Talking about how women should love themselves from a secular point of view has always been altruism, and its extreme cruelty is rare. This is a cultural power under the pseudo-mask of the unmistakable beak. Talking about the distant future, the four books of women: "Female Commandment", "Internal Training", "Female Analects", and "Female Fan Jielu" became women's feudal textbooks. By the way, these four books are all compiled by the same woman, is this a same-sex cannibalism? From the recent talk, "up to the hall, down to the kitchen; to keep the loneliness, to create brilliance" can highlight the boundless charm of women. Not long ago, the official proposed a plan to solve the problem of "single sticks" in the countryside, suggesting that women who work hard in the cities return to their hometowns and "warm beds" for them; similar to the time, the official study also showed that the decline in fertility rate is mainly due to the substantial increase in women's education level. These 2 examples are presented to show the preference of secular society for men. Obviously, there is a long way to go to transform the culture of inequality between men and women that has been left behind for thousands of years, which is probably like a mirror in the hearts of women. If there is any special controversy, it should be the man's inner work, not the woman's misdeeds.
Although the heart knows it, it does not hinder the woman's attachment psychology, and the deformed aesthetic of "white skinny and young" can be told. At that time, who could "touch the navel with the backhand" can show that there is a good figure, and everyone is enthusiastic, and begins to show the devil's body and show the waist of the water snake; like "young" is a special culture? "Men always love 18-year-old girls" does not shy away, women are anxious about their age, despise their age, and dress more and more childishly. However, we do not know that each age has the unique charm of each age, do not worry about it; "white" is not to mention, "one white to cover three ugly" has become the creed in the heart, a variety of whitening methods are constantly tested, whitening products to buy non-stop, but each different "color" is their own unique. Of course, this can not all blame women, public opinion has guided women to this aspect, social media, fashion magazines and so on are their right-hand men. Therefore, I think that only when a woman really pays attention to herself in her heart and does not feel ashamed of being a woman can she liberate her imprisonment, right? However, this is not to say that it is a mistake for women to commit themselves to becoming better and better. If there is any special controversy, it should be the man's inner sensitivity and inferiority, not the woman's ignorance. The thinker Montaigne once said: Only those who love themselves can be loved. How can a woman truly love herself? There are a few humble views to discuss with everyone.
Accept yourself completely and honestly. The famous movie star Yang Mi once said on a variety show: Extreme frankness is indestructible. But it is very pitiful, and it is extremely contradictory in real life. Many women think that buying some lipstick clothes, shoes and bags, eating some delicious meals, etc., to satisfy their various material desires, is to love their own performance, in fact, these are just consumerism traps under the capital market, the main purpose is to empty your remaining wallet, if you attach some loans, want to cross a layer of class, it is a bit whimsical. And the basic principle of truly loving yourself is to accept yourself completely and honestly. Whether it is failure or success, beauty or ugliness, wealth or poverty, health or illness, joy or sorrow, always be true to yourself and cherish yourself. "No one is perfect, no one is perfect," why bother with others and let others take advantage of the void to suppress you? Everything you experience is a unique badge you have given to the world, and it is also the value you have shown in the tide of the times.
Take good care of yourself. Mickey is the shrewd, sunny and energetic heroine of "The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel", she takes good care of herself, carefully plans her life, everything in the family is well organized, and the neighbors live in harmony. Even if he is ruthlessly abandoned by his husband, he can still regroup and have his own world. Therefore, the women who live seriously will not be too bad. In the daily food, clothing, shelter and transportation, taking care of your body and taking care of your mood is your unshirkable obligation. If a woman slacks herself in life, she does not really love herself in other ways, which is a manifestation of extreme disrespect for herself. A person full of sweet words, full of love, daily life is a chicken flying dog jumping like a mess, you should know that this person's love is unreliable, meet the rocket to run away, if you are still lost and do not return, I can only drive a large forklift forklift to fork you away.
Choose your own life independently. If there is a woman who plans every stage of her life for her, and only needs to study and work and live step by step, like a marionette, it is a waste of time in the world. In recent years, friends around me have successively reached the point of talking about marriage and marriage, some people have been urged to get married by their parents and relatives, married to men who do not like but are still in good condition, chicken feathers after marriage, complain about the various injustices of life, and then suffer endlessly, I hate iron is not steel. Rhetorically, when you choose another life, can't you think independently and choose carefully? You said, you had no choice, I said, you deserve it. When you give the decision-making power in your hands to others, and others choose your destiny for you, the water in your head and the tears that flow later have to be secretly erased by yourself. A woman who truly loves herself begins to choose her own life independently, to take responsibility for her own life, and the future destiny to light or destruction is composed of decisions large and small at the beginning. Your life must not be as weak as an ant, be taken by others at will, become what you want to be, live the life you want, because this is your unique destiny, whether good or bad.
Lifelong learning. Some women stop studying at a certain stage, which is called: no time. But day after day watching Mary Sue idol dramas, entertainment videos, and daydreaming out of reach. However, some middle-aged and elderly women implement the strategic policy of living to learn from old age, go to college for the elderly, and interest classes are not tired. Overall, everything looks calm. But if one day you have a difficult situation, will you have enough wisdom to solve it? People's life is like upgrading and fighting monsters, constantly growing, and constantly breaking through themselves. "The only constant in the world is change itself", the unpredictable rivers and lakes will always encounter wind and waves. True love is to take lifelong learning as a creed, as long as you don't die, there will always be a way.
Have the ability to love others. Lü Kun's "Groaning Words and Addendum": If people do not love themselves, they can do everything; if they love themselves too much, they can do nothing. It has been said that many manifestations of true love for oneself, and having the ability to love others is also a very important one for loving oneself. "Sincerity is enough to resist all evil", man always surrenders to sincerity, which is why he knows that falling in love with others may be destroyed like a moth to a fire, but he flocks to it. Isn't it one of the best things in the world to be discerning and giving your sincere love to the right person? "The mountain flowing water meets the acquaintance, and the clouds chase the moon and learn that they are "beautiful!" Beautiful! I once watched a variety show, which is like this: when you are sad and sad, even if you can't say anything, and you don't want to say anything, there is a person sitting next to you, quietly and gently touching your hand, and you feel at ease. "Knowing the world and not being sophisticated" love yourself is very cool, love others is also very brave, may you have the courage to rush forward, but also have the decisiveness to stop the loss in time.
For the awakening emotions of the woman who truly loves herself, the man believes that this is a bowl of poisonous chicken soup that can no longer be poisoned. Perhaps, they will also involuntarily put on the hat of feminism, they say: three from four virtues, the husband and son is what women should do. And I think that a person who can really be called a man is to really respect women from the heart, love women, cherish women, encourage them to grow themselves, and become what she likes.
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