All love, at the very beginning, is vigorous, with the romance of the sea oath and mountain alliance, with the belief that the mountains and the sea can be equal and unwavering determination.
At that time, we never thought that one day two people would be separated, and even we firmly believed that each other would always be together.
Two people in love, looking at each other with light in their eyes.
Over time, the original heat will eventually subside.
Whether it is vigorous or the sea is dry and rotten, it will become unremarkable in the end, just like after the waves, the wind and waves on the sea are calm.
At this time, some things will quietly change in the subtle.
Some people will care more about this relationship, and feel that it is not easy for two people to meet each other, so they must know how to cherish it;
Some people will become indifferent, feeling that this relationship has been unable to dig out anything meaningful, and naturally there is no need to insist.
And in a relationship between the sexes, whether a man will love you for the rest of his life depends on "this" - value.
Believe it or not, value is the "cornerstone" of sustaining love
All interpersonal relationships are actually following the principle of value exchange, on this basis, the higher the value of the person, the relationship can be more lasting.
The concubine in the TV series "Ruyi Zhuan" is from the Mongolian Barinbo, which is the army that the Qing Dynasty has always needed to pacify outside the Sai.
Therefore, when Concubine Ying came to Bauhinia City from Balingbud, the emperor gave her enough favor that he never dared to neglect her.
Because the emperor knew what the value of Ying Concubine was, and also knew that losing Ying Concubine would mean what he would lose, he had been carefully caring for Ying Concubine.
Although love is emotional, if you throw away all appearances and look at the essence, you will find that love is also based on reason.
If a woman has no value, then how could she possibly let a man spoil her for the rest of her life?
If a woman has no value as a base, then she is bound to suffer from gain and loss in her feelings.
Socrates once said, "A bird standing on a tree never worries that its branches will break, because they believe not in the branches, but in its own wings."
When a woman has irreplaceable value in herself, they naturally do not worry about whether men will love her for a lifetime.
Because of the particularity of value, men will choose to protect women for life after weighing the pros and cons.
The greatest significance of the relationship between men and women is to jointly improve the grade of life
What is the greatest significance of the relationship between men and women? Is it eating? Is it sleeping?
In fact, the greatest significance of the relationship between men and women has always been to jointly improve the grade of life, which is what we often call equal strength.
Many times, we are all worried, thinking what to do if men don't love themselves, what to do if men are fresh and abandon us.
These thoughts are meaningless, they just consume our own emotional value.
Because even if we panic and don't take any practical action, we will still let the things we worry about happen.
We need to understand that everything in the world that deserves our happiness comes from our own choices, and our choices in the present will determine our future to a certain extent.
There is a saying in the book "Freedom in the Heights": "In a square, crowded with people, you don't know where the direction is, but if you stand a little higher and look farther, you know that the crowds around you are meaningless to you." ”
When we suffer from losses because of a relationship, we may as well try to focus on ourselves.
Follow the footsteps of men, strive to improve themselves, enrich their hearts, and strengthen their capital.
In this way, we will jointly improve the grade of life, and we will no longer suffer from gains and losses.
Mutually beneficial and symbiotic love will always maintain a strong vitality
In the depths of the ocean, corals and clownfish are the best examples of mutually beneficial symbiosis.
Corals are not easy to move, so clownfish are responsible for attracting plankton for coral to eat;
Corals, on the other hand, provide shelter for clownfish to hide from predators.
The two are mutually beneficial and win-win, and we should also follow such a principle when dealing with feelings.
Don't rely on men all the time, don't put all your hopes on men, you know, people who have been relying on others are difficult to be respected.
What we have to do is to increase our value and do more interesting things.
Liu Jialing said, "Born as a woman, don't blindly copy other people's living methods, and believe that other people's words are the truth." You have to think and discover the beauty of life in your own independent world of life. ”
Go to study, travel, exercise, cultivate your heart, improve your way of thinking. In short, when we can provide men with different values, men will rely on us spiritually.