Deyun "outsider" Guo Qilin staged a life of abandonment, and now puts everything down and starts over

Guo Degang said: "Guo Qilin's childhood can be described as tragic. ”

It's true.

Guo Qilin is indeed the existence of the entire Deyun Society that has been "left aside".

After the birth, the birth mother Hu Zhonghui saw him and thought of Guo Degang, and when he thought of Guo Degang, he was angry, and the more angry he became, the more he felt that this child was his burden.

So he didn't do anything and threw this little doll that couldn't do anything to her husband Guo Degang, who was "not a climate", and left Japan alone.

His father, Guo Degang, was even more "disgusted" with Guo Qilin, after all, the Beijing Cross-Talk Conference had just been established at that time, and he had eaten a meal without eating, let alone taking care of his children.

This "small baggage" was thrown around and thrown into the hands of Tianjin's grandparents.

Before the age of 6, Guo Qilin had no father or mother in his life.

Other people have parent-teacher meetings or after school, it is mom and dad who come to pick him up, but he always picks up grandpa, he likes grandpa, but he doesn't want anyone to see that he only has grandpa.

Every day when he slept alone, Guo Qilin also thought about his parents, but he didn't even have the exact appearance in his mind, and he didn't know where to think of it.

In fact, his "abandoned life" laid the groundwork before he was born.

01

In a certain way, there is a very hot question: how to evaluate Guo Qilin.

Countless netizens appeared to say that some people said that he was humble and courteous, and his attitude towards people was like his "father" Yu Laozi.

Some people say that he does not smoke big M, has no violent tendencies, does not love drag racing, does not mess with girls, and does not hype and insult people who are inferior to himself every day.

The reason for developing such a habit begins with his family conditions.

In 1995, Guo Degang sat in his own courtyard, sighing and pondering.

He went in and out of Beijing twice, and he couldn't even catch a place for himself horizontally and vertically, and finally he could only be trapped in such an acre and a half of land in Tianjin.

Although he suffered hardships, he was still flesh and blood, and he dreamed of blossoming in the Beijing quyi circle.

Unwilling, really unwilling.

It was also this year that his wife Hu Zhonghui had good news in her belly, but the appearance of this child made Guo Degang even more worried.

Now I earned these two dates, it is difficult to feed two mouths, not to mention raising another baby, this is not OK, I have to earn money to go.

The 22-year-old young man cobbled together four thousand yuan from the neighbors of the neighborhood, faced the autumn wind, gritted his teeth and stomped his feet, and stepped on the green-skinned train to Beijing again.

Looking at the receding scenery outside the window and listening to the noisy shouting in his ears, Guo Degang became more determined.

No matter what his future holds, this time he will become a benevolent person if he does not succeed, and he will not give up until he reaches his goal.

For the wife, but also for the children.

According to the information currently released by deyun society, it was also this year that the Beijing Cross-Talk Conference, the predecessor of Deyun Society, was established.

As we all know, after the establishment of the Beijing Cross-Talk Conference, Guo Degang experienced a long period of time of dismissal and persecution.

At the age of forty, Guo Degang made a poem in which he said:

"Several years of floating tourists Yanjing, looking at Sang Zi in the distance. The sea of suffering is difficult to find the shore of mercy, and the poor bury the great hero. ”

At that time, he lived in a small broken house by the Qingta River, because he had no money, his daily staple food was only the same: soy sauce boiled noodles, the side dishes were also very simple, half cut others did not want the green onions.

02

Guo Degang's life is difficult, and the life of Hu Zhonghui in the family can be imagined.

Before getting married, Hu Zhonghui felt that Guo Degang had dreams, was self-motivated, and was a self-motivated potential stock, rather than a poor egg who sat back and enjoyed his success.

But this admiration, in the days of chicken and dog fragments, is consumed completely.

Three times in beijing, Guo Degang took away most of the family's savings, and earned money to supplement the family by himself, although the days were a little tight, there was still some hope.

After becoming pregnant, she lost her job and could only count on Guo Degang.

But her husband saved money and could not even buy a bag of grain, which is not equivalent to marrying a master who eats and drinks for free.

Not to mention that the days are so difficult, Guo Degang has not changed at all.

The children in the belly are getting bigger and bigger, they are getting more and more tired, they spend more and more, and their lives are getting more and more stagnant, falling into a vicious cycle.

The in-laws are very sensible, and also advised Guo Degang to go home and find a job, but he is good at talking about evil, soft and hard, and Guo Degang has a mind rooted in Beijing.

He wants to be famous, to be a horn, to make a lot of money at once, to give his wife and children the best life possible.

Hu Zhonghui married Guo Degang to make life better, not to make life worse, to become worried about money, and to be reluctant to eat even a piece of meat.

It was also from this time that various quarrels began to break out between the husband and wife, each of which ended in a cold war.

03

With this resentment of his mother, Guo Qilin was born.

During the confinement period, Guo Degang also failed to return, and Hu Zhonghui, who was worried about his heart, did not have enough milk, and could only rely on his in-laws to supplement his children to drink milk powder.

When the child is slightly older, Hu Zhonghui can finally work, she fantasizes that life can become better after work, but the reality is as beautiful as imagined.

Eating, working, and raising children took up all of Hu Zhonghui's time.

She wanted to live well, and it seemed difficult.

Poor think about change, must change, either sell the house, or divorce, people in this environment, are selfish, you always have to let yourself live well.

After some choice, Hu Zhonghui chose the latter.

After the divorce, she left Guo Qilin, who was still mumbling, and left japan, which was more than ten years.

This is the first time that Guo Qilin has been rejected, and the reason for this is not difficult for us to understand.

In the year of the divorce, Hu Zhonghui was only a young girl in her early twenties, and she did not want the existence of Guo Qilin to destroy her life.

After Hu Zhonghui left, Guo Qilin's departure became Guo Degang's biggest confusion.

I wanted to take him to Beijing, but I was shy, and I didn't even have rent and food money, let alone take care of a half-sized doll.

To raise the child, he had to give up the Beijing CrossTalk Conference and return to Tianjin.

In front of his career and children, he chose the former, which was the second time guo Qilin was abandoned.

At that time, he was not a young class master of the Deyun Society, nor was he a second generation of stars, he was just a left-behind child whose parents divorced and was left to the care of his grandparents.

Gilbert, a psychology professor at Harvard University, said: "Ten years later, you won't regret doing one less project, but you will regret not spending an extra hour with your child."

Chinese psychology professors have also done a fairly authoritative information synthesis, confirming that most left-behind children are indeed more isolated and vulnerable.

And Guo Qilin is such a person who is inferior and unsociable.

Don't like to talk, don't love to play, don't like to communicate with anyone, the age of the little radish head, like a bitter and vengeful adult.

04

When Guo Qilin was 6 years old, a dark-skinned, dusty man appeared at the door of his home, and Guo Qilin saw it and hid back in fright.

Grandparents yelled at him, "Call Daddy, this is your Dad." ”

Compared with the warmth of his grandparents, Guo Qilin's eyes were full of alienation and fear, and before he could say two words, Guo Qilin broke free of his grandparents' pull and returned to the room alone.

In 2003, it was the first time that Guo Qilin spent more than a week with his father, Guo Degang.

That year, when a large-scale infectious disease was raging in Beijing, Guo Degang returned to Tianjin, took Guo Qilin to hang out in Tianjin City, chatted for a while when he met acquaintances, and then patted the head of his son behind him: "This is my son." ”

At that time, Guo Qilin had a strong sense of pride in his chest, and that afternoon, the father and son ate a meal of hamburgers.

Many years later, Guo Qilin recalled: "My childhood, including now, the sweetest thing is that hamburger. ”

But soon, that sweetness was gone.

This year, his father got married, and his stepmother was a very powerful aunt named Wang Hui.

This news shattered all of Guo Qilin's fantasies and hopes for his father, and he became a "pawn" abandoned in the shadows.

At the age of 7, Guo Qilin experienced the most terrible thing in his life.

During the period of following his grandparents to the fast food restaurant, he watched an uncle in his forties make various unclear moves in front of him, and also verbally teased Guo Qilin, who was only 7 years old.

At that moment, Guo Qilin's brain buzzed, and it went blank.

He didn't know who to talk to, so He sucked the experience into his heart.

More than a decade later, he can still accurately describe every detail, and you can imagine how scared he was back then.

His father's remarriage and the aggression of this middle-aged uncle made Guo Qilin, who was only 7 years old, completely silent.

He refuses to communicate with others, does not like to laugh, and the greatest pleasure is to eat, the cheapest junk food, the unpalatable meals in the eyes of others, he can eat happily.

He tried to fill his stomach, as if that was the only way his heart would not fall empty.

In 2008, Guo Degang caught fire, and in the same year, he returned to Tianjin with Wang Hui.

Guo Qilin, who was originally silent and taciturn, was a little hysterical when he saw Wang Hui, and cried while desperately struggling.

"I'm not going, I'm not going anywhere, I'm going in Tianjin."

Perhaps this set is still relatively easy to use in ordinary families, but it is not enough to see in front of Guo Degang, who is "cold-hearted".

Coupled with Wang Hui's bitter persuasion on the side, Guo Qilin, who longed for warmth more than anyone else, was moved.

05

Coming to Guo Degang's side, is Guo Qilin not the one who is "disliked"?

No, he still doesn't fit in.

On the first day of his home, Guo Degang made him the most important rule: "Use honorifics for yourself." ”

The brothers and brothers came to the house to eat, Guo Qilin brought tea and poured water, his father talked to them, and he stood next to them and listened quietly.

He does not like to eat cabbage, Guo Degang only allows him to eat cabbage, he cried bitterly, and his father on the side was light and light:

"Cry up there, don't affect my appetite for eating." Hit the table and blast him away.

Everyone had chairs, and he could only sit alone on the edge of the stairs to eat what he didn't like to eat.

The division brothers played badminton, and the others dropped Guo Degang and picked it up.

Guo Qilin fell down in the grass, and none of his father, brothers and brothers came to help him.

Because of his good grades in the culture class, Guo Qilin was the first in the grade every time, and he also jumped directly from the fifth grade to the first grade.

If this is an ordinary family, you can get the gongs and drums to make a noise, and the firecrackers are fired in unison to celebrate, and as a result, when Guo Degang comes here, there is only one sentence to flutter: "Then there is nothing to be proud of." ”

Guo Qilin felt sad, because he was frustrated by these trivial things that were disliked.

Also to prove himself, this jumping bully dropped out of school to become a cross-talk actor and put on a coat.

From an objective point of view, Guo Qilin's business ability to become a halfway monk is still good.

Although the singing is not as good as Tao Yang, and the lyrics of Taiping are not as good as Zhang Yunlei, guo Qilin is undoubtedly the best among his peers when it comes to overall strength.

But even so, what awaits him is still all kinds of "insults" that are disgusted to the extreme.

Do a good job of being scolded, do a bad job of being scolded, no matter what, you can't hide from the end of being scolded and questioned.

In the entire Deyun Society, he was the only one who looked like an outsider, and the original sin of all this was the origin of "Guo Degang's son".

You may not imagine that a father and son who have lived for many years, the father has called his son twice, and then Guo Qilin said cross-talk while acting, relying on acting skills to be well received, and what Guo Degang said.

"I haven't seen it, and I won't look at it."

There are too many second-generation pit daddies, some make frequent mistakes, some come with chaotic conditions, and some have no strength to support the wall.

The label of the second generation of other stars is Dongfeng, and Guo Qilin's second generation aura of stars is his biggest resistance.

But such a blatant "dislike" of children is guo Degang's only one.

In fact, Guo Qilin is easier to choose any path than to say crosstalk, why do you say so?

People who like Guo Degang have such a pearl as Lao Guo in front, so they will naturally have more stringent requirements and higher expectations for his children.

People who don't like Guo Degang have a natural malice towards his children, and this malice is enough to make a person with a fragile mentality go down a crooked road, but fortunately Young Master Guo did not.

06

Yue Yunpeng, a well-known cross-talk actor in the Deyun Society, once said such a sentence:

"But if Guo Qilin has a little selfishness, everyone in the Deyun Society will not be angry."

All the division brothers were in front, he poured water on the back end of the tea alone, and if there was delicious food, he had to hold the brothers first, and everyone could eat it before they could eat it.

Who would have thought that such a child who was "abandoned from childhood" would now become the "food and clothing parent" of the entire Deyun Society?

In 2021, Guo Qilin was stationed in various top-notch variety shows and TV series, coinciding with the closure of the Deyun Society because of the epidemic, so many netizens jokingly said: "Guo Qilin is relying on his strength to feed the entire Deyun Society." ”

After the explosion, netizens felt that the communication between Guo Qilin and Guo Degang was getting less and less.

The truth is just the opposite, starting from 2021, Guo Qilin's "abandoned life" has been from the beginning.

Guo Qilin was busy for months without returning home, and Guo Degang thought of his son.

So he dragged the entire film crew and moved the recording venue of "Deyun Dou Laughing Society" to Guo Qilin's crew.

When Guo Qilin cried when he was a child, he was too lazy to take care of it, and now he cares about his son in a different way, and when he sees his child sending a circle of friends, he likes it, and often shares the trivial things in life with his son.

Guo Qilin went out to socialize, Guo Degang jumped at home in a hurry, while anxious while sending a message to his son: "Son, come to the house, you and others have a drink, drink with your father." ”

In 2020, the drama starring Guo Qilin officially began, and the father Guo Degang secretly watched it from his son.

When the curtain came to an end, Guo Degang quietly ran to the stage and patted his son's shoulder, and Guo Qilin was suddenly confused.

This Well-bred Deyun Dashao, who had never liked to be colorful, was like a teenager, wailing and crying.

Yes, not long ago, he just said regretfully: "My father never watched me act, nor did he want to know what I acted." ”

But he never thought that his father would always be strict, he had been paying attention to him in his own way, and he had prepared such a big surprise.

Holding his son's hand, Guo Degang was full of emotions, and for the first time he praised his eldest son who he hated in every way:

"My son is good at acting, and he is much better than me."

This hug, Guo Qilin waited for a full 24 years.

Luckily, he waited.

epilogue

In the letter reading program "See words as faces", Guo Degang wrote such a letter to Guo Qilin:

It is difficult to ascend to heaven, and it is even more difficult to ask for people.

Huang Lian is bitter, and no money is even more bitter.

The rivers and lakes are dangerous, and people's hearts are even more dangerous.

Spring ice is thinner, and human feelings are thinner.

These 28 words bear witness to the father's painstaking heart.

After years of life in the North Drift, Guo Degang knows better than anyone that life is not easy, he is like a parent in the world, doing his best to let his children avoid the setbacks and ups and downs that he has encountered.

Perhaps today, Guo Qilin really understands the taste of it.

In the past two days, Guo Degang's stepmother, the famous Jingyun drum actor Wang Hui rarely took the stage and contributed a very wonderful performance with professional standards on the stage, although he had been away from the music scene for many years, but his good voice was the same as before.

On January 20, a video of Guo Qilin recorded specifically for Wang Hui was broadcast on the show.

In the video, he wears house clothes and takes his younger brother Guo Fenyang to the camera together, lamenting that his mother is not easy while supporting his mother to re-emerge from the jianghu.

A few months ago, he was still Guo Degang's mouth only knew how to return to his own home, and he did not like the "Deyun Outsider" who appeared in Guo Degang's Wang Hui's home.

Nowadays, it is not difficult to see that although he does not talk about it, he has indeed moved back to the old house.

For him, who lacked family affection since childhood, this is a breakthrough from scratch.

I also hope to abandon everything in the past and start over.

You can find the beauty that belongs to your own loss and live as you really want.