that he also made the thing of "knowing that there are tigers in the mountains, preferring to go to the tiger mountains" and kill those strategists who tell the truth.
As a result, Yuan Shao was burned by Cao Cao and directly lost the Battle of Guandu. In this regard, he was furious and directly gave Tian Feng in prison to death to avoid others from knowing his troubles.
How can one not fail in doing this? There are many misfortunes that do not occur naturally, but are provoked by oneself. This is what we often call "self-inflicted.".
Therefore, as a person, listen to the opinions of others, and do not compare, otherwise it will harm yourself.
03
Those who are arrogant with a little money are not welcomed by Heaven.
There is an old folk saying: "Thirty years of Hedong, thirty years of Hexi." ”
Thirty years ago, you probably mixed better than I did. Thirty years later, that's not necessarily the case. There's a good chance I mix better than you. This is what we often call "feng shui turns".
Why is there a "strong and weak" conversion? The key reason is that some people choose to be arrogant after they have gained money or have status, and no one pays attention to it.
Just like the eunuch Yu Chao'en during the Tang Dynasty, after gaining the trust of Tang Suzong, he offended people everywhere, and even the great general Guo Ziyi did not pay attention to it. He himself felt that no one could help him.
Often it is such an overly arrogant person, and in the end there will be no good end. The result of this fish is that he was hanged by someone, and then the whole family was linked.
People must not be too arrogant, and they must not offend people everywhere because they have a little money or a little status. You know, out of the mix, after all, you have to pay back. This time of retribution may be today or it may be the future.
04
People without virtue, even if they are rich and powerful, will be empty.
Confucius believed that virtue is not worthy of the position, and there must be seedlings.
Everything a man has should be closely related to his virtues. If his virtue does not carry too much wealth and power, then he can easily suffer the consequences.
Why do we often say that "it is easy to start a business, but it is difficult to keep a business"?
Take Qin Shi Huang and Hu Hai, for example, Qin Shi Huang unified the six kingdoms and covered the three emperors and five emperors, which was a virtue that he had never had before. And Hu Hai was just a gentleman who obeyed the treacherous villain, who had the virtue and ability to guard the great inheritance of the Qin Dynasty?
The first generation with virtue can certainly grasp the business they have created. And the rich second generation without virtue, if they do not work hard and do not improve their abilities, the result can only be "sitting on the mountain and eating the air".
All shrewdness and intrigue and intrigue cannot be worthy of true virtue. Those who have good virtue will naturally have a smooth life. And those who do not have good virtue, even if they are rich and powerful, are just a void.
05
People whose contrarian quotient is too low, no matter how smart, it is difficult to do anything big.
At this stage of education, we only pay attention to IQ and emotional intelligence, always feel that the brain turns fast, will deal with others, which is an essential factor for success. But we forget that inverse quotient is the basis of everything.
What is "inverse quotient"? That is the attitude of a person when he faces difficulties. Whether you choose to hang your head down, or choose to fight and persevere, it all depends on your own choice.
If inverse quotient is the foundation, then emotional intelligence and IQ are superstructures with inverse quotient as stepping stones.
Take some self-made people, they are not necessarily very capable, high IQ, but their contrarian quotient, absolutely unbeatable.
This point, Liu Bang, the ancestor of Han Gaozu, and Liu Bei, the emperor of Han Zhaolie, are good examples. Both of them started after the age of 47, and they have been defeated repeatedly, and they have been defeated and defeated, and finally have some achievements.
Therefore, the favor of heaven should be the tough people with high anti-quotient, not the small flowers in the greenhouse.
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