Sooner or later you will understand: after the age of 30, there are only two kinds of love left for men

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Tagore said: "The eyes are raining for her, but the heart is carrying an umbrella for her, this is love." ”

In fact, to be precise, this should be a woman's love.

Yes, there is also a difference between men and women in love, and the love of men and the love of women are not the same.

A woman's love is "using my three fireworks to exchange for your first life"; it is "one room, two people, three meals and four seasons"; it is the holding hand in front of the flower, it is the kiss under the moon...

In short, the love in a woman's heart is romantic.

And men's love, often divided into two stages, the first stage, occurs in youth, angry horse teenagers, full of spirit, at this time the love is similar to the love in the eyes of women, full of romantic color.

Love in this period is colorful, unlimited, no rules, love is love, like is like, simple.

After men pass the age of thirty, the love in their eyes often becomes more realistic, and often there are only two kinds left in the end: the small woman behind them and the big woman in front of them.

Both of these loves ultimately point to two words: reality.

It is said that women's material and reality, in fact, in the face of love, men's reality is more realistic than women's.

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After the age of 30, the love of a man is to find a small woman who is willing to accompany her.

There is a saying in the Analects of "thirty and standing", which means that people establish their own stable values in life around the age of thirty, and the principle of doing things and behaving.

Today's "thirty and standing" refers more to the fact that after a person has passed the age of thirty, his career has achieved little success.

In real life, men after the age of 30, after the social grind, faded last year's less childishness, most of them have found a career direction, and in a certain field of achievements or small achievements, steady, mature, realistic, is the label on their body.

At this time, their yearning for love is also very realistic. Most men with successful careers have a "little wife dream" and long for a little woman who can be willing to accompany him.

The "smallness" of the "little woman" should not only be young in age, but also have small ambitions.

First of all, the "little woman" in the eyes of men after the age of 30 should be young.

In their view, young women have a greater reproductive advantage. Men after the age of 30, the need for love is more realistic, they pay more attention to the results of love, "having children" is an unavoidable topic.

This is also one of the reasons why there are more and more "old men and young wives" at present.

At that time, 36-year-old Jay Chou married Kunling, who was 14 years younger, and in the same year of marriage, 22-year-old Kunling gave birth to a daughter.

Look at the big director Zhang Yimou, when he talked about love with Chen Ting, a college student who was 31 years younger than him, Chen Ting gave birth to his eldest son at the age of 20, and in the next few years, he gave birth to two in a row, so that Zhang Yimou had a son.

Therefore, in the eyes of many mature men, young women are more likely to be born, will be born, and have eugenics.

First of all, the "little woman" in the eyes of men after the age of 30 should aspire to be small.

Many men after the age of 30 tend to have successful careers, their desire for love, more inclined to find a "virtuous help" type of woman, do not need to have too much ambition, tender as water, husband and son can be.

In addition, Zhang Yimou's second wife, Chen Ting, was born in the dance class at that time, but after marrying Zhang Yimou, who became famous, she was willing to be a small woman behind a successful man, gave up her profession, and devoted herself to husbanding and teaching children.

Successful men after the age of 30 often have the ability to make money to support their families, so they are more inclined to be beautiful and take care of the family of small women, which is their love dream.

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After the age of 30, a man's love is to find a big woman who has the energy to help him move forward.

"Thirty and standing" is just a saying, but in real life, not all men can mature immediately as long as they are over 30 years old.

Every career is successful.

There are also some 30+ men who, for one reason or another, lead to no maturity or success in all aspects, regardless of mind.

In the face of the choice of love, they are often more realistic, and it is very likely that love will be used as a "springboard" to change their destiny.

In their eyes, love has nothing to do with love, and has nothing to do with the five senses and three views. It is important that the woman must have the strength to help him achieve a life leap.

The object of love they target is either strong financial strength, or superior career ability, or has a wide range of high-quality contacts... In short, the conditions in their bodies can always bring benefits to men.

Some people say that this is not just naked eating "soft rice"!

In fact, many 30+ men are not shy about this, and even the Internet has a popular sentence "Auntie, I don't want to work hard!" ”

Although this sentence has been made funny by many people, it has to be said that it is indeed the sincere voice of some men, and even some men really do it.

Remember the "Thai pregnant woman falling off a cliff" incident? The warm husband Yu Xiaodong is such a man.

At that time, he painstakingly pursued warmth, and under the guise of love was an unseemly attempt, nothing more than a warm entrepreneurial ability and favorable economic conditions, and he did not even have a serious job.

In the eyes of these men, love is the best chance for them to change their lives.

Unable to change his life, he had to cling to a woman with energy.

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Therefore, in the hearts of some 30+ men, there may be no love, even if there is love, this love should be "practical".

There's nothing wrong with longing for love to be "practical" or to live too realistically.

As it is said in "Beijing Love Story": "Love without materiality does not exist, because material and love are inseparable and closely linked." ”

But you must know that love often has a "reverse" effect, and what attitude you treat it with, it will eventually return you with what kind of results.

Love can bring a certain sense of happiness, but it is also another kind of trouble.

Some people say that you mix the days, be careful that sooner or later you will let the days get mixed.

In the same way, if you do not treat love religiously, then do not complain that love is unfaithful to you in the future.

At the same time, women should also keep their eyes open when choosing men and not fall into the trap of men's love.

For those men who still have nothing after 30 years old, but have no bottom line to please you, you must be vigilant, and there will be demons when things go wrong.

Know that love can be realistic, but not deceived; love can be sober in the world, but with reverence.