Instead, she constantly spat on her foreign husband Uwe in the interview, which aroused my interest.
In her eyes, Uwe has many shortcomings, does not love cleanliness, does not love to do housework, so why are the two still together?
According to Uwe, "Shen Danping can mention divorce three or four times a week."
The story still has to be told from scratch.
Shen Danping was born in Nanjing, Jiangsu Province, to a photographic studio clerk and a mother to a worker.
The conditions at home were not good, and when my mother was pregnant with Shen Danping, she had not even eaten eggs.
After Shen Danping was born, she was not very good-looking and stupid, and her father was still quite worried about her IQ.
After graduating from high school, Shen Danping was very confused about her future, and her cousin who studied dance gave her direction.
First of all, it was suggested that Shen Danping learn dance and was admitted to the dance troupe, and she could have a salary of 25 yuan per month.
The cousin also suggested that Shen Danping go to Beijing to take the film academy, the registration fee was 50 yuan, or the father gathered money everywhere to get it.
This is 1978, who would have thought that 6 years later, 24-year-old Shen Danping would marry a distant him.
Before getting on the car money, my father instructed: "Don't be stressed, our whole family has not been to Beijing, in case you don't get admitted, you should go to see Beijing for me."
Shen Danping's acceptance letter waited for 2 months before waiting.
My father was particularly happy, she was the first college student in the family, and it was also a big thing to shine on the lintel.
Why did the father, who loved his daughter so much, blow Shen Danping out of the house in the winter of 1984, on the second day of the Chinese New Year?
We'll talk about that later.
In 1978, at the age of 18, Shen Danping began to study acting.
In 1979, as a sophomore, she served as the heroine of the movie "Lily".
In 1980, she played the role of "Wild Girl" in "The Forgotten Corner of Love", which made her a hit.
Her stills were published in popular film magazines, and she didn't know the cover, which was kept by another man.
And this man was her future husband Uwe.
Uwe is German and fluent in French and English. When he came to China, he assisted in the translation of various works.
He brought "The Tea House" abroad and interpreted it more than 50 times, and each role was translated by him alone.
When Wu Wei met Shen Danping, he did not know that she was a "wild sister". After all, the character image is still somewhat different from Shen Danping in reality.
"The Forgotten Corner of Love" Shen Danping played the role of "Wild Sister"
At a party, others introduced Shen Danping to be very famous, and Wu Wei thought to himself, "This person is not beautiful, nor does he like to talk, how can he be a star?"
The waiter saw the gift from Shen Danping, which had a signature on it, and excitedly asked Wu Wei: "Do you still know Shen Danping?" Uwe believed it.
On the next few dates, Uwe fell in love with the girl, who was 14 years younger than himself, who didn't like to talk and always kept her head down.
However, it was really troublesome to have an appointment at that time.
Think about that era, foreigners themselves are rare, and foreigners are even rarer in love.
And falling in love with foreigners will be pointed out by others to some extent.
Shen and Wu went out on a date, not only to wear masks, but also to maintain a distance of several hundred meters.
Going to the art museum for a date, the two pretended to be looking at the painting, but in fact, it was to confirm whether the other party was good or not.
One is that I am afraid of being seen, and the other most important reason is that Chinese and foreign love is not allowed.
Fortunately, the problem was solved in 1984, and two people were able to walk openly down the street.
The two began to be unable to communicate, and Shen Danping relied on painting to express it
In March 1984, Wu Wei proposed to Shen Danping.
The first marriage proposal was ruthlessly rejected by Shen Danping.
Shen Danping is very young and at the peak of her career, she wants to observe Uwei more and talk about it in two years.
Uwe was angry, "I'm not going to wait for you for two years, you go find someone else." ”
After saying that, he left breathlessly.
Shen Danping returned to the dormitory, cried until midnight, and thought to herself, "This time there must be no drama." ”
Her roommate accompanied her, crying tired, and Shen Danping fell asleep.
Early the next morning, in the haze, she heard a rapid knock at the door, and Shen Danping asked, "Who?" ”
The answerer said, "It's me, Uwe."
Shen Danping didn't think too much, but her roommate was moved, "You see how cute this man is."
Uwe saw the things he had bought in the corner of the wall, and he was a little anxious:
"Even if you don't want to be my wife, I still love you, and I can't live without you."
After the two reconciled, Uwe did not give up, and after a few months he proposed again.
"If you don't say yes, I'm leaving." I don't know when to come back or if our relationship will go on. ”
It is said that it is because Uwe's work visa is about to expire and he is facing the question of whether to return to China.
This time, 24-year-old Shen Danping agreed.
In fact, she was a little "pessimistic" after she agreed, and she had some regrets, but the words she said were like spilled water.
Just think, "No, let's leave." This kind of thinking is really not advocated, if you marry the wrong person, you are wasting your own youth.
At this time, Shen Danping agreed, and her family had not yet agreed.
On the second day of the Chinese New Year, the family was celebrating the New Year, but Shen Danping was bombarded by her father and said harshly: "If you want to marry him, you will not come back." ”
This kind of verbal severance of the father-daughter relationship made Shen Danping very sad.
From the timeline point of view, it should be that when two people are in love, the father does not agree.
She can only go to Uwe, and then find a way to make her parents accept her love.
The reason his parents disagreed was not because of Uwe as a person, but because he was a foreigner.
At that time, the custom, marrying a foreigner's woman, and her character were all problematic.
Under such prejudice, how can a father allow his daughter to marry another country?
The marriage procedure was very cumbersome, and two people stamped more than 20 seals. In the last place, the signature and handprint of her parents were asked, which made Shen Danping feel embarrassed.
She decided to write a letter to her family, writing more than 10 pages, saying a lot of heartfelt words, telling her parents, "If this person is not good, I will change him." ”
One day, the person who did the marriage office asked Shen Danping, "We need a small signature from your family, how can we get it on such a big piece of paper?" ”
It turned out that the two parents had written their signatures on a large piece of rice paper, and 2 small red handprints were pressed next to the name.
The people who got married did not understand the story behind it, Shen Danping looked at it, completely understood, and her heart was full of emotion: her parents finally agreed.
In fact, Shen Danping's parents are not cultural people, and Shen Danping can think that there will be no rice paper at home.
It must have been my father who went out to buy it on purpose, bought a brush and clay, and wrote his name neatly, and then my mother wrote it next to it.
In 1984, Wuwei bought Shen Danping a ring for 12 yuan, and Shen Danping also married Wuwei as she wished.
Three months after the birth of their eldest daughter, the two went to live abroad.
Uwe is an invisible "little rich man". Not much cash, but the villa, BMW has everything.
But less than a year later, Shen Danping wanted to hurry back.
One is the space void, he has no job, no friends; the other is what he wants to eat, porridge, steamed bread, etc., which cannot be eaten at all.
Shen Danping thought about going home every day, and when she felt bitter, she pulled out her eyebrows. The very good eyebrows were about to go out, and Uwe hurried to find a way.
He knew that Shen Danping liked to buy watches, so he spent money to help her relieve the bitterness in her heart. Seeing that the watch has a drawer, the wife is still unhappy.
How can this be done?
Shen Danping finally decided to return to China, even if she was divorced.
For the sake of love, Wu Wei did not think much about it, resigned his post, and accompanied Shen Danping back.
The two people lived in the small house assigned by Shen Danping's unit, which can also be regarded as bitterness and pleasure.
However, other problems between husband and wife still exist.
The biggest contradiction between the two people revolves around housework.
Uwe is not very fond of housework, and basically can not do housework very well.
In his heart, the home does not have to be so clean, and he can not eat for three days for love, but Shen Danping believes that only when he is full can he fall in love.
Uwe means not to affect the feelings of two people because of housework.
Shen Danping was very angry, and how many times she said it, Wu Wei did not change.
She threatens to "divorce" and asks Uwe to do the housework.
Over time, Uwe is smarter.
The Civil Affairs Bureau does not go to work on weekends, and when the weekend comes, Shen Danping's trick will not work.
Needless to say, on Monday, Wu Wei took the initiative to clean the dishes, and the housework that should be done well made Shen Danping not want to divorce again.
Over and over again, it is almost becoming a "small game" for two people.
In fact, Wu Wei has changed, and when Shen Danping is busy, he asks: "Is there anything I can help?" ”
In this situation, Shen Danping was a "roll" and blasted him out.
I thought, "What can you do?" Or don't mess with me."
In my opinion, this is Shen Danping's own problem.
If you can't do it once, can you do it badly again and again? Whose men do housework and don't practice it?
If you spoil your husband, you will say that you spoil your husband, don't say that your husband doesn't do it. Is that the case, you say?
After the younger daughter understands things, she is also doing the conciliator for her parents.
The little daughter said, "Okay, Shen Danping, you leave Wuwei, you can find a better one than her." ”
Then he taught his father, "Okay, Uwe, you are so happy, you live in such a good house, you drive such a good car, you have such a good wife and children, you are satisfied." ”
Two people have quarreled for so many years, and love is still like glue.
For this foreign son-in-law, many viewers like it.
Uwe walks on the road and is recognizable, and some people will take the initiative to greet and chat with him.
Even let him help introduce the object, but also want to find him such an inclusive man, how to scold can not leave.
Because men are good at hiding, do not love to express, and cannot see clearly without contact.
Even only by putting them next to women can we see a man's thoughts and qualities.
The old father, who did not agree to be with the two of them at the beginning, would also take Uwe's hand and say with great emotion:
"Uwe, you are so nice, I didn't expect you to be so good to my daughter, I was afraid you would lie to her."
From not being recognized at the beginning, through years of inseparability and tolerance, Wu Wei has always used his own actions to spoil Shen Danping.
Shen Danping did not want to get married, he could not get married, just for companionship.
Seeing that the wife is in a bad mood, it doesn't matter if you spend money to buy things, you can't let your wife's eyebrows disappear.
Shen Danping wants to return to China, he can quit his high-paying job and resolutely return to China.
Between work and wife, the wife is always the first.
And Shen Danping, a girl who once did not talk much and did not have self-confidence, under the encouragement and praise of Wuwei, became expressive and confident.
So listed down, is Shen Danping a little "dissatisfied"?
Is there anything that cannot be resolved with love?
What is the meaning of marriage? It's companionship.
Sometimes it's depressed, sometimes it's upset, sometimes it's irritable, but when someone is around, you'll feel at ease.