Smart people are not suspicious of the relationship between people and people, but to see reliable people and manage reliable relationships.
What is the most reliable relationship between people?
Got it together
People interact with each other, short-term look at interest, long-term relationship, to see whether it is in tune.
With people who torture each other, no matter how good the scenery is, there is no heart to appreciate; with people who are comfortable with each other, the road ahead is bumpy and hopeful.
The deeper the friendship, the more you need the inner fit.
If the three views of the two people are incompatible and difficult to reconcile, even if the feelings are deep, they will only become a heavier burden in the opposite direction.
Your goodness should be left to those who really understand you. The sand that can't be gathered with clenched fists will be raised.
Only those with the same frequency, even if they cross mountains and mountains, will eventually get together. If he happens to be around, he must cherish it.
Trust
The Analects have clouds: man has no faith, and he does not know what he can do.
If there is a loss of trust between people, it will be a cold society. What maintains affection and trust is the sincere effort between the two sides.
So-called: If you want to take it first, you must give it first.
Only by putting on a thick and thin and mutually beneficial nature can trust be more stable and stronger, and inspire more possibilities.
Love is like this, and so is friendship.
There was a story in ancient times:
A young man was sentenced to death, and he wanted to see his mother again before he died. So his friend went to jail for him and asked him to go home to see his mother.
Everyone thought he was stupid, and if the young man ran away, then the dead man must be him.
On the day of the execution, when everyone thought that the young man had slipped away, to everyone's surprise, he returned to be tortured.
The matter reached the emperor's ears, and he was touched by the affection between them, and finally pardoned the young man.
People who trust each other are intersected by life, they do not come out of thin air, they are about dedication, they are about character.
Save time, be sincere, and leave it to someone you can trust.
Interact with trustworthy people, you can dare to take every word seriously, every little careful thought, you can tell them.
reliable
The strength of ability, the amount of wealth, the level of intelligence, etc. are not important criteria for measuring whether a person is capable of being surrendered. Whether it is in life or work, it is necessary to communicate with reliable people in order to seek peace of mind.
People who knew Mei Yiqi during the Republic of China all had a unified evaluation of him: reliable.
In the turbulent years, The president of Tsinghua changed frequently, but no one was willing to replace him, because President Mei was there, which meant peace of mind.
Hearing that his friend Zhao Yuanren was going to come to teach, he personally rushed to the train station to pick him up and waited there on time.
Wang Guoweitou lake committed suicide, Mei Yiqi endured grief and carefully arranged his aftermath.
The students participated in political movements, and he was the first to intervene with people so that they could continue to study with peace of mind.
Looking at Mu Ne, he is not ambiguous, there are celebrities and crazy people in the school, who regard him as a friend, even a close friend.
People who can be relied on, standing there makes people steady.
When you are down, he will always help;
When you are framed, he always trusts the one who trusts you;
When you encounter an emergency, he will definitely accompany you to take care of it...
Don't come when you're famous, and you'll never turn away when you're at a low point. Words must be done, deeds must be fruitful, and hearts must be exchanged for hearts, and they will be rewarded.
Reliable people are difficult to meet, and once they are handed over, they are worth it, that is, long-lasting.
Know respect
The literary scholar Thoreau said:
Our lives are too crowded, interfering with each other, and involving each other, so I think there is too little mutual respect between us.
Whether it is friendship or love, you need your own space, and no one wants to be swayed by others.
Truly cultivated people understand that with people, no matter how you don't lose your measure as a person. Only by giving respect to each other can we give ourselves dignity.
The best way to get along is to respect each other, no deception and calculation, only frankness and sincerity.
What does mutual respect mean?
First, keep your due distance and don't interfere with everything;
Second, think differently and be willing to consider each other.
Only by doing both can we respect each other and respect feelings. Of course, it is also the most reassuring and comfortable relationship.