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"Simple and not a lot, it's good to have you around, and you are blessed in the blessings~"
A few days ago, 43-year-old Chen Qiaoen suddenly edited such a paragraph on Weibo, officially announcing the news that he was married to his rich second-generation boyfriend Ellen.
This big girl, who had been worried that she would end up alone, finally succeeded in marrying herself.
It is said that at the time of registration, Chen Qiaoen also excitedly shouted "I am married!" ", constantly asking the feelings of the people around you, the degree of happiness can be seen.
However, unlike Chen Qiaoen's happiness, netizens' evaluation of this is polarized.
Although the majority of those who sent blessings were the majority, there were also many people who expressed their disapproval of the new couple.
The reason is not him, mainly the black history of the man is still vivid.
I believe many people know that Chen Jon and Allen met and fell in love in the love variety show "Daughters in Love".
Originally, when Allen first appeared, he was still well received.
As a result, when his ins account was exposed, many fans directly shouted to Chen Qiaoen: "Sister, run!" ”
It turned out that in his follow-up accounts, most of them were young and beautiful girls, such as underwear models, girls who liked pole dancing, etc.
And the interaction between Alan and them, the language is also more frivolous and ambiguous.
Not only that, But Allen also set himself up as a single good man in the show, who only likes to play golf with people in their forties and fifties.
But before long, the people who had not yet established themselves were shattered to the ground.
It was discovered that Ellen often taught a young girl to play golf and had gone on dates with each other in different places.
This piece of evidence came down, so that the label of "scumbag" was tightly attached to Alan's body.
Even though Allen later explained that the girls were his friends, netizens still felt that such an explanation was somewhat reluctant. After all, who would talk to a friend like that?
It is also because of this that after Chen Qiaoen announced that he was officially with Allen at the end of the variety show, her fans were angry and angry, and they angrily angered Chen Qiaoen and took off the powder in a large blockbuster.
Even if Chen Qiaoen and Allen have cultivated to a positive result now, there are still many people who are sure that the man will cheat after marriage, especially Chen Qiaoen is 9 years older than the man.
Obviously, the new couple has just started their new marriage, but in the eyes of many people, divorce seems to have become a matter of time.
So, how did Jon Chan respond?
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For a time, Jon Chan was once called "Love Brain".
Because even though the outside world is not optimistic, she has always stood on the side of Allen and openly expressed her trust in the other party.
In the more than two years of love, she is no longer as intoxicated with work as before, and her daily life is also to show affection from time to time, sunbathe the food cooked by her boyfriend, share their trivial daily life, and be no different from other girls in love.
Fans are afraid that she has lost her wife and folded her soldiers, but obviously, she does not care about giving.
Chen Qiaoen actually does not have much confidence in this relationship, after all, no one can say anything about the future, and she also sees the gap between men and women in terms of age, work, and growth environment.
But she always seems to have the confidence not to be afraid of losing.
This confidence not only means that Chen Qiaoen's work has already made her financially independent, but also talks more about her personality, that is, knowing what she wants, not hesitating, and not giving up.
This feature was already vividly reflected in Chen Qiao'en's youth.
I think at the beginning, in order to leave the original family with a depressed atmosphere, Chen Qiaoen resolutely entered the show business circle and started from a passerby.
She has worked as a graphic model, a show supporter, and sometimes had to play the role of "clown" on shows.
During this period, he suffered a lot, and he often starved because he was hidden by the company, but Chen Qiaoen never thought of giving up.
We all know the follow-up story, Chen Qiaoen finally bitterly came to fruition, and hit dramas such as "The Prince Becomes a Frog" and "Destined to Love You" soon sent her to the throne of "Queen of Romance Drama".
Looking at Chen Qiaoen's love, it seems that it is also such a process of accumulating setbacks.
Before meeting Allen, Chen Qiaoen also had many relationships, such as having an affair with Huo Jianhua because of the drama, and being with her boyfriend outside the circle for many years.
Without exception, these relationships all ended in failure.
In the cycle of love breakups again and again, Chen Qiaoen, who once yearned for love, was still lonely at the age of 40.
She once laughed at herself in a show that she would become a lonely old man with money in the future. His face was full of loneliness.
But even so, Chen Qiaoen has never given up his bottom line, that is, feelings must not be settled, and he will not casually solve lifelong events because of his age.
At the same time, Chen Qiaoen did not passively wait, and when he first participated in the love variety show, he clearly stated that he was coming for love and took the initiative to find a fate for himself.
Know what you want, be willing to fight, but never give up the bottom line.
Such a personality is far more dazzling than the identity of a star.
And if you can really do this, you may be an independent woman in the true sense.
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The concept of independent women has always been different from person to person, with different views.
Some people say that independent women have to concentrate on their careers, and some people feel that independent women must give up marriage and enjoy high-quality singleness.
But He believes that the independence of independent women should be more spiritual independence.
Just like Chen Qiaoen, he will pursue marriage, but he will never give up the bottom line, even if others are not optimistic, he is more willing to listen to his heart, even if he is really wrong afterwards, he will not regret it.
Not stuck in living the above-mentioned "correct" but cookie-cutter life, but can make their own choices at will, with their own persistence and bottom line.
People who like to be single will not give up on themselves because of the eyes of the outside world;
Even older women in the eyes of others will still not be forced to compromise and get married;
People who enjoy being a housewife are willing to immerse themselves in their husbands and godsons, but they will also have the courage not to be afraid to leave;
There is actually only one standard for independent women, not to say that they want to do what others think is right, but to be able to be yourself persistently.
Just like the 51-year-old unmarried actress Xuanxuan will say that she plans to do IVF without scruples, and invite Gu Tianle to be the father of the child's physiology.
The post-95 girls work hard for ten years and spend all their savings to have their own house.
Even though, sometimes their behavior will cause criticism from the outside world.
But who cares?
Just be happy!
There are many models of happiness, and everyone's life path should only be in their own hands.
Light up and watch, I sincerely wish that all the girls under the sky can live only for themselves.