There is a saying that "a man has no far-reaching worries, but will have near-term worries." ”
In this complex and unpredictable world, even if we don't worry about what will happen in the present, we must worry about the risks in the future.
There is no "stability" that can be harvested casually, only the final "harvest" that is prepared in advance. People with vision and people without vision certainly live different lives.
Especially for those middle-aged and elderly people who are almost retired, there are many things that must be "solved" in advance, otherwise they will definitely cause trouble.
These ten things must be completed before the age of 60 to pave the way for the rest of your life.
For people
01
No longer soft-hearted, for people to have a degree.
When we are young, we are particularly prone to being soft-hearted, always feeling that if we give favors to others, others will treat us with the same attitude, and finally find out that it is our own mistake.
People live to a certain age, if they can not be soft-hearted, they should not be soft-hearted. If you want to be hard-hearted, you have to be hard-hearted. Perhaps, to be a person has a degree, this is the posture that a person should have.
02
Half shrewd, half confused.
A person, too smart is not good, the so-called "smart but by smart mistakes" is this truth. And too confused? It is also vulnerable. Therefore, we need to choose a "degree" between shrewdness and confusion.
Being human, half shrewd, half confused, that's all right. There is no need to tangle too much, open one eye, close one eye, life may be more brilliant.
03
Calm mentality, for the sake of not arguing.
To be a person, we must take on our own responsibilities well, and we must do our own things well, but we must not fight too much. You know, in the end, everyone loses.
Maintain an indifferent mentality, get everything that belongs to you, get it calmly, lose it indifferently, and no longer demand it. This is the most dashing gesture of being a person.
Handling of affairs
04
Be kind to people, first salute and then soldiers.
People in the jianghu, if we want to mix and be stable, then we must protect ourselves at the first time, and at the same time have a good relationship with others. At this time, it is particularly important to maintain the concept of "first salute and then soldiers".
We treat people politely and then let others know our guidelines. Friends come with good wine, enemies come with shotguns. Don't be evil, don't be a good old man, just be a principled person.
05
Precise socialization, home-based.
Socializing, that's a theme that no one can get rid of. However, who to socialize with, how to socialize, how much affection should be paid? All of this is worth thinking about carefully.
Feelings can't be too flooded, just be precise. At the same time, we must also entrust seven points of true feelings to the relatives who love us. Focus on family, supplemented by other social interactions, to build a wonderful and interesting life.
06
Vajrapani means, bodhisattva heart.
In terms of doing things, we can't have too much hesitation, and we should shoot when it's time to shoot. Especially in the face of some villains who harm us, we cannot tolerate it too much, and we must deal with it with "King Kong means".
The means should be hard, which is the key to protecting us. And the heart? It takes more gentleness. Love yourself, love your family, love heaven and earth, love all sentient beings, this is the big pattern of "broad and love".
Pension
07
Don't be extravagant, take yourself as the mainstay.
At this stage, there are many middle-aged and elderly people, there is only such a concept, people are old, or let their children come to the pension is better. Therefore, dependence has become the norm today.
It's just that being overly dependent on people is still ourselves who are hurt in the end. Therefore, being a person is no longer dependent, independent and autonomous, and living for yourself, in order to usher in your own stable rest of your life.
08
There is money in the hands and grain in the family.
To put it bluntly, the overall environment around the world will not be too good in the next decade. At this time, for the middle-aged and elderly people who are almost retired, they can better protect themselves with money in their hands.
Don't do things that are too risky; don't touch certain seemingly high-yield investments. Ordinary people can only save good money and do their duty. Other things, let the rich and noble people do it.
09
Take care of your body and don't overdraft.
Modern people have a habit of overdrawing their life to make money. Stay up late until the early hours of the morning every day, who knows what is the point of only making hundreds of dollars more? As everyone knows, a trip to the hospital will cost thousands of yuan.
Today, cheap labor is worthless, and health care costs are getting higher and higher. In this way, raising our own bodies, ensuring our own health, and not overdrawing ourselves when there is nothing to do, this will make our old age more happy and less unfortunate.
Summary
10
Do your best and listen to Providence.
Liu Bowen said: "How can I be as good as I want, but I must be worthy of my heart." ”
How can we completely go along with our own wishes when people live for one lifetime? In fact, as long as we are worthy of our conscience, that is enough.
In the matter of being a person, we try our best to do our best, no longer entangled, no longer painful, and completely go with the flow. Such a dashing is the pursuit of secular people.
In the matter of doing things, we must clarify our own positioning, and at the same time do things in combination with our own situation, and we must not do things that exceed our own boundaries. The rest is left to Heaven to arrange.
I like the saying: "Despite your efforts, heaven has its own arrangements anyway." ”
Those who know how to plan for themselves and have a frank heart will not be worse. In this way, doing our best and obeying the destiny is our best attitude towards life.
Wen/Shushan has deer