Because of the epidemic, some people who love to be lively are broken. There are also some people who are comfortable and comfortable.
I have seen a couple with completely different personalities, men like to have relatives and friends together, and women like to be silent and quiet. Therefore, in interpersonal communication, two people will have some small friction from time to time.
As the saying goes, "thirty and standing, forty not confused, 50 know the destiny of heaven", in fact, after a person reaches middle age, there is a category of people who will gradually withdraw from various circles. She doesn't want to disturb others, and she doesn't like others to be too close to her.
They usually feel that social things are dispensable. Whether friends are not so important to themselves.
Whether it is a so-called friend or a nominal relative, there is not to be so much intersection between each other.
Because thinking back on the ups and downs along the way, the only one who finally solves the problem and accompanies him to the end is himself.
On the contrary, when you are alone, you are more aware of what you want. Life has become simpler than before, and I have become stronger.
A person's best state is when they are alone. That kind of quiet and comfortable, comfortable, without having to be alone in the emotions of others, is a kind of relaxation in the depths of the soul.
In fact, in this noisy world, many people are busy with small groups, and some people are busy pleasing others. It's that sometimes what you expect is not something you get to please others.
People's hearts are very complicated, and wasting unnecessary time on pouring out their hearts and lungs to others and deliberately pandering to them is more than worth the loss.
When we are alone for a long time, we can perceive its beauty. No need to compare flattery, no need to go against the original intention, live quietly.
As written in "One Hundred Years of Solitude": "All the brilliance that has ever existed in life must be repaid with loneliness in the end, life will eventually be a solo trip, loneliness before is confusion, loneliness is growth after loneliness." ”
When we can experience a person's "free will", we no longer yearn for the hustle and bustle of the past, and we like quiet more and more.
Silence makes us understand that people should do things within their own capabilities, learn to accept their own abilities, and be able to correctly examine themselves.
Maybe we can't shut out all social interactions and walk alone in the crowd. But we can keep ourselves in the hustle and bustle and keep a low profile.
Social or not, is only a relative concept. If you force yourself to be social on the surface for the sake of other people's words, but in fact you are rejecting it in your heart, it is better to be nosy and recharge your strength.
Many people will envy the life of seclusion, but very few can do it. Only after those who have gone through the ups and downs and seen through life can they quietly and wholeheartedly focus on their own things.
Beasts of prey always walk alone, and cattle and sheep flock in groups. Attaching to others to live, like a green vine tree, I don't know when I will be rejected by the tree. And when you are used to being alone, it is also very beautiful to go to see the scenery alone.
If no one can understand you, it is better to be silent. Maybe it's a wordless wound, a pain that needs to be endured, but it's better than being the talk of other people's mouths.
Your own strength, thick and thin, do not need to say it to others. Whether it is setbacks or successes, they are all their own lives.
Many times, loneliness is the norm in life. No one in this world can empathize with you, and the people who remember those old dreams are often just yourself.
Instead of being vain and conspiring with snakes, it is better to leave time to yourself.
Many people are happy to be alone after experiencing human sophistication. It is a kind of poignant helplessness that sees through people's hearts and knows that it is cold and warm.
There is a saying in the "Vegetable Root Tan": "A cold eye in the bustle will save a lot of hard thoughts; if there is a warm heart in the cold place, it will get a lot of real interest." ”
In silence, do what you love, indulge in your own world, don't rush into other people's lives, and don't let others walk around in your world.
The sorrows and joys in this world are not the same, and after a long time, they will do a big cleaning of their mood. Being alone is to have more time to reflect on yourself and win a better self.
One life, one autumn of grass and trees. Come with bare hands and go empty-handed. Away from right and wrong, quiet self-crossing.
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[Wen | Wei Wei'an: the pen has temperature, for the voice of emotion, an atypical writer who loves words, invites you to perceive life together]