Know yourself that you don't know

On the morning of the second day when the community was controlled due to the epidemic, my girlfriend called for a video call, and I asked her what she was doing when she dressed so delicately early in the morning, and she said she wanted to come and deliver food to me. I told her that after a day of frantic robbery, the community shops had returned to calm and were full of supplies, and I had calmly bought a lot of vegetables like an old lady who was used to rushing to the morning market, and now there was no shortage of anything. I thought my girlfriend would like me, but in fact she said slightly angrily: Can't you say you come, don't know that being needed is also a kind of happiness? I quickly confessed, comforted her on the grounds of low emotional intelligence, and said that I had increased my knowledge.

The ancients said that you must take three provinces and be my body every day. If there is a little gain in life, learning to reflect should be counted as one. Reflection can effectively make up for the lack of wisdom, and can even become a good medicine for inner peace, enhance cognition, enrich life, precipitate experience, and stimulate growth.

The girlfriend said that she actually did not want to give me a notice and killed me directly, but because she could not enter the community, she wanted me to provide a place for a joint, and she did not want me to directly not let me come. I understand her, want to do something after everything is ready, and did not have the kind of small loss that she wished, which may be the reason why we can be sisters for more than twenty years, there are similarities in personality, emotional commonality. But in my days of being closed off from myself for long periods of time, unprecedented loneliness and fear have left the boat of friendship unilaterally stranded. Two days ago, I saw a sentence sent by a friend, "Everyone wants to be cured, and they are all cloaked in hedgehogs", which is empathetic. Eager to be cared for, but when the care arrives, it is turned away, and it resists with an incomparably fragile but seemingly hard heart, causing great psychological pressure on others.

According to zeng Qifeng's book "You Don't Know Yourself", most of the fear actually comes from the imagination of the self. Isn't it a beautiful thing to let a girlfriend send a trip to meet, even if it is across the wall, one person is cared for, and the other is needed? And dissecting my heart, one thinks that it is not necessary to run a long way, and the other feels that there is indeed no shortage of materials. At the same time, there is also a hint of the idea of "don't owe human affection when your body is not free". Just like the first day of the sealing control of grabbing vegetables, being flustered has spawned a lot of fearful imaginations, will the food be cut off? Will the situation be more dire tomorrow? The answer is obviously no, but the lack of rationality in that moment has increased the annoyance.

This reminds me of the inconspicuous little things in life, and many of the troubles are self-inflicted. Sometimes it's raining at school because no one sends an umbrella to rain home. For this reason, I will feel sorry for myself for a long time, and constantly process and amplify those self-blames in my heart, and then I will have fears about some small troubles that life is unknown. In fact, the child did not take this matter seriously, and even felt that the rain was very good, but the state presented by the mother with a bad mentality was several times worse than the result of the rain that could lead to a cold. Also completely forget, when a child encounters a rainy day, go out to tread the fun of a puddle, which child does not like to play with water?

When I was a child, I especially disliked my mother's nagging, and I instinctively resented it when I heard it. The more you nag, the more I don't listen. I used to think that one day I would be a mother, but I must not nag, but in fact there is no progress. Sometimes I have to sigh helplessly: after all, I still live to the look I hate.

Some time ago, during the epidemic in Zibo, I called my mother and told her not to grab vegetables, telling her that the basic livelihood of the people can definitely be guaranteed, and there is no need to worry. The same words were returned to me by my mother after our community was controlled. At that moment, I soberly realized that when things did not happen to me, I saw it very clearly, and when it fell on myself, I kept the temperature of confusion.

Putting aside the fear of the imagination level and seeing the real results of everything in an orderly manner, will you be dumbfounded by the self of the grass and trees?

So, let yourself calm down before making a decision.

A third round of nucleic acid testing was done today. It really responded to the paragraph on the Internet: Teacher, you are from Jinan. How do you know? My throat is cocooned!

Have some fun for yourself.

Just brushed a video: a child in the community stood in front of the window playing a team salute, next to the handwritten big words: "Thank you for the white, Sunshine 100 Primary School Young Pioneers salute." In their own way, innocent children expressed their gratitude to the hard-working whites. Can't help but sigh with the child's father: How is this child educated? The child's father said that maybe it was the idea of an adult, yes, even so, I still feel very good: there is a heart and love, there are ideas at key moments, I know how to talk, and I can express.

At least, positive emotions have a good inheritance in this family.

Can't a child express no love? Definitely not. Many times I can't help but compare my own children with other people's children, completely forgetting the hurt I suffered when my parents made comparisons when they were young. Just like a person, walking and walking, he forgets his original intention. When you are pregnant with life, you just want to be healthy. He presented his health to you, and you felt that he was not brave enough, he was brave, and you let him study hard, strive for advancement, and go to a famous school. Unconsciously, the love for the child has kidnapped the power and skill, and the child is not worthy of love if he is not excellent? Do you love your children or do you love the value of your children? Zeng Qifeng teacher "You Don't Know Yourself" gave the answer: life is alive, it is impossible to be exempt from vulgarity. But in any case, leaving some unconditional feelings of love in your heart is very important to yourself and to the person you love the most. This feeling is more important than storing gold, silver and money, more important than obtaining laurels and status, and in many cases even more important than life, because life is for emotional enjoyment rather than hard labor.

Enlightened.

A control, there is a feeling of becoming a public figure in an instant. Friends expressed their concerns and greetings in their own way, and their hearts were touched. In the busy and intertwined work life, every care seems extravagant.

Needless to say, I will reflect more, often reflect on myself, and constantly break through the limitations of my cognitive self, borrowing, exerting strength and benefiting.