At the end of last month, a bride posted online a video of herself being "seriously married" at the wedding scene.
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Under the premise of deliberately communicating in advance not to make too much trouble, the two newlyweds were frantically sprayed with white powder by several young men at the scene, and this group of people shouted while spraying back: "Give you a wedding that will never be forgotten." Even when the newcomers had already walked to the front of the stage, they rushed up again and sprayed the last bit of dry powder in their hands.
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The bride got up in the morning and did 2 or 3 hours of makeup and appearance for a few minutes and was destroyed, the powder covered her mouth and nose, she could not breathe for a while, collapsed and cried after stepping down, and the final toast was not carried out...
This news response is very large, most people have been criticizing this kind of vulgar behavior for a long time, tens of thousands of comments are basically condemning this bottomless behavior, but there are also a few people who have come up with the momentum of "life mentors":
"I can't bear this trouble, can I still bear the unhappiness in life when I get married?"
But anyone who has heard about the "vicious marriage quarrel" knows how the three words of "this little trouble" are so fluttering that people grit their teeth.
In fact, the substantial harm caused by excessive marriage is a hidden shadow for the parties concerned for a lifetime, and some are even the cost of life for direct joy and funeral.
A few years earlier, does anyone remember the #Taian bridesmaid incident in 2013?
The 16-year-old high school girl was invited by her classmates to be her brother's bridesmaid and was forcibly molested by six or seven men at the wedding. On the day of the kissing, several young men took her to the bedroom next to the groom's wedding room and locked the door.
"Then I was pushed down on the bed, and then someone rushed up and touched me, and I kept resisting, and someone pulled my pants."
She struggled to the death, but she could not resist, and her clothes were stripped off.
"Six or seven men were pressing down on me, and I couldn't resist at all."
A girl who is still in high school, who is not deeply involved in the world, was originally well-intentioned to help her classmates, and as a result, she was molested by several foul-smelling men, and that kind of helplessness is a despair that others cannot experience.
After the wedding, everyone went back to their homes as well. Only the life of this 16-year-old girl fell into endless darkness, she could not sleep all night, and twice failed to commit suicide.
In just one month, the girl's father's hair was mostly white, and the mother was worried that the child would do stupid things again, and accompanied her all night.
"I slept with my child at night, afraid that she wouldn't be able to open it, and if she didn't sleep, we wouldn't dare to sleep." Sometimes the child got up in the middle of the night and hugged the quilt to cry, and I cried with her. ”
9 years have passed, and there is no news of girls on the Internet.
I don't know if she has started a normal life, whether she can fall in love normally, and will she still have a wedding when she gets married...
In the online argument about the incident, someone said: "The level of education in small places is limited, and wedding customs are like this, there is no way." ”
However, this is not the case.
It is always the person himself who can restrain his behavior, not the one who throws the pot to the "place" completely.
Remember the #Willow Rock Bridesmaids incident in the entertainment industry?
In March 2016, Bao *Er and Bao *Jing held a wedding in "Bali", after playing hi, the groom led a group of groomsmen (basically first-line male stars in the entertainment industry) to rush to the bridesmaid Liu Yan to throw her into the pool, Liu Yan screamed and struggled, and finally Jia Ling blocked in front of her and tried to dissuade her, and everyone gave up.
The bridesmaids of the day are the light gauze bandeau style prepared by the newcomer, and it is easy to pull and pull, let alone go into the water.
After the video flowed out, public opinion continued to ferment, but the first person to come out to publicly apologize afterwards was Liu Yan, who should be apologized the most:
"I was too nervous at the time, and the whole atmosphere was not more aggrieved and embarrassed, but my reaction was stronger."
And to the back of the wind direction more and more biased, some netizens said burning: "Who makes you have a big chest, you deserve to be teased." Some people even said that Liu Yan was taking the opportunity to hype, and later she had to respond with a poisonous oath in an interview: If I borrow someone else's wedding hype, I will not die!
Since then, she has never been a bridesmaid to anyone.
Because it happened in the entertainment industry, this marriage is well known, but it still did not play any warning role.
The People's Daily has also repeatedly published micro-commentaries to remind the public that if a marriage goes out of the ordinary, there will inevitably be an accident, and it has also repeatedly criticized the excessive marriage and trouble of the vulgar.
However, the tragedies caused by the vicious marriage incident are still emerging one after another.
Let's take a look at how serious the consequences of the marriage are.
A groom in a certain place was stripped of his face and splashed with ink at the wedding scene, and because he could not bear it, he ran wildly on the highway to avoid it, and unfortunately was hit by a car, resulting in a grade 10 disability.
At the scene of the accident, the blood that flowed out was stained black by the ink on his body...
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A bride was poured 3 bottles of white wine, 3 bottles of red wine, and multiple bottles of beer at her wedding, and soon became unconscious, and was not long after being sent to the hospital, and died of ineffective rescue.
The bridegroom was stripped of only a pair of underwear, locked in an iron cage, and paraded through the streets.
The victims who account for the largest proportion of vicious marriages are still bridesmaids, who are not related to both men and women, but only as friends to bless and help, and as a result, they are molested and raped, resulting in disability and even death.
When receiving relatives, someone directly picked up a hammer and violently smashed the door.
The bridesmaids could not dodge, and their faces were collectively scratched by glass shards, and the blood flowed.
A bridesmaid in a certain place was gang-raped by four or five relatives and friends of the man, and afterwards he was humiliated and committed suicide.
Two years ago, a bridesmaid fell to her death under the push of the groomsmen group, and afterwards everyone, including the bride and groom, shirked their responsibilities and left the relationship.
These are not exceptions, the situation of the bridesmaids is that you are molested and disrespected and hurt, but also consider that this is the big day of the newcomer, and you can't be mad on the spot. But what is chilling is that some people watching this kind of wedding video will also say:
"It's very happy to see the bridesmaids smiling, maybe I enjoy it."
"There is really no such marriage trouble, so that you yourself feel bored!"
Without the "vicious marriage", is the wedding really deserted?
Have you ever seen what a "wedding fight" of real laughter and laughter is like?
A few days ago, a couple from Ningde, Fujian Province, held a wedding. Because both of them like traditional culture, and in all The Han weddings, the bride especially likes the Ming wedding, so the two discuss with relatives and friends in advance, and on the wedding day, everyone also votes for the new couple, wearing traditional Chinese costumes - Ming Hanfu appears.
Newcomers, friends, and guests are delighted.
The door-blocking game set by the bride to the groom entering the door to receive relatives is also a "pot throwing" game when the ancient scholar and doctor feasted.
The whole wedding scene was full of laughter and joy.
A real guest and host.
There is also a couple of newcomers from Shanxi and the woman's parents, on the day of returning to the door, together for an interesting "three and a half sentences" performance.
I don't know when it began, when some bad habits and customs were criticized, most of them were attributed to "tradition" and then labeled as "the scum of traditional culture".
But in fact, the Chinese tradition does not carry "these things" with it at the source.
Folk weddings in the pre-Qin period were mostly simple and low-key.
Confucius recorded the scene of marriage at that time in the Book of Rites: "The house of the married woman, three days without stopping the candle, thinking of each other; marrying back to the house, three days without joy, thinking of the heirs." ”
It does not advocate the scene of loud and noisy operation.
During the Song Dynasty, although the form of marriage became more elaborate and rich, it was still a matter of etiquette.
In the TV series "Know It or Not", the kissing link between Minglan and Gu Tingye at the wedding can be compared to the door blocking link of the modern wedding.
However, at that time, it was a poetic embellishment:
The golden car wants to go up to the east wind, and the clouds see the moon drunk and empty.
Alone Xian Zi was shy and half vomited, and the ice porcelain dew was white and slightly red.
Of course, there are also exquisite hours, and "the stars are gradually tilted" describes the ancient marriage held at dusk.
The ancients believed that dusk was the time when day and night alternated, yin and yang coincided, and the combination of homeopathy and life after marriage would be happy and satisfying, so the wedding at that time was called "dusk ceremony".
Source: Stills from "Know It or Not"
Nowadays, the times are different, modern weddings have simplified many of the tedious steps of ancient times, and many details have been adjusted to make it more convenient for the couple and the family.
However, I did not expect that the "vicious marriage quarrel" has become more and more fierce, and now the marriage function has deteriorated.
Some people just want to satisfy their own "selfish desires" under the guise of marriage, and by the way, they frantically step on the bottom line of morality.
Without him, these people are simply bad, and they also try to use "marriage trouble" as an excuse to cover up their evil.
As the People's Daily put it:
In the name of wedding celebrations, the practice of playing hooligans, satisfying the cunning mentality, such a marriage, has been suspected of crime.
It is long overdue and inappropriate clichés to be completely abandoned.
Festivities are never a joke.