The bad boys were forced to go to Liangshan

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Hello everyone, I am a god teacher, recently really a little bit of a spirit to write things, every day I feel that I do not have enough time and energy, sleep late in the morning of the weekend, get up to clean up the house, sit down and open the computer to start working.

It is said that last week, a parent in the class applied to observe the child's learning status at school, and I don't know how much she knows about the child's situation, but I know that she was very shocked after watching my workload for a day, and asked me the question of the soul: What supports your work so much intensity for so many years?

I thought about it, what is it? Haha, could it be poor? Haha, it may also be a simple love.

To be honest, it is still quite interesting to go into the class every morning to greet and chat with the children to start the day's work, this is the collision of life and life, but if you hit too much, you are a little bit knocked unconscious.

1. The child's situation is actually difficult

I like to observe the daily reactions of children, such as a child who is in a daze of homework, I see that he is in a daze for half a day without writing a word, I ask him: Why don't you write? The child looked distressed: I will not!

Look at the child whose homework is piled up, he is also tired, he can't finish his homework, he can't go out to play if he can't finish it, what to do? Escape and play for a while!

In fact, I can also understand them, for example, I had a lot of things to do a while ago, in addition to the regular daily work to do, but also to do the psychological screening of the whole school children and the psychological interview of high-risk students, there are papers and topics and manuscripts on hand, all kinds of urging and retrieving the revision of the information to make the whole person very grumpy, so this time I am in a very grumpy state every day, the attitude towards the child is not good, if there are more things, I may choose to surrender.

Children are the same, when their homework is piled up, they are easy to surrender, after all, unlike us adults, after surrendering, life will be threatened, for them, is not to be approved by teachers and parents, thick-skinned babies are casual. The pain of being criticized by teachers and parents is actually sometimes less than the pain of coping with so much homework, and the temptation to have fun in time is really great, for example, when I can't finish, I will unconsciously touch the phone, although I have forced my mobile phone to set the time to use every day, but sometimes I still can't help it.

2. Human sorrow and joy are not the same

Once a baby with good grades asked me: Teacher, isn't it uncomfortable for them to owe so much homework? If I owe a homework, I will feel like I can't eat.

It is true that children with good grades cannot appreciate the mental thoughts of "poor students", because it is very simple for them to cope with those assignments, but in the world of some children, it is really not like that.

I often wonder, are the children who we feel lack of responsibility really lack responsibility? Aren't some tasks really too difficult for them? Didn't we have some problems with our original setup?

Seeing those children who struggle to complete their homework every day, these children are bored with school after entering junior high school, Internet addiction is actually understandable, he may be climbing a very tired and tired mountain for six years of primary school, he does not have the right to say "no", but in junior high school, he has enough strength to fight against the outside world, he will start to find his own sense of value, he will say "no" to his studies.

In fact, he had wanted to say "no" a long time ago, when he was a child and struggled to learn how to learn pinyin, when he could not memorize the multiplication table when he was a child, when he wrote the text and racked his brains to write something and was scolded by adults, he wanted to say "no", but there was no way, these accumulated emotions, when they were big enough, they all broke out.

Therefore, the problem of adolescence is not necessarily just a problem of adolescence, but in adolescence, there is enough power and dazzled hormones to create a stormy adolescence.

3. Choosing to squat down with a child is a good choice

Recently, I often talk to my own children about these topics, after all, people should also reach puberty in two years, although he is later than the average child of the same age, but this day will come sooner or later, he often asks me: Mom, when I get to junior high school, will I like to study and like to do homework? I really hope that I will enjoy learning in the future.

I asked him: What about you now?

He said: A little disliked.

In fact, his signal to me was obvious: 1. He wanted to get better; 2. He was expecting some kind of power in the darkness to make himself better, because he himself had nothing to do.

He has always been a child who is not very worrying in the eyes of others, such as often defaulting on homework before, because his time management is very problematic, often in the class group by the teacher to the student number, this semester is much better, the class group has disappeared his student number, it is really thankful, but I know that all this is the result of his own efforts, some children can do things without effort, he may not be able to do it, we teachers and parents see the so-called attitude problem, Many times it is actually a shortcoming of a child's ability in some aspect.

So I often summarize with him: recently the homework is finished, very good, how to do it? He will also be told that only by maintaining this way can he make his learning easier and easier.

I also told him that there will not be many people who really like to learn this matter, and the reason why many people are so persistent about learning this matter is because they have goals in mind, such as universities that they want to enter (he recently began to talk to me about the ideal university, and the universities he knows are because of some well-known scholars who watched on TV, such as the three kingdoms of Yi Zhongtianpin recently, I told him that Yi Zhongtian is a professor at Xiamen University, and such a powerful person can only be met in some good schools. So he said that I will enter Xiamen University in the future, haha, obviously he does not know the difficulty of entering Xiamen University), such as having a goal to achieve, achieving a certain ideal in life and so on. Driven by goals, many of the difficult and boring tasks in front of us become less boring and boring.

He may or may not be deeply aware of this, but at the moment I can be sure that he has hope for life, is looking forward to learning, although his ability to resist setbacks is not very strong, but I know that as a parent, as the most trusted person in the world, I need to give him strength and provide him with the strongest support and help.

This semester I began to practice some reading for him, which was not available before, because his reading ability was a little weak, so I said to him, do you think that some reading topics can not be started? Mom wants to help you, but there won't be much, and she will tell you two times a week, and you will remember the method and use it later.

He gladly accepted my help and took notes on his own initiative.

In fact, when we think about some educational methods from the child's point of view, it will be particularly easy to implement, even if you want to add homework to him is not a particularly difficult thing.

Recently, I was communicating with a parent about my child's problems, and the parent spat out a bunch of bitter water with me, such as how to motivate the child is useless, he doesn't care about anything.

So I asked her: Doesn't a child have a good heart at all?

She said no, the child also wants to be good, and she misses her good state at the beginning of the semester.

I said that this is right, the child is good, don't force the child to the end of the road that is not good, and when it is urgent, he will rise up. We worked with him to find a way to help him.

When working with children, I often let myself squat down, with him, think about how to face it better, I often stimulate his endogenous motivation, even if it is very weak, I also try to see, to motivate him.

4. Providing a confident fulcrum can effectively prevent children from getting bad

At the same time, I also want to tell the parents of many children with poor grades that if your child really does not get good grades because of ability problems, in order to prevent bad learning during adolescence, you now have to give him a self-confidence fulcrum, let him get self-efficacy from something, and let him feel that he can build self-confidence by doing this thing. For example, doing handicrafts, such as painting, such as doing some public welfare activities within your ability.

Don't blame, don't criticize, don't deny, that method seems useful for a while, but the child's short-term submission, in the long run, will really force the child to Liangshan.

Haha, forgive me for just watching Water Margin recently, I think many heroes in Water Margin are really desperate to go to Liangshan. In real life, many of our children are really good, they are also desperate, because they really can't find a sense of existence, he will be very desperate, online games are just an exit, don't blindly blame the network, without online games, he will also gamble, to wander, absolutely will not pick up books.

Well, after writing the article, I went to change the paper, if it were not driven by a strong goal, I would not have changed it, really. Haha, tomorrow morning there is my live broadcast, remember to watch.