preface
Nowadays, with the development of society more and more rapidly, everyone plays a different role in life.
So everyone is wearing a mask of hypocrisy, and it is difficult to guess.
This mask can suppress our inner thoughts and desires, making us weak and hypocritical in front of others.
There is a saying that people cannot be disguised, and the sea is invincible.
So a bad guy can't write his bad on his face, we need to use time to understand.
Therefore, many people observe a person and will judge whether it is easy to annoy through his behavior and verbal character.
Getting along with people is originally a very exquisite science,
A person who is gentle on the surface is not necessarily a soft persimmon, at the mercy of others.
Those who are low-key and introverted are not going to fight back, but they are not as good as less.
So a really bad person, they all have the following three characteristics of the performance, do not provoke.
Interpersonal communication is originally a very big knowledge, especially with different people, pay more attention.
Many people think that this kind of person is not easy to mess with, but after actually getting along for a long time, they find that they are very enthusiastic.
Some people have a very gentle face, but it is difficult to go inside them.
So each of us has everyone's way of doing things, and it is also a protective color to protect ourselves.
Fu Zuoyi once said such a sentence: "It is not good to be afraid of things, do not say hard words, and do not do soft things." ”
So let's be human, don't cause trouble, and don't be afraid of things.
One. It looks honest but hides a sharp edge
Shakespeare once said, "An honest man is a fool, though a piece of good heart." ”
But nowadays, many people think that honesty is not a sign of kindness.
Because in our opinion honest people have a low emotional intelligence, they are diligent and diligent in everything.
Is this really the case? In my opinion, there is a sharp edge behind the honest people, but the city government is relatively deep.
On the surface, they seem to have no quarrel with the world, but these things cannot get into their eyes.
But they are just as ambitious, they just haven't encountered anything they're interested in yet.
So this kind of person is very bad, and once it is shown, it will make us tricky.
Two. Silence rarely speaks to people
There is a kind of person who rarely speaks in life, so everyone defines this kind of person as an introvert.
But Lu Xun said: "If you don't erupt in silence, you will perish in silence." ”
This kind of person is particularly tolerant in life, and when there is pain, it is broken and swallowed into their stomachs.
In fact, this kind of person can hold a boat in the belly of the prime minister, but usually turn a blind eye.
But everything that happens around them is remembered, and they will use their own ways and methods to silently solve.
But when it comes to their interests, they will fight back and impress the people around them.
This is also the real solution and will convince the people around you.
Three. Affinity, good temperament
There will always be people around us and in the workplace who are very pleasant to get along with everyone.
Ask them to do something very willing to help you, and do not worry about it.
But in the minds of such people, patience is also very limited.
Their hearts are like a spring, if we hold it too long, the spring will break and it will explode.
Therefore, we should not easily test the bottom line of others, and we can do things or solve it ourselves.
In this way, they can get the respect of others, so people with affinity also have their own temper.
To erupt is a huge outburst, so don't easily touch the bottom line of others.
Su Cen once said: "At this age, no one wants to please anymore.
Whoever is comfortable with you is with, including friends who are tired and hide away. ”
Therefore, the premise of making others comfortable is to make yourself comfortable, so that people will live more comfortably.
Conclusion
In fact, the world is already dark and turbulent, and there are crises everywhere.
And we live in this world to take care of ourselves, be kind as well.
Don't be afraid when you encounter things, and have your own principles and bottom line.
Therefore, these three kinds of people, we should not easily offend them, otherwise we will not give us any face.
People's lives are not easy in the first place, and the roles they play are also different, some are strong, some are weak.
But the only constant is that the weak are bound to be bullied.
We live in this society, we don't need to have so many worries, think so much, but set limits for ourselves.
If you don't understand how people interact with each other, then we need to improve ourselves a lot.
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References | Journal of personality and social psychology