Children of ordinary people must first strive to become ordinary people

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In this world,

What is most lacking is not success, but general learning.

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Author: Pick-up

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New Year's Day at home,

Re-read "Lu Xun's Diary".

"Three sunny days. Nothing. ”

"Fifteen sunny days, windy in the afternoon. Nothing. ”

"Twenty-seven days clear, afternoon wind. Nothing. ”

May 29, 1912,

For the first time, Lu Xun's diary appeared in the record of "nothing",

After that,

He has a record of "nothing" one or two times a year.

I didn't understand it before when I saw "nothing",

I think this is really nonsense,

It's okay what else you're recording,

Isn't this a flotation of taking off your pants?

Now people are middle-aged,

Seeing the word "nothing" suddenly understood:

After people enter society as adults,

Especially after getting married and having children,

It's really hard to do "nothing today".

There are one or two days a month when there is "nothing to do",

It's a thing to be thankful for and something to be thankful for.

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The other day I saw a question online:

What should the life of an ordinary person look like?

One netizen replied:

"Born into an ordinary family,

Parents are kind and have no domestic violence.

Successfully completed nine years of compulsory education,

No campus bullying,

After three more years of regular high school,

Finally admitted to a general university.

After smoothly finishing college,

Got a very ordinary job,

Then I met a lover who was as ordinary as me,

And then I had a child who was as ordinary as me.

We both lived ordinary lives from now on,

Although life is occasionally bumpy, there are no major disasters.

Although the body has small sickness from time to time, there is no serious illness.

And so plainly lived to be seventy or eighty years old,

Finally naturally went to another world. ”

When I saw this answer, I thought, "This is obviously the life of a few people, but you call this an ordinary person." ”

But many netizens think differently from me,

They followed the post and said:

"It's so boring to live a lifetime like this."

"I don't want to live my life like this."

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I find that many people are very rejective of "ordinary",

Or don't want to live an "ordinary life."

Writer Liang Xiaosheng was invited to a university to give a lecture,

When communicating with the students, a boy spoke amazingly:

"If I can't get out of the ordinary before I turn 30, or at the latest before I turn 35, then I'll kill myself."

Liang Xiaosheng asked, "Then what is extraordinary?" ”

The boy replied: "Either have a certain social status, or have a considerable amount of money, or have a certain amount of power." ”

Later, when Liang Xiaosheng received a European scholar,

The European asked Liang Xiaosheng, "You Chinese seem to be secretly afraid of something in your hearts, what is it?" ”

Liang Xiaosheng replied, "I am afraid of an ordinary thing." ”

The Europeans asked, "What exactly?" ”

Liang Xiaosheng said: "I am afraid of ordinary life." ”

Europeans were astonished: "It's so incomprehensible, most of us Europeans are willing to be ordinary people and live an ordinary life, why are you so afraid of the ordinary?" ”

We are really afraid of the ordinary,

We are taught from an early age that we must get ahead:

"If you can't get into a good university, you will..."

"If you can't get into the top three, you will..."

"You can only be good enough to be able to..."

"You can only be strong enough to be able to..."

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But no matter how hard we try,

In the end, there is a high probability that you can only be an ordinary person.

"Onigami Sauce" told about one of his own experiences:

When she went to study abroad,

Joined the school's symphony orchestra.

Onigiri sauce especially admires the school's violinists,

"It's so good, it's so good that it makes me jealous."

One day, when the two were chatting together,

Violinist: "After graduation, I went to work as a music teacher in middle school. ”

Onigami asked, "Why don't you join a professional orchestra?" ”

The violinist's eyes immediately turned red:

"I would like to go too, but I'm not good enough."

Onigiri sauce was surprised: "You're not good enough? ”

The violinist sighed and said:

"The orchestra has vacant a violin position this year,

But there are dozens of musicians competing,

They are higher than me at every level. ”

Hearing this sentence, the rice ball sauce was like an electric shock:

"My original dream was also to make music.

But after a conversation with the violinist on this day,

I finally realized,

Many dreams really can't be achieved by hard work alone. ”

95% of the world's people are ordinary people,

4% of people have small success, 1% can achieve large success.

So for the vast majority of people,

Going to the ordinary is our final end.

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We have all studied "Sitting in the Well and Watching the Sky".

A frog sits in a well,

A small bird flew and landed on the edge of the well.

The frog asked, "Where did you come from?" ”

The little bird replied, "I flew in from afar, flew more than a hundred miles, was thirsty, and came down to find some water to drink." ”

The frog said, "Don't talk too much." The sky is not as big as the wellhead, and it is still used to fly so far? ”

The bird said, "The sky is boundless, it's very big!" ”

The frog smiled, "I sit in the well every day, and as soon as I look up, I see the sky, how can I be wrong?" ”

The bird said, "Don't believe me, jump out of the wellhead and take a look." ”

When I read this text as a child,

We all laughed at the frogs for being short-sighted.

But when I grow up,

I especially feel the same way about the interpretation of the writer Wang Jianping:

"Even if this frog knows how big the sky is,

It can't jump out of this well! ”

Wang Jianping once dreamed of changing the world,

But after more than a decade of hard work,

He finally realized that he was just an ordinary person:

"When I returned to the small county town with my luggage,

I understood one thing:

I was the frog who couldn't jump out of the wellhead.

Some people say that when God closes a door for you,

It will definitely open a window for you.

But in the well there are no doors and no windows,

There is only one hole, far high,

You can't reach it no matter how you flapple it. ”

Sitting in the well and watching the sky is actually the life of most of us.

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But the life of an ordinary person who "sits in a well and looks at the sky",

Isn't it completely unworthy?

I don't think so.

Some time ago, Su Jinning made a post:

"I can say that I am 33 years old,

Husband and wife love each other, the baby is about to be born,

There is also a deposit after buying a house.

The husband does both housework and fitness,

1 meter 85 features are decent and well-dressed.

The mother-in-law is very good, like a little angel,

Never interfere with our lives.

My mother-in-law often messaged me saying:

love you my daughter。

I work easily and do what I like,

More money to live less close to home, no need to work overtime.

But I can also say that I am 33 years old,

Marriage is naked,

Buying a small off-plan house is still the big head of my out.

The husband has anxiety disorders and has had a failed marriage.

I don't have a high education and don't earn as much money as I do.

The mother-in-law has bipolar disorder, which is good and bad,

Inherited from her husband's grandmother,

A history of mental illness in the husband's family may also be passed on to the child.

I work into the comfort zone,

Sometimes it is inevitable that there will be some burnout,

The industry is too narrow to choose from..."

After talking about his situation, Su Jinning concluded:

According to the first statement,

I'm a life winner.

And if you post the second statement online,

In a minute, I will be persuaded to leave and let me run. ”

Why did Su Jinning tell these two statements?

She just wants to tell a lot of people:

As an ordinary person,

Although there will be all kinds of unsatisfactory things in life,

But you can still choose between happiness and unhappiness.

Which way you choose to define your life,

It determines your subsequent joys and sorrows.

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Adam Smith, the father of economics, once said:

"The greatest source of suffering and chaos in life,

It often comes from overestimating the difference between one long-term condition and another.

Greed overestimates the difference between rich and poor,

Ambition will overestimate the difference between high officials and commoners,

Vanity overestimates the difference between the well-known and the obscure. ”

Indeed,

The reason why many people live very anxious and unhappy,

It is to overestimate the difference between successful life and ordinary life.

Remember the year before,

I went to a friend's house with the surname Li as a guest,

His family was already a wealthy class.

During the meal, we talked about the happiest thing in life.

I asked Mama Li, "Auntie, what is the happiest thing about you?" ”

The aunt had a twinkle in her eye and said quietly:

"Twenty years ago,

We had to go out every day to set up a stall and sell barbecue.

One night, a customer called and asked his dad:

'Why didn't you come out today to set up a stall?' ’

His father replied:

'I'm sorry, I want to spend my wife's birthday, so I won't go out of the stall.' ’

That night, his dad took me to a movie.

I'm so happy and so happy.

I remember the name of that movie to this day. ”

I asked Dad Li, "Uncle, what about you?" ”

Li Dad's eyes were a little wet at once:

"In November 1999,

I went to the mall with your aunt,

Look at a coat, but look at the price tag.

I think it's expensive, so I don't want to buy it.

On my birthday that year, I opened the closet.

Found that the coat was hanging inside,

It turned out that your aunt secretly went back and bought it for me,

It was the most memorable birthday present of my life. ”

His family is relatively rich,

But the happiest thing in memory is "when I was poor."

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We are taught every day how to be successful,

But few people tell us:

How to be a happy ordinary person.

The other day, saw a big V said:

"Maybe I'm older.

Now I like ordinary and stable life,

Don't catch the tide, don't take any boat,

Having a sea of its own is content.

Do your daily work step by step,

After work and love to go to the supermarket to cook,

Take a walk by the neon-lit river after a meal,

Snuggle up to each other and watch Big Mom dance square dancing...

A plain life like this without big ups and downs,

I think it's already good and good. ”

Indeed,

Life does not have to be rich and famous,

It is also very good to have some small fun and small tastes.

The little restaurant that I want to eat after work,

And the weekend when you can finally rest,

Can stay at home and sleep for a long time,

I can watch a favorite movie with my lover,

Monthly salary and bonus at the end of the year,

As well as every holiday and birthday,

And the coming winter and the first snow,

…………

Such an ordinary life is actually worth living.

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Zhang Chaoyang said a point some time ago:

"If your ability is mediocre,

Ordinary family background, average education,

How to work hard is difficult to complete the class counterattack,

It is better to choose to reconcile with yourself:

Behave in a disciplined manner,

Do not add chaos to the country and society,

Do not burden elderly parents,

Try to let them enjoy their old age in peace,

According to their income,

Eat, drink, play,

Keep a good mindset,

Have a healthy body,

Cultivate hobbies that can entertain themselves,

Work and career are at ease. ”

I think that's a reasonable statement.

Children of ordinary people,

Don't always think about the pursuit of success,

To first try to become an ordinary person,

The life of an ordinary person is also worth living.

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Would you envy your parents' old age today?

I'm envious anyway.

When I was younger,

I always feel that my parents' life is too ordinary and mediocre,

Nowadays, people do not realize until they are middle-aged:

As an ordinary person,

To be able to live so mediocrely and smoothly to the point of ancient rarity,

Being able to live a lifetime without major illness and disaster,

It is already a mid-to-mid life test paper.

Now I feel more and more,

A person grows up in the true sense of adulthood,

It is to accept the assumption that you are an ordinary person.

I don't have any grand dreams.

I can't do a very good thing,

But I'm not upset about it.

So let's not be so exclusive of the ordinary,

It is already very good to be able to do a good job as an ordinary person,

To stink like the writer Xia Miao:

"It's too hot, before going out in the morning,

I choked a popsicle in my mouth.

While waiting for the elevator, a thought flashed in my mind:

I actually lived a life where I could eat ice cream when I woke up.

Oh, my God! How to do it!

What a great thing you guys! ”